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to want to kill our lodger?

292 replies

PSCMUM · 27/09/2007 21:55

He is a pig. He leaves socks everywhere. He does not do his own washing up. WE have a cleaner who comes once a week, she cleans while we are out, he comes home before we do, and effectively trashes the place. Pots in the sink, washing on the kitchen floor, (yesterday it was on the dining table!), shoes everywhere, wet towels on the bathroom floor, I just found a glass of wine outside his room with MOULD in it. I came home from work today, walked into my bedroom, to find that he had been using the computer in here (totally fine) but had left his coffee cip and half a plate of steak and kidney pie in here!!! (not ok) am so furious. I had to relly talk myself into nt hurling into his bedroom.

He is so nice though, really nice with the children, really plays with them, chats to them, explains things to them. But I might still have to kill him.

Murder on the kitchen floor.

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MeMySonAndI · 03/10/2007 08:22

So... how did it go?

Megglevampire · 03/10/2007 08:39

Well I would do exactly the same as him if I knew I would get away with it.

He is like an utterly spoit child who has no limits.

Squiffy · 03/10/2007 09:00

Tis a problem easily fixed.

Install 4 X hidden cameras in bedroom. Purchase new vibrator for DL, arm him with wads of cash and send him in direction of nearest bar for rich women on the verge of divorces.

Resultant footage can be used to extract monies from said women on pain of sending to their husbands, said money can be used to finance au-pair, au-pair can spend her life chasing round the DL, DL will have to give up bedroom for au-pair but can be accomodated in shiny garage once you have erected suitable sado-masochisitc implements on said garage wall. Instruments can of course be used to both further his sex life, procure additional bribery funds and of course to punish DL for breaching normal house roles. DC's can of course be recruited to run the various resultant businesses, giveng them good early exposure to the cut and thrust of high finance. et voila! you will have solved all your problems and can go watch Nigella Express in peace.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 03/10/2007 09:40

How did you get on ?

sKerryMum · 03/10/2007 10:03

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HairyIrene · 03/10/2007 10:17

he has no basic respect..
for you, your family, your home, your things
get rid
its a no brainer

shreddies · 03/10/2007 10:42

Pleeeease get rid of him. You can't reason with him and I think his behaviour is borderline abusive - going into your bedroom and treating you with such disrespect is a big F**K OFF communication from him. He is toxic. Get him out of your life.

PurlyQueen · 03/10/2007 16:08

Is he still there?

alittleone2 · 03/10/2007 16:57

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KTeePee · 03/10/2007 17:05

This is a joke thread, no?

womblingalong · 03/10/2007 20:29

Come on, need an update, where are you PSCMUM?

PurlyQueen · 03/10/2007 20:43

I will be so gutted if this is an elaborate hoax post

jajas · 03/10/2007 21:30

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GoodGollyMissMolly · 04/10/2007 16:36

Ooooh I've just read this thread, does anyone know what happened??
I'm dying to know the outcome

Freckle · 04/10/2007 16:54

Firstly, PCSMUM doesn't need to give lodger any notice at all, although at least one day or possibly a week would be kind.

Secondly, he is getting away with this behaviour because people have let him for too long worrying that he won't cope if they tell him to bog off. He will cope - probably in someone else's house.

You need to get rid of him and his disgusting habits, his lack of respect for his landlords and their family and his failure to pay the rent.

You say you need him to help pay the mortgage, but, if he doesn't pay the rent and trashes the place, he's actually costing you money, isn't he? I really don't see your logic.

casbie · 04/10/2007 17:02

euuuwww - wnking off in your* room!

sKerryMum · 04/10/2007 20:18

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BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 04/10/2007 22:34

Do you know what KerryMum, you hit the nail on the head.

Say it isn't so. I rather suspect it isn't so at this stage.

jajas · 04/10/2007 22:38

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barnstaple · 04/10/2007 23:14

He hasn't killed her. Last night he whisked her and her dh off for a slap-up meal in the best restaurant in town, sent the kids to their gps for a fortnight, gave pscmum and dh tickets to Mustique for a week's stay in the best, plushest hotel, and is currently cleaning up feverishly, replacing lost/broken items, shopping for ingredients for fantastic home-cooked meal to greet them on their return, and is ordering new computer, expensive toys, replacing sofa and carpets...

I hope

casbie · 05/10/2007 09:23

don't forget : paid the rent!

SSSandy2 · 05/10/2007 09:32

YANBU thought for a moment you had dh staying there ánd the clock is ticking for him too

SSSandy2 · 05/10/2007 09:39

ok had a look at the thread now.

GIVE HIM NOTICE TODAY. Get him out of your house. Just give him notice in writing and tell him (nicely) it hasn't been working out. You have a new lodger coming in on such-and-such a date. Give him enough time to find somewhere, get into no discussions. Just say "Oh well, no hard feelings eh? We just have a different living style and it hasn't worked out".

I think you can wangle it so you part on good terms and he can always drop by for a coffee and a chat with the dc now and again. Get a DIFFERENT lodger.

Honestly he's taking the piss.

themoon66 · 05/10/2007 10:33

Oh God, just read the whole thread. She has posted since Tuesday and we NEED to know...

themoon66 · 05/10/2007 10:33

hasn't posted I mean