Nasty comment from H

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Hi, I’ll shortly be leaving my H for quite a number of reasons (emotional abuse, gaslighting, silent treatment, chatting to other women etc).

One thing he said a few weeks ago that really hurt me is that I was trying on a top at home from an online delivery in our bedroom. He came into our bedroom and I said I’ll return this one as it doesn’t look right. He said you can’t return it now that you’ve worn it on your ‘saggy tits’. I told him straight away that that was a disgusting comment and to never talk to me that way again.

But it has dented my confidence even more. I’m in my late 30s so some sag is expected! I was just looking at the Gap sale and came across this model. My breasts are similar to hers in shape and size. Would you say they’re saggy? I’ve posted a link as I don’t want to post the model’s pic on a forum:

www.gap.co.uk/gap/halter-floral-print-bikini-top/000352493.html?dwvar_000352493_color=000352493000&dwvar_000352493_fit=regular&cgid=60645#mlink='1016386&gap_061620_Upto60_pd1'=clink&pmin=2&pmax=20&imagesize=&imageview=&hideinfo=&start=

YANBU: they’re not particularly saggy, just normal breasts
YABU: they’re saggy

He is a d!ckhead. He said that to hurt you, don’t waste energy thinking about it. Sorry

The man that said this:

The first thing my grandad said to my Nan after her mastectomy? You are as beautiful now as the day I met you

Now that man is the best man in the world and one to aspire to. The OP's husband is such a low standard who would want him.

Seems to me like he's seen one too many pairs of fake boobs / pushed up in a bra boobs etc. and has forgotten what a normal pair of breasts look like!

He is your husband - when he married you he committed to spending his life with you. It is irrelevant what your breasts look like - we'll all be saggy in our old age and no decent husband would ever consider us anything but beautiful as we are the person they have chosen to share their life with.

Ditch this prick - he is not husband material.

They are lovely boobs but who cares what some prick says. He’s obviously just trying to damage your self esteem.

Your tits are fine.

You have a nasty, little man problem. The sooner he's gone the sooner you'll realise that your tits and everything else is fine

The only thing I noticed with the models chest is that their real! A real representation of a womans boobs with no use of a push up bra or special editing.

Your fine. I'm in my 20s and think I have saggy boobs that are slightly triangular 🤷‍♀️.

You're leaving him, he's going to say much worse things to you and you need to remind yourself that they aren't true, he just wants to hurt you.

If your body looks like a Gap model I don’t think you have anything to worry about.

Breasts are overrated. I wish we were like other mammals and they would swell with milk and flatten when not feeding babies. Yours are fine. Don’t give any thought to anyone who tries to make you feel bad. You are worth so much more

Don’t let your DH drag you down — he knows you will be so much better off without him! This is complete mind fuckery. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt but at least try to keep it in mind. Good on your for leaving. You will be way happier.

You have nothing to worry about tit-wise!

But she does, and she's leaving him 👍

Always makes me chuckle at these men who make comments like this - got a perfect body has he?? No, thought not! And even if he did, with a personality like that l wouldn't give a flying one what he looked like!

Those are lovely natural breasts. I like more support than that, but that's me, hers are fine.

He's just being a douche.

Your body is precious and deserves to be treasured because it carries YOU inside it. It doesn’t deserve to be held up for scrutiny and judgement. Try to befriend it because it’ll be with you a lot longer than this joker.

He’s said that to ruined your self confidence. Don’t let him

You need Chidera Eggerue in your life. You really do.

Just be glad you're leaving him. He's an arsehole whose vile comments are meant to run you down so you'll stay with him.

We age and change, our bodies age and change. Nothing stays the same.

'Sagging' is only a way of thinking about it - says more about his mind than you.

I take it he is like most men who feel they can make unkind comments about women's bodies- thinks he's Mr Universe but is actually Mr Shit-Wouldn't-Touch-Him-With-A-Bargepole-If-He-Was-The-Last-Man-On-Earth.

The fact that he is giving you shit does not mean you have to take it.

What a nasty prick. I’m delighted you will soon be rid of him.

Seems to me like he's seen one too many pairs of fake boobs / pushed up in a bra boobs etc. and has forgotten what a normal pair of breasts look like!

Yes well, having err umm, "inspected" said apperatus thats exactly right those depeicted look fine and quite normal. What is not normal is very shall we say solid inplants that do stick out. Cant say i 've seen that many but the ones i have over time never seem or very rareley seem to have that natural look as per the model in the referecne pictuire earlier..

Quite why that is i don't know maybe women who are spending thousands on a breast enhancement want to get theri monesyworth perhaps?

@formerbabe

I can't be bothered to look at the picture because whether your breasts have succumb to gravity or not is irrelevant. It is a really vulgar, unpleasant and nasty way to speak to you.

This is all that needs to be said. Leave him, feel better. Job done.

I'd love to have boobs use that
But that's not the problem is it?
That fact you need validation means that this prick has really done a number on you to the point where you are seriously worried your tits are saggy

Swing your lovely tits over your shoulders and sweep out that door to your new life

He is a loon and doesn't deserve you. Look to your future, he is your past.