To feel sorry for woman who believe their lip fillers make them more attractive??

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It’s not really AIBU as it’s my opinion but anyway...

I was at work yesterday and a young woman came in and clear as day had lip fillers. I was looking thinking , I can not understand why people pay to have this done. It looks awful.

You can tell straight away that they’ve had fillers

I assume slightly enhancing them can be a positive in some cases, but some just go too far until they look like comedy lips and over do it.

I was just looking thinking, I bet that woman looked more appealing and attractive to the average person with her own, natural lips!

I felt sorry for her that she was thinking that would make her more attractive....

I dread my DD growing up seeing these imagines and finding them beautiful.

@Lifeisgenerallyfun but if fun. Everything is made bigger so why not your lips. Also if your mates are doing it, you will too. I’ve had my lips done and would do it again, but the results always look so bad in England that I doubt the injector has the skills to give me a good look.
Botox is great for removing lines. I however don’t wear make up and have virgin hair, so I’m not fitting your mould of what you think a injected women looks like!

Miljea I take your point but are women so weak that they can't dictate to men how they should look? Why do men get to say how women should look?

They can though because right behind men dictating what looks good are women like the OP and her ilk on this thread, putting the boot in.

I don't get it. We (women) are legion and we could knock this male gaze and stipulation into a cocked hat if we wanted to. We clearly don't; our time is too taken up with commenting and judging.

I don't want my daughter ever getting onto a forum like this, it's insidious - and that's got nothing to do with the menz, this one's down to women.

All I can think of is Lesley Ash.

A 14 year old neighbour has stuck on eyelashes that are at least a inch long. Just makes her look stupid, and a bit of a tart
What a fucking abhorrent thing to think never mind actually write.
The fact that you've called A CHILD that says way more about you than fake eyelashes do about her.
How vile!
FYI - where I live loads of 14/15 year old girls are wearing them. Do they look realistic? no! Does it make them tarts? also no! It's for no other reason other than it's one of the 'in' things at the moment.

Sorry OP, now that is off my chest....
Yabu
They don't need you to feel sorry for them.

Some people do look better with them.

Subtle improvement?

The posters saying that you shouldn't focus on what others are doing & question why women feel the need to change their bodies & faces to look a certain way are you all ok with genetic selection & choosing how babies look? Why get the surgery post birth when you can have it before?

@WhenPushComesToShove yes looks fab.... but sadly the majority of people I see don’t look that good haha

I used to have 0 lips, literally a line across the top of my mouth.
I hated it. When I smiled it was just teeth and my face wasn’t in proportion. Couldn’t wear lipstick either as nothing to put it on.

Got fillers and fake looking or not I love them so much I couldn’t care less what anyone else thinks!

Yanbu, they look shit and fake.

@WhenPushComesToShove They look very natural. It is understandable for those with deflated or small lips.
Though some are OTT if over filled.

@User1775836552 I think the give away sign is that the lips curl a little bit, (I know some lips naturally do) I do like them though, they aren't over the top.

When lip fillers are so plump they are noticeable, my instant judgement is that I feel they make the person look vain and vacuous. I feel the same about overly defined eye brows and chalk white teeth but this is probably to do with my age (late 40’s) - I honestly don’t think appearance was such a big deal growing up as it is now. I know this is incredibly prejudiced of me and the person in question could well have a degree in quantum mechanics or do an amazing job community serving job but that’s my honest first impression. Give me a face full of flaws and character any day. That’s the person I would approach to at social gathering based on the likelihood they would be interesting to chat to!

I know what you mean, they look so artificial. I don't think the lips stay like that though, do they?

Whenpush that looks like a really good job. Clearly a case where there had been age related thinning and the practitioner has only attempted to restore it.

In my home town loads of very young women have it done and it looks awful. Very strange.

I love mine.

Absolutely agree it looks cheap fake and tacky. Looking forward to that silly fashion fading out

IME people who say that nobody has noticed are sometimes unaware that their friends have but not said anything.

I met up with group including a former colleague just before lockdown. I'd seen her around Xmas time with the same people and immediately noticed she'd had filler in her cheeks, botox and lip fillers. It was really obvious when she was talking - her face didn't move in the same way. I didn't say anything - just commented that she was looking well. When I saw her in early March, she was crowing about the fact that she'd had this work done and we hadn't noticed. One of the others, who'd had a few glasses of wine, said to her that everyone had clocked the work but didn't want to mention it in case it offended her. I think it took the wind out of her sails a bit.

She looked nice before and after the work - but the 'tweakments' made her look different in a way that's immediately noticeable. As a PP has said, something that looks invisible in a picture often jumps out in real life because it affects how your face moves.

**I take your point but are women so weak that they can't dictate to men how they should look? Why do men get to say how women should look?

^They can though because right behind men dictating what looks good are women like the OP and her ilk on this thread, putting the boot in^

I don't get it. We (women) are legion and we could knock this male gaze and stipulation into a cocked hat if we wanted to. We clearly don't; our time is too taken up with commenting and judging.

I don't want my daughter ever getting onto a forum like this, it's insidious - and that's got nothing to do with the menz, this one's down to women.**

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

What you’re saying doesn’t even make sense.

I said it’s a shame that women feel the need to alter their bodies by putting chemicals in they’d lips in order to confirm to society’s idea of beautiful.

Whether the watch ‘celebrities’ and want to copy them, whether they think men will find them more attractive- there are different reasons why people chose to do it.

How is mr saying that it’s sad they feel this pressure, putting pressure on them to do it?

It just doesn’t make any sense

One of my next door neighbours is a teenage girl. She's so naturally pretty. Then she had lip fillers and puts pictures of herself on Facebook with a hideous duck pout.

It's so desperately sad that young beautiful women feel the need to sexualise themselves in this way when they were far better looking natural but they can't seem to see it.

Calling out unnecessary surgery doesn't sound like a bad thing to me?

YANBU - see that advert for a car, I think, with that previous singer Kemp(?) and his son. They collect a TOWIE woman and drop her off somewhere important.
Man, she looked unreal. (Not in a good way.)
WHY?!

I think it's tragic that so many women have been convinced to part with money for procedures like this.

The obvious fillers look dreadful.
The less obvious ones are pointless.
I have never seen a pair of lips that I thought would benefit from fillers.

My dd ruined her graduation photos with the trout pout. I think they’re vile.

I am 46 and would like them but wouldn’t waste money on it. I think they mostly look nice. My DD has lovely full lips as she is mixed race and I often look at hers and wish mine were similarly plump!