To ask about nakedness in front of dc

[Whatafustercluck]

I've always gone on the basis that as soon as your child feels uncomfortable around you being naked, you should start covering up/ closing the door when dressing or bathing. Ds is 9 and not remotely bothered but I'm starting to wonder if this is weird/ out of step with others. We don't parade around naked for no reason of course, but he will frequently see us naked getting dressed/ undressed morning/ night. How open are you with your kids and what age did that stop? I've seen some experts say that it may be inappropriate from 5 which has concerned me tbh.

[bumblingbovine49]

How did he accidentally walk in? our shower is completely audible even when the door is shut

The shower wasn't running and ds hadn't locked the door ( it has a lock) . DS must have forgotten to lock it. It really wasn't DHs fault. As a result though both DH and I do now always knock and announce our intention to go into the bathroom before turning the door handle if the door is closed . Just in case DS is in there and has forgotten to lock the door again . 99.999% of the time no-one is in there but we don't want another repeat !!

[Mornington30]

My only thought is that children should be made aware to be clothed in the presence of those outside their family.

[woodhill]

As I wanted to go and couldn't leave them when younger

[woodhill]

Fair enough. I let mine make their own choices, I don't agree with indoctrination but I did take them to church

[natural63]

People were expressing such strong negative views about naturism, basically accusing me of child abuse because I bring my children up with this aspect of my lifestyle/philosophy, and I was pointing out that everyone instils their philosophies/beliefs/culture in their children and in my opinion indoctrinating children in religion is far more of a problem.

[natural63]

It was an answer in a discussion I was having with @crispysausageroll

[woodhill]

Why are you

[woodhill]

Why do you bringing people's religion into this discussion, is it particularly relevant?

[natural63]

Indoctrinating children about the existence of an imaginary being and teaching them, in many cases, that the beliefs of their tribe/clan in this regard are superior to those of others, is very different from believing that there is nothing special about people seeing other people naked, and telling that to your children (while also explaining that not everyone feels that way and we don't judge those who don't, and that there is a place and time for everything).

[TerrorWig]

Mine are 11 and 8 and not remotely bothered. I don’t wander round in the nip but if they catch me with nothing on it’s no bother. They don’t mind being nude in front of me either.

I take my cues from them. I don’t think it’ll be long before the older ones start covering up more, and that’s fine. I don’t want them to do it out of shame though.

[bonbonours]

My son is nearly 10 and only very recently started wanting privacy in the bath and getting undressed. Until then he was unbothered by me sitting chatting to him while he was in the bath. My girls are 12 and 13, and the teen no longer lets anyone see her naked which is fine. The 12 year old still lets me comb her hair in the bath, though she is just starting to be more aware of covering up now she is just starting into puberty.

I get changed in front of my kids, and wouldn't freak out if they saw me naked. But I don't walk around the house naked.

Personally I find it a bit sad when young children want to cover up their bodies, it implies a loss of innocence that can only have come from their parents attitude. I think it's really cute when little children are perfectly happy to run around on the beach naked, it's just a sign that they are totally innocent with no thought of any sexuality.

[IHateCoronavirus]

Ah, my friend grew up visiting his nudist grandparents at the weekend, who used to take him along to nudist events. He was convinced he was going to ‘heaven’ each weekend with all of the naked people around.
Sorry not what you were asking.
I say do what works for your family, adapt if it stops being ok for anyone.

[Sceptre86]

I will get changed with the door open so if the kids come in they might see me in my undies. Sometimes they will come in the bathroom if I am in the shower as I don't lock the door if I am home alone with them. They are 4 and nearly 3 though. My son is toilet training and doesn't like his sister coming in because of 'privacy'. I think he has picked up the word from his dad. I am hardly ever naked in front of them, only if they come in the bathroom when I get out of the shower.

I have three sisters and we all get changed in front of each other. I wouldn't be naked in front of them but getting changed in and out of pjs to me is fine. My mum was not bothered by us walking in on her as kids and so I am not. My dh always changes in the bathroom with the door locked and does not think the kids should see either of us in a state of undress but then his parents were that way when he was little.

I think in most cases it happens naturally.

[PinkyBrain]

We’re a naked household too and I frequently saw my parents naked. We’re family, it’s just bodies, nature, nothing to be embarrassed about. If somebody comes into the bathroom for a chat when I’m in the bath, they are aware that I will be naked in there. If they come out of their bedrooms looking for clean pants, they may or may not be wearing any. I don’t find it disrespectful or inappropriate.

[PablosHoney]

Isn’t this thread about kids, a 21 year old isn’t a kid. Some people go to naturist places with their adult children, not for me but why do so many people insist on sexualising it? I find it more disgusting where your mind goes 🤮

[PablosHoney]

@woodhill 😉

[Pinkyyy]

WTF is wrong with people. A grown man of 21 years old sitting and chatting to his mother in the bath is not even nearly normal. It's disgusting.

[woodhill]

Absolutely Pablos 😀😀😀

[SallyWD]

Mine are 9 and 7 and I've only recently started asking them to let me dress in private. I don't know why - I just suddenly felt like I didn't want them to see me naked. I don't have any memories of seeing my parents naked and I suppose the thought of it (my parents naked in front of me) seems a little odd to me. I was fine before about it but now it just feels different.

[Titsywoo]

People have very strange ideas about nudity. My children aren't going to see my naked body as sexual fgs. Mine are teens and if they happen to see me naked in my bedroom or bathroom I don't rush to hide it. If it makes them uncomfortable they turn away.

[PablosHoney]

Modest 😂😂😂 hope you cover up your table legs with a long cloth too Jane Austen

[woodhill]

I prefer to be prudish or modest

[PablosHoney]

7 months!! Jaysus 😭

[PablosHoney]

Now that sounds very odd, I’m presuming people get dressed in front of their two year old so they know where they are and that they are safe not because it is their want to be naked in front of a two year old.

[Socialdistancegintonic]

I think it’s not okay to be putting our own wants onto our kids, that isn’t prudish, privacy is not prudish, it’s respectful. We should respect our kids. As adults they can make up their own minds.