Nasty comment from H

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Hi, I’ll shortly be leaving my H for quite a number of reasons (emotional abuse, gaslighting, silent treatment, chatting to other women etc).

One thing he said a few weeks ago that really hurt me is that I was trying on a top at home from an online delivery in our bedroom. He came into our bedroom and I said I’ll return this one as it doesn’t look right. He said you can’t return it now that you’ve worn it on your ‘saggy tits’. I told him straight away that that was a disgusting comment and to never talk to me that way again.

But it has dented my confidence even more. I’m in my late 30s so some sag is expected! I was just looking at the Gap sale and came across this model. My breasts are similar to hers in shape and size. Would you say they’re saggy? I’ve posted a link as I don’t want to post the model’s pic on a forum:

www.gap.co.uk/gap/halter-floral-print-bikini-top/000352493.html?dwvar_000352493_color=000352493000&dwvar_000352493_fit=regular&cgid=60645#mlink='1016386&gap_061620_Upto60_pd1'=clink&pmin=2&pmax=20&imagesize=&imageview=&hideinfo=&start=

YANBU: they’re not particularly saggy, just normal breasts
YABU: they’re saggy

Just think about what his spiteful comment has made you do....

You've found a woman who you think has similar boobs and you've posted a link on an Internet forum, to ask a bunch of strangers whether they think your boobs really are saggy or if they're OK.

What your breasts look like is completely irrelevant. I'm not comparing anyone's boobs because there's no need. This man has made your self-esteem plunge so low that you need to hear a bunch of random people tell you that what he said isn't true.

Obviously this is just one of a whole heap of shitty things he's done to you. The sooner you get out of there and start appreciating your authentic, beautiful self, the better. I don't need to see them to be able to tell you that your breasts are lovely just as they are. Hope you're OK and can get your sweet ass out of there asap.

Ignore him. You already know he is a nasty, inadequate, abusive pillock who did not say this because it is his genuine opinion, but because he wanted to hurt you. You've already made the decision that he will hate most, namely to get the sad little idiot out of your life. Remember, the best revenge is living well - get out, start enjoying life, and reflect on the fact that he will never do so because he doesn't have the emotional or intellectual intelligence and humanity to form any sort of fulfilling, joyful bond with anyone.

Great you're leaving him. Great you told him not to talk to you like that. Not so great you posted some poor woman's breasts for all to comment on. No prizes for not posting the picture directly. You may as well have done with posting a link.

I had a double mastectomy in 2013 and would kill for those breast. He is an ass.

What a bastard! I put up with this and kicked out my partner. He was very cruel. We have kids and I stayed . There's a book called why does he do that? By lundy bancroft. It explains a lot. Some people are just so empty they get kicks out of hurting and controlling their partner. Getting worse as time goes on and times when they should be there they aren't there worse!! When I was giving birth in hospital with our son he said afterwards that I looked like an animal. It still hurts now. 7 years later. I'm still having to have therapy from all the stuff he put me through. Hes a disgusting excuse of a man. He has died now and I'm honestly glad.

He is a complete tosser. Leave him and find a decent man. My DH has his faults, as we all do, but he still tells me that I am beautiful:

I have droopy boobs, fat tum, straggly grey hair, wrinkles and varicose legs...

He is 67 and I am 63. Find someone like him and don’t accept anything less! Good luck, OP!

He is just being spiteful and his opinion is completely worthless anyway. Obviously the model’s boobs are absolutely fine or she wouldn’t have bagged the probably quite lucrative job of modelling swimwear for an extremely well known, multi national brand.

You should have turned around and told him he shouldn’t try on any boxers then, not with his micro dick