AIBU Ex’s baby name almost the same as my name

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Ex-boyfriend has named his new baby daughter almost with my name with one letter added in. AIBU to be shocked and confused?

What are the names OP?

I dont think you're being as unreasonable as everyone is making out, I would never name my baby after someone I dated for 2 years but there are so many reasons why he and his dp may have chosen that name so not worth worrying about imo.

Thanks everyone. It’s probably just that his current partner likes the name.

I doubt you even crossed his mind when he named his new baby.

@TheSandgroper

His gravestone is going to look odd.

Why?

I'm with you, OP. I think it's a bit of an odd thing to do.

I think it’s bloody weird!

You said it yourself op, he's narcissistic.

Could have possibly done it to wind you up. Why are you letting him? Feel sorry for the poor woman now tied to him for life. She is screwed. And the poor kid with a dad like that.

Maybe it was the name that ex’s new dp had always wanted to call her child?

I knew someone who son was called George. Then he got divorced and had a new daughter with new partner and called her Georgina. Ie. The female form. So he has two children, George and Georgina.

Good god, I want to hear more HeeeeyDuggee!

It's a bit morbid, like looking at a car crash. Was she always bonkers or did it manifest itself?

I do feel that it may be strange for you. I'm quessing it's something like you're Isabell and the baby is Isabella.

But it's probably just a name that his partner wanted and she won't think of you when she thinks of the name. He might not have either as the name sounds different and he may just like the name.

Move on OP. Ignore it.

My DH ex celebrates her child’s birthday on our DS birthday even tho it’s not his birthday. Her kid is a year younger and when the kid was born she posted all over her social media saying that even tho her child’s birthday is xxx day forget in her heart his birthday is XX day (my child’s birthday) therefore she will be using that date to celebrate and even has the date tattooed on her!

@HeeeeyDuggee

The only reason I can think of for this (besides insanity) would be if there are people in the ex's 'social circle' who would then have to make a choice between going to her child's birthday party and yours.

What’s the name op?

Depends on the name...

Eg common names like Emma Sophie Sam etc.....

However if something 'unusual' like Chardonnay, Mercedes etc then...oops

I don't think it's weird - they liked the name, obviously.

If I was the mother of that child though, I think I'd REALLY have to love the name, because there is no way 'they weren't thinking of you' is realistic.

My brother's best mate had a daughter and named it the same as my brother's ex girlfriend. A significant ex, it was all a bit raw.

But there we go - the child will quickly become the first person your ex thinks of with that name, and that's that.

I named my DS the same name as my first BF, I just liked that name, it wasnt because he was an EX or I hankered after him, just a nice name.

Of course it’s weird.

If you're Jane or Clare and the Ex's baby is Jayne or Claire then it's a bit weird. If it's Emma/Gemma or Maria/Marina then not weird.

@HeeeeyDuggee

That is the weirdest thing I have ever heard , I don’t think I can even understand why ???????

Like others, I think it very much depends on the name and what exactly the letter added/missing is - and even then it's quite subjective how similar is 'too' similar. Someone upthread mentioned Emma and Emily as similar - I don't think of those as similar I think of them as totally different names, even though I can (obviously) see why someone else would see them as similar.

I also think it depends how common the name is. We considered the name of an ex of mine for DS, and decided against it not because of the ex thing but because a close friend had already given the name to her son. But the name is Thomas - I've known literally dozens of Toms, so the ex isn't the first person who comes to mind when I hear it. Whereas the name Oberon makes me think instantly of a boy I barely knew at school (and Shakespeare, obviously) because I've never known another one. Definitely the more unusual the name the weirder it is.

It's really weird. I really like the name of my ex but had dh and I had a boy, I would have vetoed it for that reason. If my dh had wanted to name our girls the same name as an ex I wouldn't like it. Depends how much difference that one letter makes though. Can you tell us the name?

My son has the same name as an ex of mine.
We chose the name because its a lovely traditional one and its my DH's favourite uncle's name, someone who meant a lot to him.
It has absolutely nothing to do with my ex.

I doubt it would occur to me.

I was 12 when I found out my Dad’s gf before my Mum had the same name as me. Felt odd.
But I was named for a dear mutual friend, didn’t bother my Mum in the slightest.

Come on then OP, what's the name?

Is it one of the variations of those insanely popular names at the moment? Like your children are 2 out of Amelie/Amelia/Emilia or Eva/Evie/Ava because if so that's just the nature of really popular names. Loads of people use them, loads of kids have them. You'll find theres hundreds at schools and nursery.
If its something like Lorelai and Corelai then that's weirder