Who should get the room?

[newhousenewrooms]

I've been lucky enough to inherit a house without having to lose any family members! Me and my partner are moving in soon with our 2 year old daughter and his two children age 8 and 9 will be staying 3 nights a week.

Partner won't be contributing towards any rent/mortgage as it is inherited so only need to pay the bills which we will split.

It's a 3 bedroom house, 2 decent size rooms and a box room. I think that our DD should have one of the decent size rooms as she is there 7 nights a week. DP thinks his children should have the bigger room because there is two of them.

We haven't argued about it as such, he owns his own house but rents it out and it is making me feel like the green eyed monster as it's my house and why should our DD have a smaller room when she lives there permanently? I have spoken to my family and his family and they all agree that it's unfair on DD but I can see his point about there being two of them.

So now I'm stuck on what I actually think!

We are currently living in my two bedroom apartment and when his children stay, me and DP sleep on a blow up bed in the living room and they have our bed.

AIBU?

[Br1256]

Everyone is talking about his and her daughter(S) ...but the two year appears to be the child of both adults. ...op says ‘our daughter’ ...Perhaps he is worried the older children will not want to visit if they don’t have a decent amount of space. I think the 2yr old would be fine in the smaller room for a few years. I would try the two year old sharing with one of her step sisters but this may make bed time a bit problematic for the older child.

However I do agree with comments re rental income from the second house and the possibility of buying somewhere bigger/loft conversion.Are the financial arrangements you had previously relevant ..did he keep all the rental income when u were living in a flat...is the rental income used for maintenance payments...

Good luck

[shirleybanister]

Realistically, the 2 yr old wont have as much need for a larger room as the older two.
They will be with you for almost half the week. They are probably sad that their dad isn't living with them 24/7 and may miss him a great deal.
It would be a pity if on their visits to you they were made to feel unwanted, which I think is what will happen if you put them in the box room.