DD Shaved Her Head

[CrazyLady82]

More of a wwyd.

My DD18 has just called me and told me she has shaved her head. DD already had short hair.

DD reasons were that her hair was damaged from all the coloring and she didn't like the color it was.

I am sitting here trying not to loose my mind. I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with DD2 and am thinking part of my reaction is pregnancy hormones. After telling DD I wasn't happy with the choice, but it was her choice I hung up the phone. I have been crying and silent screaming for 10 minutes.

I don't want to say anything to bad to her. I know that it is her choice.

Could someone help give me a reality check that shaving her head isn't that bad? I need to get a grip as it is her life.

@0blio. I'm sorry to hear about your DD. I hope she's doing well

Are you always this dramatic? its not good for your children.

Here, have this grip.

It'll grow back and be in far better condition when it does.
DD2 (17) has been flirting with the idea of a No. 2 all over. If she wants it, she can go for it.

Silent screams

After telling DD I wasn't happy with the choice, but it was her choice I hung up the phone.

You sound like an awful person.

I have been crying and silent screaming for 10 minutes.

Have you considered, at all, how she will be feeling after you told her you were not happy and hung up the phone

You need to get a grip. It's her hair she cut off not her tits.

My DD did this when she was 16.She knew it would grow back before college so it was a good time.
She looked stunning and got lots of compliments at her prom.
One year on and it's shoulder length.
I wasn't sure about it but at 16 she was old enough to decide and saved a lot of haircutting bills.

I had mine done during my O levels, went to school with a Human league style wedge with a chin length fringe, came home with a #2. My mum went apeshit.

Get a grip.

Ya know what I bet it looks really nice on her.
I don't think you need to worry.

Silent screaming 🤣🤣🤣

My eldest wanted to shave her head. I did it for her. That was a few years ago and after keeping it shaved for a while she’s grown it again.

I’m 50. Day after lockdown I gave myself a buzz cut. Bloody love it and am never growing my hair again. My mother hates it but I have never taken any notice of her when it comes to how I dress etc

🥴 Can you explain what actually the problem is with a shaved head?
My wonderfully elegent mum has a no.2 and looks marvellous.

Call your DD back and apologise to her profusely. You've been shit to her.

Good for her. She's an adult. It's just hair. It regrows. You need to get a bloody grip.

(having grown up in a hot country my only reaction is "well make sure you either wear a hat or use very good sunscreen in the sun cos you don't want sunburn on your head or tops of your ears - speel about skin cancer & tops of ears et al" )
Otherwise if her hair was damaged by dye hopefully her hair will be great

She might think it's a bit "ick" that her Mum is pregnant 18 years after having her, but she probably acted like a grown up and said something nice rather than tell you that she isn't happy with your choice.

As I thought. It is me. I need to get a grip.

Yes I was over dramatic with my reaction, but in my defense I am the only one home so thought I could let some things out. Part of the reaction might be other stressful things in my life.

DD18 doesn't know that I was crying. I'm not going to tell her either.

DD18 does live at home. She has just gotten here. I didn't yell or scream. Told her it looked different and went about my day and she went to her room.

@Mistystar99 I only put in the pregnancy because I thought it might explain part of the reaction (i.e. the crying). There are reasons for 18 years between two children. The major being fertility and miscarriages.

I have been crying and silent screaming for 10 minutes.

Really? Have you really been doing this?

Society puts too much value on women's hair. My best friend shaved hers a few years ago at 47 years old and her Mum cried for weeks.

Take pride in the fact you've raised a confident young woman who is confident enough to do what she wants with her hair instead of what others thinks she should do with it.

Sorry but the silent screaming is hilarious. 😂

I can’t imagine what you’d do if she starts dating someone you don’t like.

DD18 does live at home. She has just gotten here. I didn't yell or scream. Told her it looked different and went about my day and she went to her room.

Maybe go and apologise to her, your reaction to her was awful, and now you are just getting in with your day

Silent screaming is the new Sistine Chapel.

Good God some of you are mean. OP I think part of your reaction is pregnancy hormones. Another part, maybe a feeling of loss at her being more and more of a grown up, not your little girl anymore. So, yes, silent screaming is quite OTT, but maybe you have attenuating circs with the pregnancy .

@nomorefencepostsplease Actually when she found out I was pregnant she threatened to move out. Told me I was too old. If I mention the baby or the pregnancy around her she starts yelling that she doesn't want to hear about it. Doesn't say anything but complain that when the baby is born she will hear it through the walls. That it will cramp her style to have a young sibling. So no she didn't say something nice. She got mad at me for being pregnant. With implying that she would be happy if I didn't have the baby.

She may look great! Don't worry about it, in four weeks she'll have a nice, short, soft hairstyle again. It will grow, you know!

You need to say sorry to your daughter. Your reaction on the phone was bad enough but sounds like you were pretty awful when she got home too.