Nasty comment from H

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Hi, I’ll shortly be leaving my H for quite a number of reasons (emotional abuse, gaslighting, silent treatment, chatting to other women etc).

One thing he said a few weeks ago that really hurt me is that I was trying on a top at home from an online delivery in our bedroom. He came into our bedroom and I said I’ll return this one as it doesn’t look right. He said you can’t return it now that you’ve worn it on your ‘saggy tits’. I told him straight away that that was a disgusting comment and to never talk to me that way again.

But it has dented my confidence even more. I’m in my late 30s so some sag is expected! I was just looking at the Gap sale and came across this model. My breasts are similar to hers in shape and size. Would you say they’re saggy? I’ve posted a link as I don’t want to post the model’s pic on a forum:

www.gap.co.uk/gap/halter-floral-print-bikini-top/000352493.html?dwvar_000352493_color=000352493000&dwvar_000352493_fit=regular&cgid=60645#mlink='1016386&gap_061620_Upto60_pd1'=clink&pmin=2&pmax=20&imagesize=&imageview=&hideinfo=&start=

YANBU: they’re not particularly saggy, just normal breasts
YABU: they’re saggy

jumped!

He is a prick and those boobs look great to me OP

Just ignore him. He was obviously trying to upset you/dent your confidence, for whatever reason. (Or else he's hopelessly thick, and you'd probably know that's the case.) His comment didn't even make sense - of course you'd try on a top; that's not the same thing as wearing it all day And if you had worn it, the shape of your breasts would be irrelevant.

I once had a friend at school who told me that if you could get a pencil to stay up under your boobs, they’re saggy.

I could confidently hold the Yellow Pages up under mine.

But, as many PPs have said, someone who cares about you would never say anything so cruel as what your current H said to you, so the sagginess is neither here nor there.

Iv got no boobs so I'm boob obsessed, like, I love a good set of boobs! if your boobs are like the models then I'm jealous and your husband is an arsehole, ignore him

Sounds like you have three tits. Glad you are going to get rid of the nasty, annoying one.

Three tits :o

I got rid of my third tit a while ago. No regrets!

Yeah he's a pathetic saggy bastard. Please don't be coerced into staying with him whatever he says or does.

It's likely he bullies you because he's an insecure nasty man. Get out before he completely destroys your self esteem, you won't have the strength to leave if this goes on.

Consider doing the Freedom programme. You can recover from being abused and your confidence will return

What the hell? Thank goodness you’re leaving him. Those are lovely, normal breasts. Porn-warped brain me thinks !

I should add it doesn’t matter even if your boobs were saggy.

Not following the link, like others and you STBX is an utter cunt!

HTH!

I'm so glad you're leaving him!

I’d love to have boobs like that tbh. But that’s not the point, he’s trying to be nasty so no matter how you look he will pick you apart. Don’t internalise his comments

Has he got the body of Adonis?

You’re leaving your H because he’s nasty, so what did you expect? That he say anything even remotely nice to you? So why even give his comment two seconds thought. YABU to let anything he says bother you because you know he isn’t going to say anything that’s true, he’s only going say whatever he thinks will hurt you.

I've never seen a boob stealth boast quite like it.

You're going to be fine. Your next guy will adore your beautiful body. But you'll never meet him while you're married to this prick.

I won't bother looking at the link. He sounds like an arse.

You'll be so much happier without him.

They look like normal breasts and not saggy at all. You're right to be leaving him. Maybe you can make comments about his small knob, even if he doesn't have one it will give him a complex which he thoroughly deserves.

They boobs are the same as my boobs, I love my boobs my husband loves my boobs and lots of men ogle my boobs regularly which I hate but I think it means lots of men like those kind of boobs so fuck what your H thinks.

You have nothing to worry about tit-wise!

Oh OP just ignore him and leave as fast as you can. I’m mid/late twenties and a slim size 10 (in decent shape too) currently breast feeding and can pretty much tuck my breasts into my Bridget Jones knickers ... you would never guess in my clothes and I’ve had so many ‘you look amazing’ comments since DS was born.

Real women’s bodies aren’t often displayed and if you strip off the support underwear I think most women would be chuffed to have that models boobs. Your DH is the problem...not your boobs

Lovely normal breasts - I'd be delighted if mine looked anything like that.

Perhaps your husband wants the plastic stand up fixed and point to the ceiling look. Real breasts move, if heavy they weigh down more etc etc...

Glad you are leaving him - what a horrid excuse for a 'man'

Wow. What a twat.

I'm getting truly sick of these self-important men that clearly don't see themselves in the mirror. I've encountered quite a few over the years.

My friend has finally dumped a man like this. Abusive in the worst way by destroying her confidence. We had an idea he was like this as we (her friends) all saw the same side of him (nasty, really nasty) when we'd find ourselves alone with him for a moment. He separated her from us by lying to her, saying we'd been bitchy behind her back.

Now she's spoken to us all she's realised it was just his lies and way of getting her alone.

She's so much happier now he's gone - as you will be, OP. Chin up, like my friend's ex I'm betting yours is no oil painting. But beauty is in the soul not the skin. Remember that. And with that, remember he is one fugly cunt.

Good luck.

I'm not voting or clicking on that link. This is not about your breasts and whether anyone thinks those of a woman yours are similar to are saggy. This is about a nasty shit of a man emotionally abusing you. Don't give the hurtful bitching of that pathetic twat this sort of headspace. His aim was to hurt you. His appraisal of your breasts is meaningless, why care what he thinks? Why start worrying because of what he said? He doesn't matter.

No matter what your boobs look like he shouldn't have said that. It was just cruelty for cruelties sake. But I think they're quite nice boobs.