To be relieved families probably won’t be going abroad this summer?

[Summermummer]

To keep a long story short, we as a family are fairly tight on money. I love my DC and would do anything for them. We live in a good area and my DC go to a good school and live in a safe place.
However, in order to afford to live where we do and pay the bills, money is tight. This means no “frivolous” expenses, which usually means no holidays.
Every year my DC return to school after summer to hear about all of their classmates summer holidays which are usually ‘big’ holidays (Orlando, Spain, etc) and they always ask why they can’t go on holiday and how I’m not as nice as their friends parents.
AIBU to be glad that just for once my kids won’t be made to feel left out?

I never went abroad when I was young, my parents couldn’t afford it but I don’t remember them being unhappy about others being able to go. The only time I recall being upset was when they said I couldn’t go and see Madonna but that was probably more about the fact DM thought she was vulgar than the money! Going without when I was young, drove me to become the first in my family to go to uni so I could get a job which paid enough for nice things like going abroad.

In any case there’s no such thing as a level playing field. There are millions of people around the world who would love what you’ve got. Believe it or not you’re probably still in the worlds top 10% of wealth (you need $93k in assets including value of home - you only need about $4k to tour name to be in the top 50%!).

It’s ok to feel disappointment at not being able to have or do something. It is not ok to wish others can’t have or do it too. It’s not a good look and not a good attitude to pass on to your children. It will just set them up for a lifetime of unhappiness.

YABU.

It's not nice to be relieved that other people have had their holidays cancelled. Lots of people save for a year or two to be able to afford a holiday, and now they won't be able to go, and many can't get their money back either.

It's not your children's fault your mortgaged yourself up to eyeballs to buy an expensive house. That was your choice, and the consequence is you can't afford to take your children abroad. Lots of families make the opposite choice, and choose to live in smaller houses/less desirable areas in order to afford holidays.

We are going to go in October half term. Do not want to go anywhere till then. Your children I’m sure are fine, there will be lots of people taking their holidays in the UK.

YABU - very much so

I'll never afford to take mine to America or Disney etc - so what?

We are still hopefully going to France in August - a basic caravan in the south - by the sea - lots of swimming and self catering - nothing OTT

We also camp a lot in the UK (sadly cancelled 2 camps so far) - I'm not rich am also s lone parent - there will always be people better off than me and people who have less - I don't get my knickers in a twist over it.

If my kids ever pull that 'so and so's parents do X,Y,Z' shit on me they get nowhere

Well op DS is on o2 so can't fly so I'm glad you can't afford to go away and I hope you never get to go abroad with the kids.

Is that fair?