AIBU Ex’s baby name almost the same as my name

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Ex-boyfriend has named his new baby daughter almost with my name with one letter added in. AIBU to be shocked and confused?

I think it sounds odd. Maybe the partner doesn’t know it is close to your name?

Emma and Emily are totally different?

I thought it was weird that Monica went for Jack as a first name when she had chosen Daniel years before and her dad favoured Ross anyway! Although she did get the Porsche...

Are we talking Emily & Emma (yabu) or Ellie & Ella (yanbu)???

@HeeeeyDuggee

They probably just likes the name however try to ignore it and don’t give it any thought.

My DH ex celebrates her child’s birthday on our DS birthday even tho it’s not his birthday. Her kid is a year younger and when the kid was born she posted all over her social media saying that even tho her child’s birthday is xxx day forget in her heart his birthday is XX day (my child’s birthday) therefore she will be using that date to celebrate and even has the date tattooed on her! Bonkers

Ok now THAT is fucked up.......what a nutcase

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Personally I think its odd yes .There are so many names out there to choose from .I dont think I would like this if I were his partner!

shocked and confused eh? That's a really odd and extreme reaction. I guess I might be a bit surprised but other than that wouldn't give it another thought.

There are so many possible reasons why they chose their dd's name.

I don't think you are confused at all. I think you are hoping we will all say oh my goodness he must still love you. You must run back to him and take the baby in as yours immediately .

yeah that's weird

I would maybe think it was a bit weird, depending on what the name actually is, bit shocked and confused is a but of an odd reaction. I have to agree with SunshineCake.

I agree op - yanbu!

It is very weird.

I know a family with three dds. Two of the girls are named after dad’s exes - both with very unusual names eg Cassandra and Araminta (they aren’t but that kind of thing).

The dm is fully aware and they have told the kids (all now adults)!!!!!!

Shocked and confused sounds a little strong. However if it was something like your name is Alexa and they named their baby Alexia, I have to admit I'd be a little weirded out in your place.

Anyway, chalk it up to one of those weird things and move on. What else can you do?

The kids think it’s weird by the way - they joke about it and eye roll

[quote HeeeeyDuggee]@ShadowMane 100% not a wind up. My DH sister is still friends with her on SM and showed us she couldn’t believe it. It’s not the weirdest thing she did. I owned my own home which I owned before I even met my DH. One day a letter address to his EX from the DVLA turned up at my house. He had no connection To my house at the time

@LockdownMayhem 1 year and 3 months apart.[/quote]
wow! (i wasnt troll hunting, just couldnt believe someone would do this - but also cannot believe that this could be dreamt up etc)

I was going to say you’re right it’s weird, then I remembered:

I names my son exactly the same name as my ex. Husband knows about it.

I loved the name before I met my ex and I didn’t think he sits that much in my memory to warrant unliking the name.

However we were only together for 8 months or so. So it’s different if he was married to you for ages

I think it’s very different if you love the name and then happen to use it!

I'm guessing if he is a significant ex who you were with for a while, you must have loads in common and share similar tastes, so it's not that weird. It's like when Kate Miss called her daughter Lila after Jonny Depp called his Lily. Just a coincidence I'm sure.

I think we'd need to know how long ago you split up and, assuming you don't want to say the name itself, whether we're at the Julieanne and Julianna end of the spectrum or more like Kat and Kate? Although I have been very much enjoying the stories of batshittery.

@TheSandgroper

His gravestone is going to look odd.

Why? OP is his ex so I highly doubt her name will be on his gravestone...

Emma & Emily are different names .. only really a issue if Em was used and is used

I ruled out ex's names and even people I just dated ( assuming I remembered them) , despite really liking some as boys names you can't go there it's weird.

Similar with a letter added .. erm

Eve / Evie
Sara / Sarah
Kate/ Katie
?

Think there's some pretty harsh comments on here, especially the first page!

OP, was it a significant relationship? How long ago did you break up? Etc

It's not weird but I can imagine it must sting a bit to realise that he's so over you that he's happy to name a child with almost the same name (meaning that your name has no romantic connotations to him).

This is outing to anyone who knows me IRL, but my ex husband has not only given his new daughter a name which is only one letter different to our oldest DC’s name, but he got married to the OW on our wedding anniversary.

Some people are fucking weird.

I think sometimes when you like a name you hear it in its own right. I have always gone by a nickname and my sister gave her daughter my real name followed by her maiden name as middle names. The look on her face when she realised she'd given the baby my actual name was priceless. She genuinely hadn't meant to. I bet they have other reasons for liking the name and it's just a really awkward coincidence. Although in your position I'd probably be surprised too, OP.

My DH ex celebrates her child’s birthday on our DS birthday even tho it’s not his birthday. Her kid is a year younger and when the kid was born she posted all over her social media saying that even tho her child’s birthday is xxx day forget in her heart his birthday is XX day (my child’s birthday) therefore she will be using that date to celebrate and even has the date tattooed on her!

No no no no, that can't be true

OP I'm sorry to say it but I'd assume you were so insignificant that your ex hasn't even mentioned you or your name to his partner. If you were a big part of his life I don't think the baby's mother would name her child the same name as you. Sorry.