AIBU Ex’s baby name almost the same as my name

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Ex-boyfriend has named his new baby daughter almost with my name with one letter added in. AIBU to be shocked and confused?

I have a mans name as a last name. Shortly after breaking up with my ex, she transitioned to male... and picked my last name as her new first name.

So odd Mrsfionacharming!

My exes eg was a bit like using Thomas nn (always used) Tommy when my surname is Tommys.

YABU. Shocked is an overreaction.

I agree < I think it's weird!

I can't imagine having a son and calling him anything close to my ex's name - and DH certainly wouldn't approve!

@HeeeeyDuggee

They probably just likes the name however try to ignore it and don’t give it any thought.

My DH ex celebrates her child’s birthday on our DS birthday even tho it’s not his birthday. Her kid is a year younger and when the kid was born she posted all over her social media saying that even tho her child’s birthday is xxx day forget in her heart his birthday is XX day (my child’s birthday) therefore she will be using that date to celebrate and even has the date tattooed on her! Bonkers

i've read this more than once, you have to be on a wind up - no way....!!

If I was at the place of the new partner and I had learnt that my child had more or less the same name than my partner's ex, I would be

@MrsFionaCharming

I have a mans name as a last name. Shortly after breaking up with my ex, she transitioned to male... and picked my last name as her new first name.

Now that IS weird....

@HeeeeyDuggee

My DH ex celebrates her child’s birthday on our DS birthday even tho it’s not his birthday. Her kid is a year younger and when the kid was born she posted all over her social media saying that even tho her child’s birthday is xxx day forget in her heart his birthday is XX day (my child’s birthday) therefore she will be using that date to celebrate and even has the date tattooed on her! Bonkers

That's crazy! How far apart are the 2 children's birthdays?

There enough ways you could add one letter and it still be a quite different name, like Anna to Hannah, Jan to Jane, Kat to Kate etc that it wouldn't be my first assumption. If it was a relatively recent break up, he's been trying to get into your head since and it's Ann to Anne or the like, then maybe. Or if you have a really unusual name. But I'd err on the side of not thinking anything of it, especially as he didn't necessarily even choose the name himself. She could be called after his new partner's recently deceased auntie or something. If I really wanted to call my kid Isabella and my ex's partner of several years earlier was called Isobel, that is not a factor I'd be taking into account.

I’ve just realised that one of the names on my list for my baby is the same as an ex boyfriend’s. It hadn’t even occurred to me before now. I wouldn’t put too much thought into this - they just like the name.

Ops name is probably something like Tania and they’ve named the baby Tiana - totally different sound and feel but same letters 🤷‍♀️

I suppose it depends what difference the extra letter makes?

For example I think of Marie & Marnie as totally different names.

I don't think there's enough to tell us whether this is odd or not.

There may have been a very good reason for the name. For all we know the baby has been named after her maternal grandmother. Or it could just have been the baby's mother's favourite name.

The changing the birthday thing is definitely extremely odd!

I don’t know, my mum said I shouldn’t name my daughter the name I chose as it was “too similar” to my nieces name, it’s nothing the same! So without knowing the name I can’t say what I think though I can understand that you don’t want to put the name but sometimes people say names are the same or similar and they are nothing alike.

I used to think that Ross and Rachel were mad for calling their baby Emma even though Ross used to be married to Emily.

That and the fact the baby was called Emma Geller which is not good.

One letter can make one L of a difference.

@ShadowMane 100% not a wind up. My DH sister is still friends with her on SM and showed us she couldn’t believe it. It’s not the weirdest thing she did. I owned my own home which I owned before I even met my DH. One day a letter address to his EX from the DVLA turned up at my house. He had no connection To my house at the time

@LockdownMayhem 1 year and 3 months apart.

I would assume it had some significance to him (or his new partner) that is above and beyond you. My ds has the exact same first name (spelled exactly the same way) as my abusive stalker ex. Abusive ex was from when I was 18/early 20s. I'm nearly 40 now. But it happened to be my husband's dad's name (who died when my dh was young), so it had a lot of meaning for him. I don't really associate the name with my ex anymore and don't really care. It's a lovely name and when I hear the name now, I only think of my ds. It's a bit more odd if the relationship was recent, but I imagine maybe it was a name his new partner really loved, so that's fine enough.

It could be Claire and Clair

I think it's weird.

Hmmm, when we had our baby recently we avoided the names of exs who we had been in serious relationships with. It was just hard not to imagine them when we said the name. I think we'd have to know the names to know if its wierd and also did you have a serious relationship or a quick fling.

It depends on how serious the relationship was. I wouldn’t name my child the same name as DH’s ex. Does the mother know of you? Is it perhaps a family name?

Does she know you exist?

Clare and Clara?

Olive and Olivia?

Rose and Rosie?

I have an unusual name and a bloke who kept asking me out at college (whom I didn't fancy) have his daughter the same name. I lost touch with him so don't know his wife. I imagine there were some amusing conversations when I jokingly said on his Facebook something like "haha named after me, was she".