AIBU Ex’s baby name almost the same as my name

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Ex-boyfriend has named his new baby daughter almost with my name with one letter added in. AIBU to be shocked and confused?

Why do you automatically think it’s about you, it’s not the same name,

my now exhusband wanted to name our baby with a particular name - found out later it was the name of the woman he was having an affair with while i was pregnant!!

Bloody hell that is low.

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my now exhusband wanted to name our baby with a particular name - found out later it was the name of the woman he was having an affair with while i was pregnant!!

Bloody hell that is low.

It's actually quite disturbed 🤢

My exes ex (if you can follow that) called their dog the same name as my son!!

I found out my ex was cheating on me and she was pregnant. I’d just suffered an early miscarriage and was heartbroken. They went on to have a baby girl and a couple of years later, on the grapevine, I heard she had the same name as me. (Unusual, dated and never really been a popular name.)
I was wounded and it weirded me out for years.
Fast forward to the age of SM and through the chains of mutual friends and some sneaky fb snooping, I discovered the OW already had a child with my name when they met and their child together had a completely different name. I’d wasted years eating myself up over them having a joke on me.

Demi and Dmitri - wtf. These are not the same names.

My ex named his first daughter the name of my sons pet (Ella) then had a son and named him my sons name. Weird.

My DD has the same name as DPs only two serious ex's (ex's both share a name).

I have loved the name from long before meeting him and it was my number one name choice for if I had a girl. It's a lovely but not particularly unusual name.

I think it’s weird, OP!

But do you know what, it doesn’t matter. Let him do his weird thing and you go on and have an amazing life without him in it!

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I think his partner probably chose it.

I chose a name that is similar to a name my partner and his ex would have chosen if they had a boy.

Had no idea until their child told me a few months later.

My first "real" boyfriend and I broke up when I moved away to go to university, after being together 2 years. We have stayed in contact over social media and always been cordial. Both moved on and married with children. He named his first DD my exact name. I did think it was really odd, especially as I assume his current DW knows who I am (Im still friends with his family on social media etc). I never mentioned it and then one year saw his DW tag him in a memory post for her deceased sister...with my name. Im sure its something like that.

When we were expecting a son my DH really liked the name Ben. I like it too, for a golden retriever!
I vetoed the name for that reason but let DS have Benjamin as a middle name.

When I read through this thread I went through every boyfriend I ever had and one of my ex boyfriends was called Ben. I almost forgot him when I was going through them, but I think I was his first girlfriend and so he might remember me more? Either way it was pre social media so I can't imagine he'll ever find out.

Depends on the name!
Ann/Anne would be weird
Holly/Molly slightly less so
Zara/Sara (pronounced Sarah) not weird at all

Thinking about it, ex named his baby something quite similar to my surname (which was originally due on my birthday too lol) but to be honest it is just a popular name. I do like the fact of the connection even if he is oblivious, maybe makes a difference that I'll always consider him my friend. So nice rather than weird. Actually, my 1st child has letters from his name too that is life.

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They probably just love the name.

DH’s Xwife has a beautiful name. They’ve been divorced 20 years and she’s remarried and lives in another country. If I had another daughter I’d be tempted to give her a derivative of the name, simply because it sounds lovely and we’ve forgotten his X to the point it wouldn’t feel weird. I’m sure she wouldn’t mind either, she gave her first daughter a similar name to our DD and we didn’t think anything of it.

I went to school with someone who named her baby the same name as her ex (they were together a long time)
It turns out it was her now husband's dad's name who had passed away shortly before the baby was born. It is a bit weird but there could be a simple explanation like this!

It’s not weird unless you know for sure there is no family connection. Her mother could be called Emma and you are called Emma. You think it’s after you but the Emma they think of when they see their daughter and say the name is their mother/MIL. And that’s for the exact same name. If her mother is called a similar but different name to yours they’d think you were insane saying oh they called the baby after me when it’s not at all.

I must say I find this rather peculiar TBH! There must be literally thousands of names to choose from! I would not like this one bit if I were his GF thats for sure!

Yanbu. I say that as I felt the same. Was with my ex for 4 years we split up and remained friends. We are still friends now. Anyway I had a dog called emma (not real name) and he had a daughter and called her emma. I did call him put out on it and we laughed. End of. I have a son and call him Jack (not real name). He has met Jack. Then he has a son and calls him Jack. I did think it was weird.

I would have found it more weirder if it was MY name OP YANBU