To get this driver fired?

[TinyPigeon]

DAILY MAIL AND SUN ARE FACIST SCUM

Help me think this through.

I had an Argos delivery this morning which came early while I was still in bed. I stuck my head out of the window and asked the driver to just leave it on the step and I would get it in in a bit. I thought he would leave it and drive away as others have.

I brought the baby downstairs and settled her and then went to bring the parcel in, so a couple of minutes later. I opened the door and the driver was still there. I apologised because I didn't realise he'd be waiting for me. But also cringed because I was still in my nightshirt and had been feeding Dd so it was fairly unbuttoned.

Obviously Id thought he was gone and was just grabbing parcels off my step so wasn't super bothered about dignity.

However I just got a text from a private number saying "Hi thank you for putting a big smile on my face for the rest of the day your a beautiful woman xx".

I'm really grossed out. There's noone else it could be. I'm freaking that this man knows where I live and annoyed that he has saved my number. What should I do? I don't want to lose someone their livelihood. I'd told DH how friendly he was

Can I complain? Should I?

[ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble]

@Nanalisa60

Yes report him and with any luck he will lose his job!! Because he has not been working all of lockdown so we Can all get our very important stuff from Argos. And of course there are some many jobs out there it won’t matter that you get him fired, I’m sure he will get a new job by next week.

None of that is OP's problem.

If men don't want to lose their jobs, then men shouldn't use their jobs to get contact details for women they don't know to message them.


Bet the recent posters also think wolf whistles and horn tooting are compliments and "make" their day.

[Alsohuman]

Bet the recent posters also think wolf whistles and horn tooting are compliments and "make" their day

I’m definitely a bit sad it doesn’t happen any more. So shoot me.

[BoingBoingyBoing]

"There will be millions unemployed dont add another to it, he is just a pratt"

Maybe the job can go to someone who isn't a creepy idiot who doesn't think data protection is a joke. Just a thought.

[2toe]

Absolutely report him, apart from the fact what he said was not ok, using your phone number for anything other than the specific business purpose you have agreed to (contacting you about your delivery) is certainly a disciplinary offence, as it should be.

[ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble]

@isadoradancing123

Its just a text, forget it. How is she vulnerable, he presumably didnt see the baby anyway so what has the baby got to do with it. There will be millions unemployed dont add another to it, he is just a pratt

You really can't understand how a woman might feel vulnerable or worried when a complete stranger breaks the law and boundaries to message her ?

Did she really need to know she "made his day"?

[Rosebel]

I can't see how it's sexual harassment. It was inappropriate at worst.
If OP can't get the number then how will they prove it was the drivers number? Unless it can be proved they won't sack him. Like I said though I don't think Argos will do anything except make sympathetic sounds if OP complains.

[isadoradancing123]

No i agree it was inappropriate, however its not enough to report him, stop dramatising it

[ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble]

@isadoradancing123

No i agree it was inappropriate, however its not enough to report him, stop dramatising it

So he can keep abusing his job, breach GDPR, being the company's name is disrepute and possible have them slammed with a hefty fine?

Just because he just HAS TO message customers about how they make his day?

[isadoradancing123]

Its a simple text, either reply and tell him its inappropriate and never contact you again, or forget it, its not a major thing to get worked up about. He didnt make any lewd comments at the time, if he had that would be different

[acatcalledjohn]

No i agree it was inappropriate, however its not enough to report him, stop dramatising it

So what is enough to report someone? More lewd comments, repeated messages, inappropriate touching?

The line exists where the individual has drawn it and nowhere else. At the end of the day he was there to deliver a parcel and nothing else.

[IAmMeThisIsI]

"Argos, I'd like to complain about a delivery driver"
"Of course Mrs Smith, I am sorry what happened?"
"Well I had a text from a private number calling me beautiful. It made me very uncomfortable".
Sometime later
"Mr. Delivery Driver, did you text a lady today on your rounds"?
"Nah".
"We can't prove it was you anyway".

Argos will not launch a CSI investigation into this. Even IF it was the driver, there's no way to prove it. If Argos were to sack him he could do them for unfair dismissal. At the very least make sure you KNOW it was him!

[IAmMeThisIsI]

@alsohuman me too. I feel you.

[isadoradancing123]

Yes if there was more texting or inappropriate touching, then of course report, but its one text that the op doesnt know who sent it

[ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble]

Besides, we should be able to defend ourselves by putting people firmly in their place, not taking the cowards way out and reporting as a first point of call

Yeah there was no way in hell I'd put the built as a shit brickhouse delivery wanker who kept making comments about me dropping the towel and keeping the package away so I'd have to use two hands to get it. I did report him as soon as he left though.

It's not cowardly it's being fucking sensible and not putting myself in a dangerous situation. Men aren't exactly known for taking put downs/rejection well.

[EnthusiasmIsDisturbed]

It is harassment

He has taken the op’s number to make unwanted and uninvited contact along with breach of GDPR

As I said in previous post when I complained the company wasn’t interested but the police were and took it very seriously and warned him if he tried to make further contact he would be charged

I was told I should have reported him straight away also advised by the police (as I was living alone) to have sown men’s clothes about, shoes etc as women alone tend to be targeted more often

That was over 10 years ago things have changed and more women are likely to make complaints

[EnthusiasmIsDisturbed]

I was nearly 42 months pregnant

Are you fucking serious I was a coward for not confronting him

The op has a young baby

I believe if a man is willing to harass you and step over boundaries he is unlikely to now be concerned about intimidating you aggressively or even worse why because it’s not about the women it’s about male entitlement

[EnthusiasmIsDisturbed]

42 weeks

I was very annoyed when I typed my response

[ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble]

@EnthusiasmIsDisturbed

42 weeks

I was very annoyed when I typed my response

Well in all fairness at 42 months pregnant you would've been ready to kill someone so no cowardly behaviour from you.

[LunchBoxPolice]

We have for too long excused men’s predatory behaviour because we have been conditioned to be nice, we don’t need to be nice

Agreed. Stop making excuses for these idiotic men who push boundaries and make women feel uncomfortable.

[EnthusiasmIsDisturbed]

It felt like 42 months at that point

[isadoradancing123]

I didnt say confront him and i didnt see where he made comments about dropping a towel, also i didnt see anything about his build, he simply sent a text, so he needs a reply telling him in no uncertain terms that its inappropriate

[Alsohuman]

Hell of a lot of projection on this thread.

[ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble]

If this wasn't so sad it would be funny.

All the wide eyed faux naïveté and hand wringing over the poor bloke's job.

[EnthusiasmIsDisturbed]

What as opposed to dismissing inappropriate and creepy behaviour

Woman know you place always be grateful what a man chooses to give you attention