DH won't let me relax when I'm eating

[loreleigilmore28]

I had my second baby in December and this time around I've struggled to lose the weight I gained (probably gained more than I should in pregnancy anyway)

DH hasn't really said anything about it
apart from when I've mentioned that it's getting me down he'll say "oh well do something about it then". He won't give me sympathy but that's fine I do need a bit of a push to action.

However he's been really pissing me off about eating. Whenever, and I mean whenever, he sees me eating, even my regular meals not even snacks, he always raises an eyebrow or smirls and says "so much for the diet". It takes the enjoyment out of me eating anything at all.

Last night he rang me on his way home, quite late, kids in bed... he's getting a take away, do I want something. So I said yes please that sounds nice the usual etc...

So he comes home but then when I'm dishing mine out ( in a normal manner) he goes 'oh look at you, you cant wait'... I ignore him.
Then when I'm eating he does an impression of me eating like an exaggerated mouth stuffed "nom mom nom".

So I just went mad, told him why did he bring it if he just planned to mock me for eating it, and he'd ruined the meal for me. I put it on the side and went upstairs.
But then hes kicked off for me being rude and respectful but I'd literally had enough.
He went to work this morning still in a mood but I'm not placating him or apologising for kicking off like I usually would because I really think I've had enough.
Aibu?

[amillionnamechangeslater000]

What a prick! I’d try speaking to him about it when you’re not eating and say how he’s making you feel. If he kicks off then or continues to harangue you when eating then you really do have quite a dickhead for a husband.

[DeeCeeCherry]

kellyhall epic fail trying to weight shame a new mum by agreeing with her being mocked for eating. Even if you did dress it up in cringingly patronising unasked for weight & health advice, can still see you...

[pinkstar01]

Omg he sounds horrible. I'm 5 months pp and on a diet most days but some days I just give in, my DH wouldn't ever say those things to me. Last night I was munching on an entire bag of kettle chips and I said to him I've fallen off the wagon. He said, you're only human.
He doesn't sound like a nice person at all :(

[SunshineCake]

FGS why do people say show the stupid men spoken about in the OP the thread? Do they really think they will take notice of strangers when they are being shit to their wives?

*@loreleigilmore28 you have done nothing wrong. Time for a calm, ice cold conversation with this dickhead. You may be a bit heavier but that is because you gave him a child and are probably run ragged looking after them. From tomorrow he has the baby while you go out for a walk, as long as you like, exercise for you which is good for emotional health, and a lesson for him about how hard it can be looking after a child.

[Soon2BeMumof3]

Gaslighting bastard.

[MrMagooInTheLoo]

You should feel comfortable in your own home with your family. No excuses for his behaviour.

Do you complain about your weight to him if so maybe you shouldn't. He might think on some crazy arse way he's helping you cos he thinks you want to lose weight

[Idontbelieveit12]

That’s nasty, borderline abusive I would say!

[BarbedBloom]

You know what, men like this don't improve when you lose the weight either. I once rage ate a McDonalds because after losing 8 stone I fancied one. It was the first one i had eaten in two years and when I came back to the car, my partner at the time said, remember when you were fat? Then he pointed at my burger and said, you'll soon be fat again. I pointed out I had been eating healthily all week and wanted a burger. While I ate it he kept googling the calories and reading them out and how many hours I would have to exercise to burn it off like a demented Jillian Michaels. I got out and came back with a McFlurry and a milkshake and smiled, enjoying every mouthful. I realised he had done this our whole relationship and i had felt like i deserved it for being fat. I dumped him soon after. Bear in mind, all of this while overweight himself.

You don't need to be told when you are saying something mean, you should have enough empathy to realise it. He offered to get you a takeaway for a start and then used it as a stick to beat you with.

[Fluffycloudland77]

Oh he’s trying to find a subtle way of telling you you gained weight isn’t he?.

Very, very mean behaviour. I wouldn’t apologise, I bet he doesn’t do this to friends or family!.

[SuperMedium]

He said you were rude and disrespectful? Did he think he was kicking himself and berating his own reflection in the mirror?

Bloody hell what a nasty, cruel, pathetic limp dick he sounds! Did he pull the wings off live insects and torture cats as a child?

[Swingoutsistersledge2]

He sounds like a right arsehole ...he needs to back off . I would not put up with that behaviour he is acting like a 12 year old . Hope you are ok .

[Takingontheworld]

Like fuck should you apologise.

What a giant prick.

[evrey]

He is a cruel person . Huge red flag . He could leave you with food issues if he keeps this up . Is he this nasty in any other areas of life?

[Rayshine13]

He is an arsehole. Don’t apologise

[AnneofbigCleevesage]

Ditch DH. Thats a good10-14 stone lost immediately. Thats all the weight i can see you are carrying at the moment.

[C8H10N4O2]

You both need to apologise and mean it

To hell with that, victims should not feel they owe bullies an apology.

He is persisting a pattern of bullying over food. Its rare for bullies to confine their behaviour to one area.

[CrystalTipped]

Eat in a different room to him until he can remember his manners.

And stop mentioning your weight to him if he can't be supportive.

[Longdistance]

If my dh did that he’d be wearing his fucking dinner.
If I said to my dh I wanted to lose weight, he’d get me the take away but wouldn’t mention anything. I’m a grown woman and can make my own decisions. No need for mockery, that’s just shitty behaviour.

[MagnoliaJustice]

What a prick. In his idiotic way, he probably thinks he's being funny. I would be inclined to tell him exactly how his mockery makes you feel, and see if there's a glimmer of understanding from him. If not, then, as others have said, there's a very easy way to lose a shitload of weight overnight. Dump the sorry bastard.

[Cherrysoup]

What a bastard. Did he just offer a takeaway just so he could be nasty about it. Twat?

My thoughts exactly.

[HairyFloppins]

Christ what a complete arse. I'd rather be fat and single for the rest of my whole life than have someone telling me what I can and can't eat.

[fairislecable]

I think you should agree with him about changing diet and ensure there are NO crisps biscuits snacks chocolate etc in the house

Write out a very restricted meal plan small portions salads no carbs etc

At least if you stick to it you will have the satisfaction of not only losing weight but making him suffer for his gross stupidity.

[SeigneurLapindeGrantham]

He's a nasty sod, I've been where you are op and now I'm somewhere else and content with my life.

[LizzieVereker]

Kill him and eat him.

[TenLun89]

@ShebaShimmyShake Hahahaha