To ask about nakedness in front of dc

[Whatafustercluck]

I've always gone on the basis that as soon as your child feels uncomfortable around you being naked, you should start covering up/ closing the door when dressing or bathing. Ds is 9 and not remotely bothered but I'm starting to wonder if this is weird/ out of step with others. We don't parade around naked for no reason of course, but he will frequently see us naked getting dressed/ undressed morning/ night. How open are you with your kids and what age did that stop? I've seen some experts say that it may be inappropriate from 5 which has concerned me tbh.

@StarlightLady exactly my thoughts!

Some very strange ideas on here! You have to understand, when on a naturist beach your genitalia, buttocks, breasts, are just another part of your body. You neither particularly display nor particularly hide them. They just are no more of an issue than your hair or your face or your feet. In fact nakedness draws far less attention to these areas than elaborate tiny "sexy" bikinis, with super-aggressive Brazilian wax to match etc...I get it that many people will never have been in this environment and the idea seems strange, and for me it is just totally normal. But such funny ideas that people have!

I do think that there is a world of difference between consenting adults being naked on their own or with others. That is all totally fine. I quite like being naked sometimes. I sometimes do a drawing class with nude people. I’ve skinny dipped. I could happily be naked around the house if my kids would ever leave!

It’s very different as parents to children. They should be respected. We wouldn’t just get naked with people at work, so why with our kids? We are responsible for bringing them up. It’s not just sexuality, it is appropriateness and giving them the sense of privacy and their bodies as their own. They aren’t extensions of ourselves.

My children have perfectly good concepts of their bodies as their own and of boundaries and their rights. We just don't happen to believe that, in an appropriate environment, being naked constitutes any infringement of privacy or that having our children in this environment gives them the idea that their bodies aren't their own. On the contrary, we celebrate and respect the human body, in all its diverse forms, and while we understand others may not agree, we do not feel that some parts of it need to be always hidden or that we need to give that message to our children.

It is a life philosophy, which I have followed for a good forty years.

@natural63

Please explain how your “we don’t think that” mentality, where you have indoctrinated your children to think like you, is any different than religious indoctrination that you are against?

I've got a 7 month old son and my husband queried me sleeping naked in our bed with him in the next to me cot so he may see me in the morning, we didn't know if I should be covering up? Interesting to see other people's opinions.

@someone1987

No you don't need to cover up in front your your 7 month old who sleeps in your room, I can't even believe anyone would question this.
I've seen threads on here where the majority of people are ok having sex in the same room as their young children whilst they're sleeping. (Definitely not for me I'm not comfortable with that at all) and yet the majority on this thread seem to have a problem with a bit of casual nudity.

@raspberryk thank you. I feel the same, so told my husband I didn't think it was an issue so it's helpful to hear other people's opinions.

Some depressing prudery on this thread.

@Someone1987 - You were born naked! As was your son. No, you do not need to cover up.

I think it’s not okay to be putting our own wants onto our kids, that isn’t prudish, privacy is not prudish, it’s respectful. We should respect our kids. As adults they can make up their own minds.

Now that sounds very odd, I’m presuming people get dressed in front of their two year old so they know where they are and that they are safe not because it is their want to be naked in front of a two year old.

7 months!! Jaysus 😭

I prefer to be prudish or modest

Modest 😂😂😂 hope you cover up your table legs with a long cloth too Jane Austen

People have very strange ideas about nudity. My children aren't going to see my naked body as sexual fgs. Mine are teens and if they happen to see me naked in my bedroom or bathroom I don't rush to hide it. If it makes them uncomfortable they turn away.

Mine are 9 and 7 and I've only recently started asking them to let me dress in private. I don't know why - I just suddenly felt like I didn't want them to see me naked. I don't have any memories of seeing my parents naked and I suppose the thought of it (my parents naked in front of me) seems a little odd to me. I was fine before about it but now it just feels different.

Absolutely Pablos 😀😀😀

WTF is wrong with people. A grown man of 21 years old sitting and chatting to his mother in the bath is not even nearly normal. It's disgusting.

@woodhill 😉

Isn’t this thread about kids, a 21 year old isn’t a kid. Some people go to naturist places with their adult children, not for me but why do so many people insist on sexualising it? I find it more disgusting where your mind goes 🤮

We’re a naked household too and I frequently saw my parents naked. We’re family, it’s just bodies, nature, nothing to be embarrassed about. If somebody comes into the bathroom for a chat when I’m in the bath, they are aware that I will be naked in there. If they come out of their bedrooms looking for clean pants, they may or may not be wearing any. I don’t find it disrespectful or inappropriate.

I will get changed with the door open so if the kids come in they might see me in my undies. Sometimes they will come in the bathroom if I am in the shower as I don't lock the door if I am home alone with them. They are 4 and nearly 3 though. My son is toilet training and doesn't like his sister coming in because of 'privacy'. I think he has picked up the word from his dad. I am hardly ever naked in front of them, only if they come in the bathroom when I get out of the shower.

I have three sisters and we all get changed in front of each other. I wouldn't be naked in front of them but getting changed in and out of pjs to me is fine. My mum was not bothered by us walking in on her as kids and so I am not. My dh always changes in the bathroom with the door locked and does not think the kids should see either of us in a state of undress but then his parents were that way when he was little.

I think in most cases it happens naturally.

Ah, my friend grew up visiting his nudist grandparents at the weekend, who used to take him along to nudist events. He was convinced he was going to ‘heaven’ each weekend with all of the naked people around.
Sorry not what you were asking.
I say do what works for your family, adapt if it stops being ok for anyone.

My son is nearly 10 and only very recently started wanting privacy in the bath and getting undressed. Until then he was unbothered by me sitting chatting to him while he was in the bath. My girls are 12 and 13, and the teen no longer lets anyone see her naked which is fine. The 12 year old still lets me comb her hair in the bath, though she is just starting to be more aware of covering up now she is just starting into puberty.

I get changed in front of my kids, and wouldn't freak out if they saw me naked. But I don't walk around the house naked.

Personally I find it a bit sad when young children want to cover up their bodies, it implies a loss of innocence that can only have come from their parents attitude. I think it's really cute when little children are perfectly happy to run around on the beach naked, it's just a sign that they are totally innocent with no thought of any sexuality.

Mine are 11 and 8 and not remotely bothered. I don’t wander round in the nip but if they catch me with nothing on it’s no bother. They don’t mind being nude in front of me either.

I take my cues from them. I don’t think it’ll be long before the older ones start covering up more, and that’s fine. I don’t want them to do it out of shame though.