Nasty comment from H

[excuseforfights]

Hi, I’ll shortly be leaving my H for quite a number of reasons (emotional abuse, gaslighting, silent treatment, chatting to other women etc).

One thing he said a few weeks ago that really hurt me is that I was trying on a top at home from an online delivery in our bedroom. He came into our bedroom and I said I’ll return this one as it doesn’t look right. He said you can’t return it now that you’ve worn it on your ‘saggy tits’. I told him straight away that that was a disgusting comment and to never talk to me that way again.

But it has dented my confidence even more. I’m in my late 30s so some sag is expected! I was just looking at the Gap sale and came across this model. My breasts are similar to hers in shape and size. Would you say they’re saggy? I’ve posted a link as I don’t want to post the model’s pic on a forum:

www.gap.co.uk/gap/halter-floral-print-bikini-top/000352493.html?dwvar_000352493_color=000352493000&dwvar_000352493_fit=regular&cgid=60645#mlink='1016386&gap_061620_Upto60_pd1'=clink&pmin=2&pmax=20&imagesize=&imageview=&hideinfo=&start=

YANBU: they’re not particularly saggy, just normal breasts
YABU: they’re saggy

[Scoobydoobydo]

You should have turned around and told him he shouldn’t try on any boxers then, not with his micro dick

[laidbacklife]

He is just being spiteful and his opinion is completely worthless anyway. Obviously the model’s boobs are absolutely fine or she wouldn’t have bagged the probably quite lucrative job of modelling swimwear for an extremely well known, multi national brand.

[GurlwiththeCurl]

He is a complete tosser. Leave him and find a decent man. My DH has his faults, as we all do, but he still tells me that I am beautiful:

I have droopy boobs, fat tum, straggly grey hair, wrinkles and varicose legs...

He is 67 and I am 63. Find someone like him and don’t accept anything less! Good luck, OP!

[Teaandbiscuitsallday]

What a bastard! I put up with this and kicked out my partner. He was very cruel. We have kids and I stayed . There's a book called why does he do that? By lundy bancroft. It explains a lot. Some people are just so empty they get kicks out of hurting and controlling their partner. Getting worse as time goes on and times when they should be there they aren't there worse!! When I was giving birth in hospital with our son he said afterwards that I looked like an animal. It still hurts now. 7 years later. I'm still having to have therapy from all the stuff he put me through. Hes a disgusting excuse of a man. He has died now and I'm honestly glad.

[user1471439310]

I had a double mastectomy in 2013 and would kill for those breast. He is an ass.

[SunshineCake]

Great you're leaving him. Great you told him not to talk to you like that. Not so great you posted some poor woman's breasts for all to comment on. No prizes for not posting the picture directly. You may as well have done with posting a link.

[DuineArBith]

Ignore him. You already know he is a nasty, inadequate, abusive pillock who did not say this because it is his genuine opinion, but because he wanted to hurt you. You've already made the decision that he will hate most, namely to get the sad little idiot out of your life. Remember, the best revenge is living well - get out, start enjoying life, and reflect on the fact that he will never do so because he doesn't have the emotional or intellectual intelligence and humanity to form any sort of fulfilling, joyful bond with anyone.

[ExhaustedFlamingo]

Just think about what his spiteful comment has made you do....

You've found a woman who you think has similar boobs and you've posted a link on an Internet forum, to ask a bunch of strangers whether they think your boobs really are saggy or if they're OK.

What your breasts look like is completely irrelevant. I'm not comparing anyone's boobs because there's no need. This man has made your self-esteem plunge so low that you need to hear a bunch of random people tell you that what he said isn't true.

Obviously this is just one of a whole heap of shitty things he's done to you. The sooner you get out of there and start appreciating your authentic, beautiful self, the better. I don't need to see them to be able to tell you that your breasts are lovely just as they are. Hope you're OK and can get your sweet ass out of there asap.

[Italiangreyhound]

He is a loon and doesn't deserve you. Look to your future, he is your past.

[Nofunkingworriesmate]

Swing your lovely tits over your shoulders and sweep out that door to your new life

[Nofunkingworriesmate]

I'd love to have boobs use that
But that's not the problem is it?
That fact you need validation means that this prick has really done a number on you to the point where you are seriously worried your tits are saggy

[thepeopleversuswork]

@formerbabe

I can't be bothered to look at the picture because whether your breasts have succumb to gravity or not is irrelevant. It is a really vulgar, unpleasant and nasty way to speak to you.

This is all that needs to be said. Leave him, feel better. Job done.

[Justaboy]

Seems to me like he's seen one too many pairs of fake boobs / pushed up in a bra boobs etc. and has forgotten what a normal pair of breasts look like!

Yes well, having err umm, "inspected" said apperatus thats exactly right those depeicted look fine and quite normal. What is not normal is very shall we say solid inplants that do stick out. Cant say i 've seen that many but the ones i have over time never seem or very rareley seem to have that natural look as per the model in the referecne pictuire earlier..

Quite why that is i don't know maybe women who are spending thousands on a breast enhancement want to get theri monesyworth perhaps?

[waterproofed]

The fact that he is giving you shit does not mean you have to take it.

What a nasty prick. I’m delighted you will soon be rid of him.

[LuluJakey1]

I take it he is like most men who feel they can make unkind comments about women's bodies- thinks he's Mr Universe but is actually Mr Shit-Wouldn't-Touch-Him-With-A-Bargepole-If-He-Was-The-Last-Man-On-Earth.

[Melroses]

We age and change, our bodies age and change. Nothing stays the same.

'Sagging' is only a way of thinking about it - says more about his mind than you.

[istheresomethingishouldknow]

Just be glad you're leaving him. He's an arsehole whose vile comments are meant to run you down so you'll stay with him.

[fuckinghellapeacock]

You need Chidera Eggerue in your life. You really do.

[ManCubsMama]

He’s said that to ruined your self confidence. Don’t let him

[SandMason]

Your body is precious and deserves to be treasured because it carries YOU inside it. It doesn’t deserve to be held up for scrutiny and judgement. Try to befriend it because it’ll be with you a lot longer than this joker.

[steff13]

Those are lovely natural breasts. I like more support than that, but that's me, hers are fine.

He's just being a douche.

[Fishfingersandwichplease]

Always makes me chuckle at these men who make comments like this - got a perfect body has he?? No, thought not! And even if he did, with a personality like that l wouldn't give a flying one what he looked like!

[userxx]

You have nothing to worry about tit-wise!

But she does, and she's leaving him 👍

[SoooExtra]

Don’t let your DH drag you down — he knows you will be so much better off without him! This is complete mind fuckery. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt but at least try to keep it in mind. Good on your for leaving. You will be way happier.

[MadCattery]

Breasts are overrated. I wish we were like other mammals and they would swell with milk and flatten when not feeding babies. Yours are fine. Don’t give any thought to anyone who tries to make you feel bad. You are worth so much more