To get this driver fired?

[TinyPigeon]

DAILY MAIL AND SUN ARE FACIST SCUM

Help me think this through.

I had an Argos delivery this morning which came early while I was still in bed. I stuck my head out of the window and asked the driver to just leave it on the step and I would get it in in a bit. I thought he would leave it and drive away as others have.

I brought the baby downstairs and settled her and then went to bring the parcel in, so a couple of minutes later. I opened the door and the driver was still there. I apologised because I didn't realise he'd be waiting for me. But also cringed because I was still in my nightshirt and had been feeding Dd so it was fairly unbuttoned.

Obviously Id thought he was gone and was just grabbing parcels off my step so wasn't super bothered about dignity.

However I just got a text from a private number saying "Hi thank you for putting a big smile on my face for the rest of the day your a beautiful woman xx".

I'm really grossed out. There's noone else it could be. I'm freaking that this man knows where I live and annoyed that he has saved my number. What should I do? I don't want to lose someone their livelihood. I'd told DH how friendly he was

Can I complain? Should I?

[Pelleas]

I'm not sure they would fire him - how would they prove he sent it? It might be obvious to you that he's the only candidate, but Argos don't know that.

[FizzFan]

Boak, that is grim. I’d definitely report that. Whether he’s sacked or not is not your decision though, it’s down to his employers and if he is it’s his own fault, not yours.

[Gizlotsmum]

I would report. Remember you don't actually know it was him (although realistically not going to be anyone else). Even without the cringe value it is potentially a GDPR breach which they will need to investigate. I would email explaining exactly what happened and the number the text came from, it should be investigated although I doubt he will be fired if it was the first time.

[AranciaRosso]

What if it wasn't him and instead the text came from some weirdo across the street who copped an eyeful?

[MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously]

Saying that it's on the employer is dumping and running. If the OP calls the employer, it's in the full knowledge that he may get sacked. She can choose to do that, but own it - it's not something that has nothing to do with her if sacking is the end result.

[LuluBellaBlue]

I would also report and I’m very easy going - this is not ok so abuse his power knowing he has your phone number and address yet you know nothing about this stranger!!
That’s abuse / Mis use of power

[Serin]

I opened your post expecting to find you were over reacting to a parking misdemeanour or something.
This is wildly inappropriate.

[WorraLiberty]

@Polyxena

What is it with people adding these media disclaimers to their posts? You do realise that it has zero effect, right?

Exactly. I think I just cringed myself inside out

OP, report him. He's taking the piss and as others have said, could really scare vulnerable customers.

[FizzFan]

Why would the OP be “getting him sacked”? She’s not his employee, it’s their choice.

He behaved like a creep, why is it the OP’s job to shield him from the consequences of that? The OP did nothing wrong and she’d be doing nothing wrong if she reported.

This could all have been avoided by the man not being such a pervy creep, but some people think it’d be the woman’s fault if he got fired. Depressing.

[back2good]

I'd report him.

A cop in the states was using his ability to look up people's contact details unlawfully to pursue women ... if only someone had stopped him sooner than he was, as he was harassing many women for dates this way ... but he eventually lost his job at least.

It's creepy and a misuse of data here to do what he's done.

[Fairenuff]

Yes report. It will be up to Argos to establish whether it was him that sent it and whether he needs to be re-trained or fired.

It may have happened before so always worth reporting as it helps build the big picture.

[FizzFan]

Saying that it's on the employer is dumping and running. If the OP calls the employer, it's in the full knowledge that he may get sacked. She can choose to do that, but own it - it's not something that has nothing to do with her if sacking is the end result.

Yes, it is nothing to do with her. No one made him send the text.

Are you a rape apologist as well? Or just for creeps who send pervy texts to women?

[bestbrowsintown]

Report him. If he loses his job he's only got himself to blame.
I'm fed up with women still being held to account for the bad behaviour of men.

[thedancingbear]

I think it's very easy to say 'report him' and of course it's the right thing to do. He is very likely to get the tin tack as a result, and I've no problem with that.

But as a real-world proposition, I'm not sure I'd do it, simply as I wouldn't want my windows put through. It's not like he doesn't know where you live.

[FizzFan]

It’s down to the employer to carry out any investigation as to who sent it. Not the OP. Report it and leave Argos to it.

[Dollywilde]

I once had an Ocado driver text me after a delivery saying it was lovely to chat to me (we’d had a 10 min natter on the doorstep as he used to live in the area) and he didn’t want to cause any offence, but wondered if I’d like to go for a drink some time?

I replied saying I wasn’t interested and he text once more to say he would delete my number, very sorry, hadn’t meant to overstep and wished me the best.

I didn’t report that text, even though it was a breach of data protection, as it was respectful and I didn’t feel awkward. If he’d texted me again I would have done, but as it was that was that (I saved his number so I’d know it was him if he ever messaged again, I probably ought to delete it, it was 6 years ago and I’ve moved regions since!)

This, however, is completely different and I would report it to Argos. Not up to you what they do about it, but as you say he doesn’t seem to realise how it comes across and I’d be feeling a bit perved on (with the state of undress and the nature of the message). I’d also want to make sure he wasn’t approaching others similarly, which I bet he is if he doesn’t see anything wrong in that message.

[FizzFan]

Exactly @bestbrowsintown

[SoulofanAggron]

DEFINITELY report. This is not ok and who knows what he's doing/saying to other women.

[StormzyInaDCup]

Yabu to 'get someone sacked', what makes you think you even have the power to do this? Yanbu to complain, no need to over dramatise.. Just state the facts.

[ComeOnEileen11]

Yes you should.

[CluelessBaker]

Gross - definitely report, that’s foul

[CandidaAlbicans2]

I just got a text from a private number saying "Hi thank you for putting a big smile on my face for the rest of the day your a beautiful woman xx".

What, a private number as in withheld? Anyway, I’d reply to the text asking who it is before even thinking about the next step. If either the number is showing (so an employer could check if it's one of their employees) or you get a reply saying it's him, then you're just assuming. It could've been someone else, or even a wrong number.

[Lockdownsucks]

Sorry but how can you get a txt from a private number? The number always shows on a txt?

[Littleposh]

@Babyroobs

It's completely inappropriate but please think of the implications before reporting. I would send a message back along the lines of please don't ever send me inappropriate messages like tis again and please remove my number from your personal phone or I will be reporting to your employer, so that he knows his behaviour is inappropriate and it makes him think about how he has behaved. However just reporting without a warning seems a bit extreme, give him the chance first to never do it again and think about his actions.
I would not feel good if someone lost their job because of one moment of stupidity.

How about, it's completely inappropriate but please think of the implications before NOT reporting

[MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously]

Are you a rape apologist as well?
He sent her a text.