Close friend ended friendship due to 'difference in morals'

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Name changed. I'm really hurt by what's happened, and I'm struggling with being told my opinions, which I've never thought are anything too uncommon, are that 'disgusting' (her words) that she cannot continue the friendship. We had a disagreement about a certain subject, which led to her blocking me. A few days later she unblocked me and attacked me with all these messages about different topics, asking me outright what I think as some sort of test, before concluding my answers weren't good enough for her high standards.

AIBU for thinking two close friends, of decades, should be able to have different opinions without cutting ties? I'm not sure I have any choice but to let it go. I'm just angry.

Her last comment was how the world is becoming progressive and I'm not progressing with it and she is. I said why are we falling out over a difference in opinions to which she said "it's a difference in morals" and blocked me again.

It depends what the issue is. I had a fairly close friend at university, after three years he started saying anti-semitic things so I explained why I disagreed with him and then didn’t speak to him again. He had seemed a perfectly nice reasonable person, but obviously not.

You have to remember people change as well, so someones morals can be very different compared to ten years ago.

I've recently had similar happen although not a long standing friend more part of an extended social group, apparently she can't stand to be around mostly me because I don't believe TWAW

She sounds absolutely insufferable
How much did you actually like her before? You must have had an inkling how much of a twat she is?

shes mental. Im sorry this has happened to you

It sounds like you're better off without her.

I'm getting sick of people making statements about trans rights without engaging critical thought, I bet if the majority were siding with JKR then she would be too.

And why would you need to post on social media about BLM? Posting is just for likes and comes across like virtue signalling.

I think YANBU and well rid of the so called friend. Of course friends have differing opinions, it's good to stimulate debate and hear the argument from another side. I think your opinions are perfectly reasonable.

Sorry can I ask what TWA(not)W is?

Oh dear. She sounds intolerable and ignorant anyway. I'd be upset too OP and I'm learning, sadly, to choose my audience when it comes to TWAW as I've lost two friends over it.

Ugh. The JKR thing is divisive but her calling you a racist tory is just ridiculous. She isn't a real friend if she can react like that.

She sounds awful, silence is what's required here.

Fucking hell OP, she sounds unhinged with that update.

Honestly, I’d agree with every one of your opinions that you’ve outlined there. JKR is right, I don’t post petitions etc on SM but I do sign them and I absolutely will not use an important cause like BLM as an opportunity to virtue signal.

It must be really difficult to see a friend turn on you like that, but honestly it sounds like you’re well shot of her.

Wow you have had a lucky escape there! Yanbu, she sounds like a pain in the hole

Sorry what op?

I thought this was what you'd fallen out with your friend about but now you don't know what it is?

I don’t agree with your views on this issue and I probably would find it hard to stay friends with someone who felt the way you do (depending on various factors), but your friend is being hugely melodramatic and unfair. She should be able to respectfully disagree with your views and even withdraw from the friendship without the over-exaggeration and the attempts at public shaming. So I think you’re better off without her, really.

And why would you need to post on social media about BLM? Posting is just for likes and comes across like virtue signalling.

It's a bit like the coerced clapping for the NHS - you had people shaming their neighbours on local pages if they didn't do it. I will choose what I post on social media. If I fail to post about x issue it has no bearing on what I actually think about it, but I'm not doing performative virtue signalling on someone else's command.

She is batshit IMO. You are lucky she's cutting ties; try to move on. As long as your other friends are sane then they will see her jibes for what they are.

The text you sent is entirely reasonable and does not mean you don't care deeply about everyone who's died. I consider that having a broken economy is as much a threat to health (mental health, suicides and the rest) as Covid-19.

That's harsh OP. You e been treated badly, that's no friend.

Life is pretty terrifying at the moment. It feels like walking a minefield if tripwires, being blown up it 'cancelled' fir perceived wrong-think.

I watch a interview with author Lionel Shriver last week and she talked about a 25 year long friend ending a friendship with her after she appeared on Question Time claiming their had 'different Morals'

She said at first she was heartbroken, then hurt and just really fucking angry.

Ronald Reagan once said "Facism will rise again but come in the form of Liberalism"
I don't think RR is some kind of mighty philosopher but it's scary.

And yes, she sounds awful. It's hard but you're better off without "friends" like that.

TBH she sounds dreadful OP. To dump a close friend because you disagree about one thing (I don’t think JKR said anything that most people would find so offensive that you couldn’t at least discuss it) and because you didn’t post about something else is very odd, and no friendship I would want back.

We have been very close friends for a very long time. I knew she had different opinions to me, she is very vocal on twitter and has made many statements I disagree with, I just never voice that I disagree or really engage. It's never been a direct conversation before for this to happen. We argued when I didn't vote labour, for the first time ever, because I said I support labour, always have, but not Corbyns labour. It took a while to get back to normal after that, I had to apologise a lot and was called a 'tory' a lot. It's her comments about how to worlds progressing and I'm not that has really hit home. I see it a lot on twitter, everyone my age seems to have very different opinions to me, and be very vocal about them. I'm of the opinion that things are going too far, but of course too scared to voice that as I've been shown by this whole situation. I just feel like I'm the odd one out and it hurts be to called out on it.

That's so frustrating and unfair. I find the fact that I can't even discuss genuine concerns relating to language used to describe women, and the existence of women as a sex very depressing. J K Rowling has done so much good and does not come across to me as intolerant just questioning, but unfortunately no sensible discussion on this topic is allowed. She will now be considered beyond the pale. Social control through social media is real - you're racist for not having a specific Facebook post??

I thought this was what you'd fallen out with your friend about but now you don't know what it is?

It's an acronym not everyone uses