To be relieved families probably won’t be going abroad this summer?

[Summermummer]

To keep a long story short, we as a family are fairly tight on money. I love my DC and would do anything for them. We live in a good area and my DC go to a good school and live in a safe place.
However, in order to afford to live where we do and pay the bills, money is tight. This means no “frivolous” expenses, which usually means no holidays.
Every year my DC return to school after summer to hear about all of their classmates summer holidays which are usually ‘big’ holidays (Orlando, Spain, etc) and they always ask why they can’t go on holiday and how I’m not as nice as their friends parents.
AIBU to be glad that just for once my kids won’t be made to feel left out?

I don't want to piss on your parade but it's very likely that EU holidays could start very soon. The government has been working on air bridges with countries like Spain so there's no quarantine necessary.

Yabu
Just because you don't go on holiday, it's good that nobody else can... great attitude

Why do you think people won't e going abroad?

Yabu

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It might be a better idea to teach your children about gratitude and appreciating what they have. Comparison is the theif of joy.

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YANBU. It's ok to feel pleased that for once you are not straggling behind others.

YABU.

Comparison is the thief of joy. It’s extremely likely that holidays are going to start up again anyway, we will certainly be going on our holiday if the restrictions are lifted. We work hard and save hard for our holidays just like a lot of people.

I’m sorry that you feel the way you do but you ABU.

YANBU, OP
I think the people who are criticising you have not been in your position. It can be very wearing being constantly upbeat about being the poorest in your immediate circle

YABU, just because the way you've organised your life, ie. Nice schools, expensive area, etc. means you can't go on holiday shouldn't mean every one else has to suffer. Other people have obviously prioritised holidays and other memories, or have got jobs better suited to that lifestyle.

Your children need to understand that not everyone has as much money as everyone else. We have very wealthy friends. I have so ways just shrugged and said 'we can't afford that'. My children might feel slightly aggrieved but so what? There's always going to be someone with more disposable income

To posters who say they “work hard for their money” - I do work hard. I’m a single mother and work long hours as a key worker. By a nice area I mean not a council estate, which is where I grew up. I totally get where some of you are coming from and I know I shouldn’t compare but it’s frustrating, and comments like this rub me the wrong way.

You need to teach your kids some manners.

Also it doesn't sound like you're on the breadline so not sure what you're complaining about. What about those who don't live in a nice house, in a nice area, with good schools who also can't go on holiday? You've got the freedom to make choices. Lots of other people don't.

What a strange attitude to have. To be relived that others have missed out on their family holidays just because you can’t afford one.

Yep, my holiday to Orlando was cancelled, but hey, as long as that makes you feel better then my kids disappointment was worth it.

I understand your thinking but think that it is very selfish. Your children would be happier in a good State school with peers from families of similar means. There will be other indulgences, apart from foreign holidays, that the children in their current school who are from wealthier families have.

Oh god, please can we ban “key worker”!!

YABU, it sounds very selfish to be pleased that other people can't go on holiday because you can't go on holiday. My dad has a fear of flying so we couldnt go on foreign holidays (although we did go to northern France once or twice). People lead different lives, have different incomes and different priorities. If your children are old enough to complain about not getting nice holidays, they're old enough to understand why and have some gratitude for all you do for them.

I think lots of people will go on holiday abroad and you need to teach your children some manners they sound a delight OP

I grew up the poorest in my social group and never had a foreign holiday but it would never have occurred to me to guilt my parents over it. That should be your focus.

@Nicknacky 100% agree. It is just so irrelevant and unnecessary.

Hate to disappoint you OP, but the Spanish govt has just confirmed that British tourists will be welcome in Spain and there will be no need to quarantine. So maybe those summer holidays are going to happen after all.

OP I understand the sentiment behind your point. The world is an unfair place. Please keep in mind that as bad as you may feel, it's still much better than let's say hunger in Yemen. I do hope you can understand that comparison is the thief of joy.

I bought a cheap council house because i choose to spend my money on nice holidays over living in a nicer area - own your choices

OP, YANBU mainly because no-one from the UK should be going to another country this year without full 14 day quarantine and testing. The infection rate in the UK is far too high.

That Spain has opened its borders staggers me tbh

YABU, but I sympathise as that was our older kids experience.
First of all you need to educate them seriously.
Teach them that everybody can't have the same and how life isn't fair, and give examples of how unjust it can be.
Teach them to be grateful for what they have and what is expected of them if they want a certain lifestyle.
They are never to young to learn this lesson, and it's ongoing throughout their life, sometimes you'll have to remind them of this because life isn't fair.
To be glad that others can't enjoy holidays is just bitter, and useless.
We finally had a family holiday when the older kids were 19 and 16 and dd 8.