MIL dressing like my bridesmaids

[Hiccupp]

DP and I have rearranged our wedding for early next year and mentioned the colour scheme / choices to his family. Despite making it clear that the bridesmaids' dresses will all be navy, with various different straps etc., DP's mother has taken it upon herself to order a dress in the same shade that completely blends in with the shape and style.

AIBU in thinking it's not her place to dress like one of the bridesmaids? I expected her to want to join in having her hair and make up done with us (she loves to match her DD at any event) and am pleased we normally have that sort of relationship, but I thought the mother of the groom should wear something complementary to the overall colour scheme if not her own thing entirely!

FFS

I agree FFS, why does it matter?

It is a bit odd but is it worth falling out over? At least she will blend in, better than turning up in white or black or looking like a stripper!!

Oh dear. What does DP think?

I think she probably did it so that she would look good in your wedding scheme - she was probably doing a nice thing. It really looks horrible when all the bridesmaid's dresses, the flowers, the corsages, the men's ties etc all match and then the mother stands out like a sore thumb in a different colour. This will look much nicer so I don't know why you're complaining?

If this is MILs worst offence re your wedding I'd let it go and think yourself bloody lucky

Tell your DH that if his DM turns up looking like a bridesmaid, she'll be asked to stand at the back so only her head is in photos (or even won't be in the photos at all)
Or make sure you bring a very oversized, navy, obviously mother of the groom type hat and insist she wears that.

Better navy than white! If it looks daft it’s her that’ll look daft not you. I wouldn’t worry about it

Honestly - does it matter?
No one will be mistaking her for one of your bridesmaids!

My son has a wonderful partner, they will marry within a year or two. I have already bought my mother of the groom dress; she knows this and we laugh about me 'bagging' dusky pink!

It's odd. But she will only embarrass herself. Leave her get on with it.

No one’s going to mistake her for a bridesmaid, don’t worry. It doesn’t sound like a big issue, especially with a neutral colour like navy - she won’t be the only guest in that colour I’m sure.

I promise that on the day, these things aren’t issues that you notice or care about!

I think it's nice. Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery!

I would change the bridesmaid colour...

Just buy her a lovely hat to go with her dress, a really big hat.

FGS - honestly, who cares?

Are you honestly bothered about this?

I bet other guests will be in navy to, its very classic. Will they get accused of trying to look like the bridesmaids or is that just reserved for your MIL?

Could she have misunderstood you and thought you were sharing the colour scheme so she could match?

All my friends ask each other what the colour scheme is so they can coordinate. I think your MIL doesn’t want to clash and wants to look like part of the wedding party. Nothing wrong with that, surely?

Why do you need to announce a colour scheme? I’ve been married once (or twice 😇🤣) and haven’t ever needed to discuss a theme. I’ve had sumptuous weddings before you diss them.

Navy is often a colour chosen by mothers of the b or g.
I think she'll look great and clearly a part of the wedding party. I really don't think it's odd at all.

Why do you care?
Honestly OP getting married is about the rest of your life. Not just one party. Is she nice to you? Is she kind? Will she make a good granny?
There are much worse offences!!

I also think you'll have lots of guests in navy too.

I had a navy wedding. All the men in our family had the same navy suit and my mum and MIL were said they could obviously wear anything but I would love navy in their dress! They both looked amazing! It's so clear that they aren't bridesmaids!

I change the colour and forget to mention it. Lol x

It might look nice, especially in the photos. I agree with pp, nooone is going to mistake her for a bridesmaid