The thing is, the more I think of it, the more I realise that I would totally name a child the same name as certain people I don’t like or have a history with. In fact I’ve promised to name a first born son a certain name which also has another significant meaning (religious) that only my very nearest and dearest would know BUT it also just happens to be the name of a man who I once dated and who thought I was “the one” for him. It’s honestly, honestly nothing to do with him. I’d hate it if he assumed it was.
The only man I ever loved and who there is ALOT of history with had a bloody fantastic, classic and lovely boys name that I could just see myself naming a little boy...because it’s a gorgeous name.
Let’s say it’s these two names, because they are similar,
“Lot of History” ex is Adam
“Random guy I once dated till he got weird but who’s name I have already promised to use” is Matthew.
I’d have zero qualms about calling my first some Adam Matthew...
And it has nothing to do with either the Adam or Matthew that I previously had relationships. I just really really love the names.
I also love two other names that just happen to be the names of two boys who bullied me awfully...let’s say Gabriel and Nathaniel.
I adore the names. If I named a son or sons those names it would have nothing to do with those boys.
In fact, using those names would almost help them mean less to me. Because I’d be forming new associations based on much more positive and loving experiences with a child I’d helped create and brought into the world rather than men who a) broke my heart b) bored me senseless or c) treated me terrible. I’d just look at my little boy and he’d be the most special Adam Matthew, Gabriel or Nathaniel I had ever met.