WIBU to ask neighbour to stop ululating?!

[Confrontayshunme]

My neighbour (terraced houses) who I am really close to since lockdown and having her baby in February makes a strange ululating sound to calm her very colicky, refluxy baby, and I can hear it through the thinnish walls. It is similar to when I used to hoover to calm my colicky newborn. She makes a high pitched "lololololololo" sound whenever he cries to sort of drown him out and calm him. It clearly works as he stops crying.

Only now he is 5 months old, and still waking and crying frequently, only the crying is getting louder and so is the noise she makes. Add to this the fact that it is hot and her baby's room is next to our bedroom with both sets of windows open for coolness.

Now I am all for people calming a crying baby, as that is a terrible sound on its own, but it is getting to the point that we can barely watch tv in the evenings or go to sleep and are frequently woken at all hours by this high pitched screeching.

And to be abundantly clear, she is white and English, as are her partner, parents and grandparents. The sound she makes is exactly like I have heard at an Indian friend's wedding party, but it is clearly not cultural, just a fluke that calms her baby.

AIBU to ask her to figure out a quieter way to calm her baby, at least between 10 and 6 or 7?

I found a youtube video which is exactly the sound for a better idea of the sound.

[KILNAMATRA]

Go round with gripe water to get the conversation started? Wickes do sound proofing boards..

[SquishyBones]

I don’t know why this is so funny but it is 😂

That noise would drive me absolutely murderous. How the hell does that calm a baby?? Do you like Guns N Roses? Stick it on full blast whenever she does it. Alternatively, play the violin ... badly. It would still be less annoying than that stupid noise.

[Barney60]

Jeez... that noise is horrendous, if woken by it, id think a load of cowboys n indians had broken into my house. it would drive me nuts!! record what you can hear, then go round!

[LunaNorth]

Jesus Christ, no wonder her bloke fucked off.

[GabsAlot]

jesus christ no you have to say somwething the kid is prob frightened into submission

[lovemelongtime]

Am actually laughing out loud day in the garden. But it must be awful, have a chat.

[MrsBadcrumble123]

I would record it and then go and politely say that you have put up with noise out out courtesy all these months but it’s having an effect on your mental health and peace! It she protests play her the recording. If she continues send the recording to environmental health at the council! I couldn’t give a monkeys if it was a cultural sound - no one has any right to inflict that on anyone!!

[SpillTheTeaa]

I lost it when I pressed on the video

[FelicisNox]

YANBU.

Record it and play it to her. Explain you fully understand her need to calm her baby but she is THAT loud and it's pushing you to breaking point, is there another way around this?

She probably doesn't realise how loud she is and would probably be mortified but it needs sorting.

The other option is you contact environmental health and get them to fit black boxes (decibel recorders) and get them on to her but that's the extreme end of things.

[Andwoooshtheyweregone]

Is this a joke!? 😂😂

[EstherOnions]

@Staffy1 thank you for making me heartily chortle for the first time in eons.

[Phossy]

Every time I see this title I think you want to stop your neighbour ovulating and briefly find you unreasonable.

[Mumcicle]

@Celestine70

I feel sorry for the baby. Why can't she sing rock a bye baby?

To be fair rock a bye baby is also quite terrifying in its own way

[Clumsyvolcano]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭 I always think people are exaggerating on here when they say they can’t breathe for laughing at something someone posted because the threads aren’t usually that funny but I find this absolutely hilarious and I can’t quite articulate why.

I can’t believe someone would think it’s ok to make such a noise to stop a baby crying.

I feel really bad for the baby and yourself though, despite being amused. I would have a word and then report her if she doesn’t stop.

[SilverOtter]

I just played the YouTube video out of curiosity and it has sent my dog absolutely demented🤣🤣🤣

[Loveinatimeofcovid]

That must be a form of child abuse surely?

You should send her a link to peppa’s noisy night and highlight the bit where daddy pig wheels the baby around the house in the pram.

[Petlover9]

OP - You must report this to the council, environment Dept., maybe take them a recording and give times and dates. They will probably give you a "noise diary" to fill in anyway. If they will not help then place a radio on high volume right up against the wall where the noise is coming from and tell her why if she asks - she sounds loopy anyway, no wonder the baby cries, it probably wants peace and quiet

[Fizzingsherbert]

Have you said anything yet OP?

[ToBBQorNotToBBQ]

Omg tell her to stop. How annoying.

[Alwaysinpain]

@Confrontayshunme Any update OP??

[Confrontayshunme]

Yes! I spoke to her mum briefly when she came to take baby for a walk one day. I basically said it was frightening and I didn't mind it at first but with the windows open, I had had enough. Neighbour's DM had a word, and basically, she has stopped! I didn't realize that because of lockdown, she has had no postnatal checks, no health visitor, no baby checkups or weighings and she doesn't really have any friends with babies. She was just doing it to calm baby as it worked one time! But it is great as she has asked how I calmed my girls and got them to sleep at night, and we had a great chat about baby led weaning (which she had no clue about) and some breastfeeding issues she has been having.

[LunaNorth]

What a lovely update. Well done, OP. You’re a good person.

[Beautiful3]

That's a nice update op.

[Disfordarkchocolate]

Lovely update. Friend made, that's a very rare outcome on threads.

[Yeahnahmum]

Play rammstein everytime she does it