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to want to kill our lodger?

292 replies

PSCMUM · 27/09/2007 21:55

He is a pig. He leaves socks everywhere. He does not do his own washing up. WE have a cleaner who comes once a week, she cleans while we are out, he comes home before we do, and effectively trashes the place. Pots in the sink, washing on the kitchen floor, (yesterday it was on the dining table!), shoes everywhere, wet towels on the bathroom floor, I just found a glass of wine outside his room with MOULD in it. I came home from work today, walked into my bedroom, to find that he had been using the computer in here (totally fine) but had left his coffee cip and half a plate of steak and kidney pie in here!!! (not ok) am so furious. I had to relly talk myself into nt hurling into his bedroom.

He is so nice though, really nice with the children, really plays with them, chats to them, explains things to them. But I might still have to kill him.

Murder on the kitchen floor.

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Katisha · 22/10/2007 19:50

Frankly it's you that shouldn't be talking to HIS family - they are all taking the mick, expecting you to run around after this immature and selfish person. FFS - they have all taken you for a great big ride.

Think you should text him actually though. Even without a yes from a new person - you need breathing space! And some cleaning space!

lady007pink · 22/10/2007 21:12

PSCMUM, PLEASE don't chicken out. I wish all of us on this thread could go to your house tomorrow and help you along!

kindersurprise · 23/10/2007 12:19

Fab, glad to hear that you found someone. Now go and chuck him out!

If there is any problems with him, tell him you will send in your international MN task force

Earlybird · 24/10/2007 17:52

Latest news? You must fill us in!

Hekate · 24/10/2007 18:17

What's the latest?

I bet the old soft touch gave him another chance and daren't come back and admit it

PSCMUM · 24/10/2007 19:26

its done! have lovely new person, who is perfect, agreed, signed tenancy agreement etc, and moving in in 4 weeks. have also told current joke person, via email, text and just now over the phone. He was fine, said he shouldn;t ever have moved in in the first place!!!!

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ArmadilloDaMan · 24/10/2007 19:28

Fantastic!!!!

So about the best you could have hoped for.

When's he going?

tigermoth · 24/10/2007 19:39

Brilliant!

And fingers crossed soon-to-be ex lodger pays you at least some of the money he owes before he goes.

Freckle · 24/10/2007 19:42

Great news. Ensure that you get the new person to set up a standing order for the rent. Get a deposit from her in advance and set out your ground rules from the start.

You've had your fingers burned by being nice. You are not this person's friend. You are her landlady. It is a business arrangement so treat it like one.

sKerryMum · 24/10/2007 19:45

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lady007pink · 24/10/2007 22:26

I am so happy for you, PSCMUM! I hope your new lodger will be better - mind you, anything will be an improvement on your last lodger!Well done, and keep us posted.

PurlyQueen · 24/10/2007 22:38

I am all ears ...

lady007pink · 24/10/2007 22:44

I'm keeping you on Watch...

brandnewpumpkin · 24/10/2007 22:58

Great news! Hope lodger moves out without too much hassle. What Freckle said - Groundrules. What you expect from her, and what she should expect from you. Are you having a contract?

jajas · 24/10/2007 23:00

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Flibbertyjibbet · 24/10/2007 23:19

No no no not just 'set out groundrules' - you need a written contract setting out everything that you need them to do to fit in with your family, home, and sleep patterns!
Get it in writing, get it signed. Put a clause in that there will be three strikes and then out.
This won't make you look like a dragon, it will make you look like a sensible landlady, and by setting it all out in advance of newbie moving in, they will know everything thats expected of them and what the results will be if they don't respect you and your home.
Oh and get a deposit IN ADVANCE as well as the first months rent in advance. Then if he should break anything you add it to the contract that x amount has been deducted from deposit to pay for y and get him to sign it.

amytheearwaxbanisher · 24/10/2007 23:35

fairplay pscmum!delighted you finally got it sorted

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 24/10/2007 23:37

amytheearwaxbanisher

Love your name...

amytheearwaxbanisher · 24/10/2007 23:44

would be full of xxxxxxxxxxx,s if not for your advise bree!sorry about all that btw

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 24/10/2007 23:47

No problems, probably my hang up but your now name makes you look more like a MNer.

Six of one, half dozen of another.

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amytheearwaxbanisher · 24/10/2007 23:49

definate shake

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 24/10/2007 23:55

Done.

chipmonkeyPumpkinNorks · 25/10/2007 00:40

That's better, girls, good to see you playing nicely!

amytheearwaxbanisher · 25/10/2007 00:44

we are pals nowits nice to play nice