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DD Shaved Her Head

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CrazyLady82 · 09/06/2020 17:48

More of a wwyd.

My DD18 has just called me and told me she has shaved her head. DD already had short hair.

DD reasons were that her hair was damaged from all the coloring and she didn't like the color it was.

I am sitting here trying not to loose my mind. I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with DD2 and am thinking part of my reaction is pregnancy hormones. After telling DD I wasn't happy with the choice, but it was her choice I hung up the phone. I have been crying and silent screaming for 10 minutes.

I don't want to say anything to bad to her. I know that it is her choice.

Could someone help give me a reality check that shaving her head isn't that bad? I need to get a grip as it is her life.

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MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 09/06/2020 17:54

It's just hair and she's an adult.

SummerHouse · 09/06/2020 17:55

My sister did this. I have never really forgiven my nan for her reaction.

The very best thing you can do is just support her. She might just regret it and feel a bit vulnerable. She might not.

Why does it bother you?

LadyLeucadia · 09/06/2020 17:55

The good thing about hair is that it grows back! :)

wildcherries · 09/06/2020 17:55

She's an adult, it's her life, and it's only hair. You do need to get a grip.

Foobydoo · 09/06/2020 17:55

Think of it as a temporary blip.
She could have had a tattoo on her forehead.
Her hair will grow back very soon.
And if it doesn't think of Gail Porter who lost her hair from alopecia, she still looks absolutely beautiful regardless of hair.

randomchap · 09/06/2020 17:56

You hung up the phone after telling her that you weren't happy with the choice? You should phone back and apologise. She's an adult and can do what she wants with her hair. Accept that she's allowed to do what she wants with her appearance, it's hers not yours.

Alittleodd · 09/06/2020 17:56

Reality check definitely needed.

She's 18. It's hair. It grows back. Even if it didn't, it wouldn't matter to be honest.

Blame it on the hormones

BrokenBrit · 09/06/2020 17:56

Huge overreaction OP. It is just hair Confused.
Shaved heads on females can look great and have become increasingly popular during lockdown.

Newchapter2020 · 09/06/2020 17:56

Unless it's a cry for help in the Britney spears kind of way. YABU. Jeez. It's her hair, it's got nothing to do with you. So what she has shaved it? Whats the issue?

wksh182 · 09/06/2020 17:56

Really it's nothing to do with you if she is 18. Hair grows back, I don't understand your OTT reaction at all.

vanillandhoney · 09/06/2020 17:56

Errr, why are you crying about it? Hmm

Frenchfancy · 09/06/2020 17:57

My Dd did it on her 18th birthday (or rather I did it for her) I wasn't keen until she pointed out that if she were a boy I wouldn't have a problem with it. As a feminist I couldn't argue with her.

She looked beautiful with a shaved head and her hair is now thick, shiny and curly (it wasn't before)

FizzyPink · 09/06/2020 17:57

Judging by the amount of root growth I’ve had during lockdown, hair grows a lot quicker than you think, it’ll be fine

Choice4567 · 09/06/2020 17:57

What is your issue exactly?

Nottherealslimshady · 09/06/2020 17:58

Thought you were gonna say your 3yr old gave herself a home-do!
She's a grown woman who can shave her hair if she wants. I've been tempted to for ages but my fat face would look ridiculous, good on her!
Cant imagine my mum crying over what I choose to do with my hair Confused

EmbarrassedWoman · 09/06/2020 17:58

Your dd chose to shave her haor because it os what she wanted.
It could have been she was sick, having chemo and had to shave it.
She is well. She doesnt have hair. But its her choice.
In time she may have hair again or she may choose to keep it short.
Its just not a big issue

Oldraver · 09/06/2020 17:58

What's with the silently screaming, that's rather dramatic ?

0blio · 09/06/2020 17:58

My daughter shaved her head too but it was because she didn't want hair everywhere when the chemo made it all fall out.

In lockdown, I've thought about giving myself a buzz cut as I cant stand the feeling of having too much hair and my hairdressing appointment isn't until next month.

Its hair. It will grow, no need for silent screaming. I'm sure your daughter looks beautiful, as mine does.

Doje · 09/06/2020 17:58

Yeah, I think this is the pregnancy hormones I'm afraid. Not judging - When I was pregnant I cried for 30 minutes over a flat tyre. 🤦‍♀️

IncrediblySadToo · 09/06/2020 17:59

WWYD

Slap you around the chops with a wet 🐟

She's 18. It's hair, it'll grow back, & healthier by the sound of it.

@ShowOfHands. How did DD's school react? I think you'd see the kittens squeezing under the school gates if DC turned up with a shaved head 🤣

MuthaClucker · 09/06/2020 17:59

I have been crying and silent screaming for 10 minutes

Dam that's some strong pregnancy hormones Grin

Come on now. In the nicest possible way, take a long look at what's going on in the world and get a grip.

custodiandiscount · 09/06/2020 17:59

it's just hair, it'll grow back. calm down.

my colleague did this and looked stunning.

RandomMess · 09/06/2020 17:59

It'll grow but I was sad when my DD did the same, hate it.

FizzyPink · 09/06/2020 18:00

Also although I appreciate it may be pregnancy hormones making you overreact, please try not to take it out on her.

I was mid teens when my mum had 2 more children and the volatility of her mood swings due to the pregnancies mixed with my teenage hormones really ruined our relationship at the time. I remember her getting very angry at me for lots of tiny things that really didn’t matter which was quite unfair considering I was her unpaid childcare a lot of the time

NiceTwin · 09/06/2020 18:00

My 13 year old did hers 3 days into lockdown.
She looked beautiful and still does now it is a bit longer.

Why the tears?
Can't understand why you'd cry about it.

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