To feel sorry for woman who believe their lip fillers make them more attractive??

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It’s not really AIBU as it’s my opinion but anyway...

I was at work yesterday and a young woman came in and clear as day had lip fillers. I was looking thinking , I can not understand why people pay to have this done. It looks awful.

You can tell straight away that they’ve had fillers

I assume slightly enhancing them can be a positive in some cases, but some just go too far until they look like comedy lips and over do it.

I was just looking thinking, I bet that woman looked more appealing and attractive to the average person with her own, natural lips!

I felt sorry for her that she was thinking that would make her more attractive....

I dread my DD growing up seeing these imagines and finding them beautiful.

My SIL has her lips done, she’s such a beautiful lady and it does nothing for her other than make her look ridiculous. I don’t understand it.

You wouldn't spend that money if you lived alone in a cave.

There are lots of things you wouldn’t spend money on if you lived in a cave. Nice clothes, makeup, underwear, even shampoo.

Do you have an issue with those?

Not you mouth or money, so not really your business

I think they are hideous. Women don't need them.

YABU because that’s the look they want.

Yes I’ve seen 99% of bad lip fillers in England but I think it’s just the look they what.

Yabu. They're not all the same. Some are very subtle and can make thin or small lips more attractive.

Well it makes no difference to me what other people choose to do to their own bodies, however it does make me sad to see how far some women take it, usually perfectly attractive young women to begin with. None of this shit that some people take so seriously these days means a thing. I used to get bullied for having 'big lips' now the Clone Army at the school gates are probably judging my lips as being too small!! In another few years there will be some other trend to take its place and trout pouts will be so last year.

Not really your business is it?

I generally find the current trend for very heavy instagrammable makeup (contouring etc), with fake tattooed on eyebrows, SO unattractive. It makes young women look so aged. I was raised in the school of thought that heavy foundation was there to hide terrible skin and worry that the whole things smacks of people with no confidence in their own appearance.

[quote fridpst]@ShebaShimmyShake but maybe your 11 lines were not noticeable to anyone else? I remember losing a stone after dc1 & being confused that no one noticed.

I couldn't tell you which of my friends have 11 lines or not, I'm looking at them not their wrinkles. [/quote]
I can believe that they weren't as bad to others as they looked to me, but they were noticeable and I had had comments on them. I was a new mother at the time, so it's possible people think it was just sleep deprivation and I'm fine now, although I don't think lines and wrinkles work that way.

I'm absolutely 100% positive that nobody has noticed. Certainly I've been involved in conversations where people freely denigrate those who have Botox in such a way that I'm quite satisfied they wouldn't have done it if they'd known (these people like me!). Also, it just isn't the transmogrification that some people think it is. Just two lines disappear, over the course of a few days after the treatment. In the days following, I can feel that I have some reduced movement there, but I've never been frozen. My Botox administrator says much the same thing. People think it's this plastic, freeze-dried, drumskin thing and it really isn't.

Thing is there are fashions in looks for women.

70’s super thin lips. Skinny bodies.
80’s big hair polished presentation.
90’s skinny and thin mousey hair.

More recently a full mouth.

Blokes - change in fashion rather than features.

Personally I think people suit the mouth they have.

I agree with everything @cheeseismydownfall said. I do genuinely believe women should be able to do whatever they want and have full autonomy over their bodies and choices about their appearance.
I do however loathe this trend which absolutely has come from porn, to emphasise the female mouth as it receives the Mighty Cock that must be Worshipped 🤮 yuck yuck yuck it's all about being more pleasing to the male gaze in a sexual way and I despise that.

I always remember that Peter Burns died from problems caused by lip fillers so I’d always be too scared to get them done.

HD brows, big fat lips, eyelash extensions, hair extensions and loads of makeup equals one ugly look.

I'm hearing ' do what you like, it doesn't affect me' - but it does.

It changes people's (male) perception of what you should look like, what your DD should look like.

Lip fillers don't happen in isolation.

I think the problem with posting pictures of lips is that it is when people are talking and eating that the fillers are really obvious. They are never an improvement, so are at best a waste of time and money. I guess women can waste their own time and money however they want, but it is a shame to do it to look less attractive, at best, and ridiculous at worst.

Exactly @Miljea

It’s not just a matter of free choice. Why are young women spending money on lip fillers as if it’s basic grooming, like getting their nails done?

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I think yours look nice. It's not too obvious and they are not too large

I think yabu. You don't have to like it, but you're wrong to judge other people for it. It's the same with any beauty, aesthetic or cosmetic treatment or procedure, what one person loves another may hate. If the person who is having it done is happy then good for them.

@Miljea men will find whatever they want attractive. Lots of men enjoy the natural look and personality wise I think the ‘bimbo’ look will attract the ‘bimbo’ man (whatever that is). Eg the type of men on Love Island aren’t dating women who aren’t of a certain look. Like attracts like.

I suppose people can do what they want, but I do wonder why they want to do such things. Do they think it looks good, do they think it’s the trend? Is it an addiction? Are their underlying issues? Are they doing it for someone else?

Older women can and often do look beautiful and classy. Yet some women seem to have the desire to pump their lips full of chemicals which invariably make them look like a fish, use a permanent marker to fill in their eyebrows, stick two Hot air balloons on their chest and bleach their hair so much it looks like it will break if it’s brushed, even younger women do it. Noses shaved to no more than a piece of wire running down their face with two (usually differing sized) nostrils attached.
Why?

There not their ffs

Really posh ones can look ok and less obvious.

Just leave people to do it. If you don’t like a particular beauty treatment/cosmetic treatment the great news is nobody is forcing you to get it. I don’t really understand why people are so focused on what others are doing with how they look, have you not got much else to think or talk about?

AIBU to feel sorry for women who have nothing better to do than slate other women for their appearance?