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To send delivery men home and only pay half

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Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 10:36

We are partially moving house today and the delivery ment arrived at half 8 today ad agreed to do the first load. The idea was they take the first load with my husband while I put the baby down for a nap, meaning by the time they are back for the second load dc will be rested and in a good mood ready for the second load to be done.

All loaded in fine, dh sets off to the new house while delivery men are finishing off last few boxes. They decide they have more space so stomp upstairs (where I am trying to get dc down) and try to unlock the balcony door to get the furniture off there. It is awkward to open and stick so they start calling for me to ask why it won't open.

I unlatch the baby, go out and politely tell them to leave it and to leave the house as I'm trying to get the baby down. She is not great at sleeping when there is lots of noise going on but I had almost got her to sleep when they started stomping upstairs and she was very much woken up by the shouting!

It has just taken me another hour and lots of tears to get her to sleep and they are due back to do the second run.

So WIBU to send them home or am I cutting off my nose to spite my face and its not reasonable for the whole world to revolve around my my babys naps?

OP posts:
Antibaccingalldaylong · 12/07/2020 11:48

I really don’t think that you can expect to be able to stick to babies routine on moving day. Sorry!

MoveOnTheCards · 12/07/2020 11:49

This sounds like the kind of thing my brother and sil would do!

Good luck with the move OP, glad you’re being a bit more realistic about the situation!

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 12/07/2020 11:51

Ok so moving is a nightmare, and with a baby it must be worse but you are being ridiculous

Your plan was totally flawed and you were daft to make it around a routine that must be unimaginably stressful in itself. Which means you've less tolerance for them trying to do their job more efficiently.

If you send them home you will have to pay the whole lot. You've booked them, that's their work.

Original poster
Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 11:53

I managed to get dc to have 20 minutes while the movers did the garage and I made them a cup of coffee. So alls well that ends well!

We have 2 more weeks until we are actually moving, just trying to get a few loads done early. I probably will see if I can get someone to mind dd for final moving day though.

OP posts:
dobbyssoc · 12/07/2020 11:58

We moved house with a 6 month old. I asked for one room in the house to be left till the last min so I could feed and play in there and just rolled with it.
Was it a bit of a pain - yes
Was it a pain later because he hasn't had a nap - yes
Was it the end of the world - no

You've chosen to move house knowing there would be disturbance it's silly to expect baby to have a normal routine

cabbageking · 12/07/2020 12:07

Sorry you are upset but the task is moving items.

Perhaps tomorrow will be a better day.

HannaYeah · 12/07/2020 12:13

Glad it worked out!

If you had written, “Would I be unreasonable to tell the movers to leave because they did not follow our instructions?” I would have voted YANBU. People you are paying should do what the heck they are told to do.

They should have done as told or else told you up front there would be room for more.

It’s just that your reason, being around the baby sleeping, and wanting to tell them to come back then next day instead of following the original plan, seems a bit odd.

bridgetreilly · 12/07/2020 12:16

It's even more idiotic to expect to be able to put a baby down for a nap, without disturbance, in the middle of a move.

This. If you actually want to move house, you have to let the movers do their job.

GoodDogBellaBoo · 12/07/2020 12:18

That’s insane..

2155User · 12/07/2020 12:19

I'm guessing this is your first baby.

YABU

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 12/07/2020 12:19

It's one day fgs, don't be so precious. The workmen can't revolve their whole day around your babies naps!

Dieu · 12/07/2020 12:19

You're being precious and extremely unreasonable.
Who has time for this on their moving day anyway?! Confused

NewModelArmyMayhem18 · 12/07/2020 12:20

Clearly, this is a PFB? You can't let the baby dictate everything, particularly when you need to move! Wait till you've got more than one DC and the other one wakes the baby up with tantrums or just because they can!

itisntfriday1223555 · 12/07/2020 12:21

Invest in a white noise machine OP, put it on when baby is ready to nap / sleep. This will block out all the noise. DS was a sensitive sleeper, white noise was a dream. DD sleeps with any noise around her (except at nursery 😂😂🤣) as she’s no hope otherwise with older siblings around.
She has had white noise which helps hugely.

Both are flexible with naps and have to be, as thats life!

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 12/07/2020 12:22

Everything would have been fine and worked perfectly if they hadn't come upstairs and shouted for me.

So why did your dh allow them to come up the stairs and knock on the door?

TimeWastingButFun · 12/07/2020 12:22

I'd just let them get on with it the way that works best for them and pay them of course. It's moving day, it's meant to be disruptive! Can you not go to a friend or family and stay there if you're not actively involved in the moving?

OverTheRainbow88 · 12/07/2020 12:24

Get baby in a sling/ pram and go for a walk baby may sleep!!

rottiemum88 · 12/07/2020 12:26

@LemonLapin

It's even more idiotic to expect to be able to put a baby down for a nap, without disturbance, in the middle of a move.
This
Chewbecca · 12/07/2020 12:26

Glad you have seen sense OP.

IMO for the sake of sanity and life enjoyment, it's important to get babies to fit into your life, not totally adjust your life for the baby.

TheHandStandBand · 12/07/2020 12:26

So WIBU to send them home or am I cutting off my nose to spite my face and its not reasonable for the whole world to revolve around my my babys naps?

Oh jeez. Get a grip! You're moving house...it will be noisy!! Baby routines do need to take a day off sometimes you know

TazSyd · 12/07/2020 12:27

I’m already feeling sorry fir your new neighbours, are you going to give them a nap timetable and expect them to be silent at whatever time your baby is sleeping? The world doesn’t revolve around your baby.

OverTheRainbow88 · 12/07/2020 12:28

Ps I wouldn’t waste tears over a nap!!

willloman · 12/07/2020 12:29

Yeah, rod for your back trying to stop the world to get children to sleep. I think they actually like a bit of noise around.

StoneFacedCrone · 12/07/2020 12:30

Deepest sympathy, OP. Moving AND a cranky baby with a disturbed nap on top of that are big stressors.

However, you need to get the job done. Sorry, but it really is a matter of gritting your teeth and going with what needs to be done. Every finger and toe crossed for you that you get all your stuff into your new home with no more hiccups. That your bed and bedding are easily found and put together and food and drink supplies are to hand. Then sleep - baby allowing - as long as possible.

BarbedBloom · 12/07/2020 12:30

You are being absolutely ridiculous. I synpathise that the baby is difficult of course, it must be really hard. But they are trying to do their job