To send delivery men home and only pay half

[Rosebyanothername19]

We are partially moving house today and the delivery ment arrived at half 8 today ad agreed to do the first load. The idea was they take the first load with my husband while I put the baby down for a nap, meaning by the time they are back for the second load dc will be rested and in a good mood ready for the second load to be done.

All loaded in fine, dh sets off to the new house while delivery men are finishing off last few boxes. They decide they have more space so stomp upstairs (where I am trying to get dc down) and try to unlock the balcony door to get the furniture off there. It is awkward to open and stick so they start calling for me to ask why it won't open.

I unlatch the baby, go out and politely tell them to leave it and to leave the house as I'm trying to get the baby down. She is not great at sleeping when there is lots of noise going on but I had almost got her to sleep when they started stomping upstairs and she was very much woken up by the shouting!

It has just taken me another hour and lots of tears to get her to sleep and they are due back to do the second run.

So WIBU to send them home or am I cutting off my nose to spite my face and its not reasonable for the whole world to revolve around my my babys naps?

I think these comments are quite mean. OP is obviously very stressed and needs a bit of support not to be ridiculed.
I’m sure OP will look back in a few months time and agree with a lot of what was said but at this moment in time this is how she feels, and that is valid!

I feel for you as I also have a baby who is hard to get to sleep, and I am quite particular and a bit rigid about his naps! I would also be really pissed off with the movers because you had specifically asked them and agree it’s stupid of them to bother you if you’ve said you’re putting the baby down.. but as PP’s have said, they’re doing their job and it would be silly to send them off.
Hope the move goes well!

I think half of you are missing the point the delivery men - who op has EMPLOYED - was given an explicit instruction, which he arrogantly ignored. As the EMPLOYER, the op makes the rules and expectations. I'd be pissed off at them, but glad you tried to make the most of it to get the job done. Good luck with the rest of the move.

I think a lot of people have missed the point that it is not a full house move, just a couple of van loads.

Not a tiny van or a huge house (4 bed) but think man with a van type thing. So in the middle. Plus 2 garages of crap we have accumulated and outdoor furnature. We are trying to do it gradually to stop the stressful big move day.

I'm working on getting dc to sleep through noise and she didn't use to sleep at all so things are improving.

A lot of people have been a bit harsh. Im not entitled, or a princess and said at the outset I thought i probably was BU. I would just have thought that they should have more common sense. I was very annoyed that they didn't follow instructions but clearly I need to continue to work on sleep and not take it out on others.

We are all done for today though and no long term damage done!

YABU, but I was just the same when mine were small.

Its only a couple of days, you'll just have to accept that they won't be much fun.

In 6 months time though, you'll have completely forgotten it...

No one has missed the point at all. We just haven’t agreed with you. You wanted to pay them half of what you had agreed and we said that was wrong.

@Nicknacky a lot of people have said that as we were moving house today, what did I expect. But we arent moving house, just a couple of van loads.

It matters not that you are moving today or another day. You hired them for a job and were considering shafting them because of your baby’s nap.

@thenightsky

Also, maybe try getting your baby to nap during the day in a noisy environment and then keep things super quiet at night. It teaches them the difference between night and day, means people don’t have to creep about in the day and may help the sleeping at night.

This ^

We always hoovered around sleeping babies, or had them with me in the kitchen when the washer was spinning or I was banging about cooking. They soon learn to sleep through anything.

That’s what I did too from the first. It was VERY good choice because by fourth baby, there is no way we could have kept three young energetic children silent for a sacred baby nap.

@Nicknacky I wasn't shafting them! Or at least wasn't meaning to. They charge per load. So if they did one load they get paid for 1 load. If they did 2 I'd pay for 2. They are local and we are only moving 15 minutes down the road. Id probably have felt too guilty anyway though so would have paid them in full. I was just annoyed this morning.

IME it’s much less stressful to pay for packers and get it all done in one day. You can basically chill for the day waiting for the keys while they do everything. So that would probably have been better for the baby (for our last move, DC1 was 7 weeks old. We’re moving on Friday with 5 and 2 year old). Never mind!

This is ludicrous... why did you not leave the baby with a friend or relative while you got moved or you take baby out in the car/pram to nap. You cannot honestly expect tradesmen or any form to work around your baby's nap routine.

Fwiw I have a friend who was like this and she was literally imprisoned within her house 2 hours every single afternoon, looking back now she admits it was a tad crazy

I see the value of a Strict nap routine, but maybe not to this extent. My 4 year old still
Has a 1.5 hour every day and all
My friends kids who didn’t have a strict nap routines kids stopped napping at 2-3 years old!! I personally have enjoyed enough 2 years of naps!!

I don't think I've ever read a more entitled post. Sleep deprivation must be hard, but then I'm also assuming you knew how stressful moving house would be before having a baby?!

@Rosebyanothername19 you are ludicrous. One day this will be a very cringey memory for you.

[quote Rosebyanothername19]@Nicknacky a lot of people have said that as we were moving house today, what did I expect. But we arent moving house, just a couple of van loads.[/quote]
You should have put that in the OP.

@AriadnesFilament I did say we were partially moving house. Sorry I should have been clearer.

Imagine someone sending you home halfway through your workday because of something that was nothing to do with your job, then only paying you half. You're living in cloud cuckoo land if you think that's in any way acceptable. You and baby should have been somewhere else if it was that much of a problem

I know how caught up we can get in babies nap times but with the best will in the world you can't expect removal men to revolve around a baby. They willmake noise it is just the nature the beast.

So they try and do extra work and you want to have a pop at them. Jog on op.

Absolutely pathetic

@Gooseygoosey12345 imagine the person paying you telling you explicitly not to do something, you doing it anyway whilst disturbing everyone else and them not getting a bit annoyed... we are all human!

@DownThePlath erm... thanks for your feedback...

Did they not just ask you if they could move a table that was going to be going any way?

You really need to relax if such a small thing has wound you up so so much.

@SkinnyChicky no they did something early that I asked them to leave until later. They were probably trying to be helpful though, so I see your point!