MIL dressing like my bridesmaids

[Hiccupp]

DP and I have rearranged our wedding for early next year and mentioned the colour scheme / choices to his family. Despite making it clear that the bridesmaids' dresses will all be navy, with various different straps etc., DP's mother has taken it upon herself to order a dress in the same shade that completely blends in with the shape and style.

AIBU in thinking it's not her place to dress like one of the bridesmaids? I expected her to want to join in having her hair and make up done with us (she loves to match her DD at any event) and am pleased we normally have that sort of relationship, but I thought the mother of the groom should wear something complementary to the overall colour scheme if not her own thing entirely!

I'd get a splash of colour to go with the bridesmaids' dresses and don't tell her. I'm thinking something like a bolero or sash in red or yellow. It could look really effective and then your future mil would blend more info the background.

Navy is a common colour for guests to wear at a wedding?

Put sashes or something on the bridesmaids? Something which makes them stand out? As obviously bridesmaids not guests

Better than trying to look like the bride !

So she looks similar to the bridesmaids?
Does it really matter?

This isn’t the hill you want to die on op

(And I say that as a past bride who really overthought everything about her wedding)

Navy is a popular colour for guests to wear at weddings, I wouldn't worry to much about it

What's with all this matchy matchy wedding nowadays? Surely anyone can wear what they like apart from bride/groom and their respective entourage.

Unless your MIL is walking behind you down the aisle, it's pretty bloody obvious she's not a bridesmaid.

I love the idea of the really big hat... Or changing completely.

I understand I can't monopolise navy; others might choose it and it might look better in photos.

I just find it odd that it's not a navy dress that will tie in, or that includes some navy, or that she already happened to own, or a colour she she had decided before us, but a dress from the selection we are choosing from.

Like one of these

Your mil's outfit sounds very smart.
If she's happy then why worry.

Will she have a jacket?
Perhaps you could get the bridesmaids a bolero each and not mention them until the day.

Oh ok it is unusual to choose a dress from the same range. I thought she was just going to be in navy.

Likely she’ll accessorise differently though. A jacket would make it look v different.

You do realise your guests wont give a shit? They will be hoping the service isnt too long and that the wait for food is short and not held up whilst the wedding party take a thousand photos. lol I have never registered what people wear at weddings why does it matter so much? Navy is a popular smart colour that can flatter a lot of people, plus it goes well with the colour scheme.

It’s a bold move by her to choose a dress form the exact range - if that’s what you mean. My MIL asked for the colour scheme so she could fit in - which was sweet but unnecessary but she was trying so hard to please me

When I got married on her own accord my mum wore a dress that picked out the colour of both the bridesmaid dresses and the groomsmen outfits (bridesmaids were dusky blue and groomsmen were in tan). The dress was stunning and the photos look lovely from the day as it all tied in .... Unless there are other MIL issues I really don’t see the issue as she is part of the bridal party after all?

I wouldn't worry about it. I really didn't mind what my MIL wore on our wedding day. Or anyone else for that matter.

To be honest I think it’s MIL that will look at bit odd OP,not you or your bridesmaids. My MIL wore all black, reflected nicely how she was feeling about the day 😬.

The navy wouldn't be odd but the full length dress in that style will.

So she will actually be wearing the exact same dress as one of the bmaids?

I had friends who asked about the colour scheme for our wedding as they wanted to fit in with it. They absolutely weren’t trying to be bridesmaids. I thought it was really sweet and thoughtful. And it did look nice in the photos

Ok - I get the problem now!

Unless you are a child bride OP send her some links to navy dresses that have some sleeves FGS!

I don't really understand the problemo here. Praps a badge saying "navy non bridesmaid" and distribute to all the NNB bastards, including the men?

I don't understand why you told her what dresses the bridesmaids were wearing.... anyway presumably she's 30 years older so it will be obvious...

Unless your MIL is very young or your bridesmaids are older then she won’t blend in. Better to blend in than to stand out wearing something really weird.

My SIL (DB wife) on the week of the wedding Informed me that she needs to see what my dress looks like because she needs to make sure it doesn’t clash with her bridesmaids color theme.

I told her it was burgendy and that it wasn’t gonna change. She complained to my brother that she wants her bridesmaids to dress in burgundy and I need to change mine.

She also wanted my mother to change her dress to match with hers.

I ignored her. Enjoyed my day and celebrated my brother.

It was only her getting bothered by her control freak nature.

Till this very day.

They're nice dresses, maybe she saw how flattering they are.
My SIL wore a long white dress to my wedding, just like mine. My dad wore a suit that was about 30 years old, my brother had a sweatshirt with holes in it (as usual). It was a nice day, everyone got on really well.

You are just looking to take offence @Hiccupp.What will you do if a guest wears navy,throw a potato sack over them.

Could be worse,she could turn up in a white dress including a veil.

Or in a black dress crying you have taken her precious son away.