Aibu to let a hurtful comment from a stranger get to me so much

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As above really. Has this happened to anyone else?
Its sounds so pathetic and childish now I have actually wrote it down. Feel a bit like a teenager and I'm most definitely past that age. I'm 30 for goodness sake. I should just shrug nasty comments off and be resilient but unfortunately I can't stop thinking about it.

I was walking home from work with my little girl and a group of women were sat in a park I walk through. One of the women said something about my appearance and they all laughed. I just carried on walking with my dd but it did get to me.
I keep thinking about it since and feel really down about how I look and keep thinking that others probably think this about me too.

Do you just shrug hurtful comments off? If so how?

You poor thing. That was really nasty of them.

OP I'm so sorry, commenting on other people's appearance is just wholly unfair and unkind.

Other people's behaviour has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. The thing she commented about you is probably really what she thinks of herself and a happy, contented person happy with themselves wouldn't be making negative comments about a strangers appearance. You should pity her.

What did she say? I do know she must be a very sad, self-loathing person to be so hateful. I'm sorry this happened.

Did you hear them comment on your appearance or did you just see them laugh and assume?

That's just mean. Some people are just mean. You are not unreasonable to feel hurt by random nastiness. But you should look at yourself through your little girls eyes, or anyone who loves you and all they see is your heart and your loveliness. People are so shallow anyway, beautiful is as beautiful does. Nastiness comes from a very sad place - happy people aren't usually randomly mean.

What ever she said says a lot more about her than it does about you

Bunch of bitches.

Horrible, horrible people.

Try to shake it off. Hard I know.

It speaks volumes about them as people (horrible gits)

I once read a way of moving on from something playing on your mind, is to shower, speak about whats troubling you and 'wash' it away.

What a horrible person to comment on another’s appearance. I really don’t know what the world is coming to when people feel comfortable being so vile to others and in front of others.

Was it about your actual appearance that you can't do much about or your clothes or something?

Also, a group of women, you say? I wouldn't expect that sort of rubbish from a group of teenagers!

What a bunch of sad cows. They were probably so boring they didn’t have anything else to talk about. This says everything about them and nothing about you. They have not grown up from when they were the nasty bitches at school making everyone’s life a misery. 💐 🤗

I'm sorry you had to hear that.

I have some relatives that can make unpleasant comments about people and believe me, they are bitter unhappy people. You might have had to hear what they said but at least you don't have to live as the kind of person who thinks like that. What horribly unhappy people they must be to get their thrills mocking a stranger.

Nasty bits of work. Your appearance is nothing to do with them. It's what's inside that counts

What did they say? Was it definitely about you

What did she say?

Sat in a park making comments about other people. I’d say they need to get a life or a bloody hobby or something. Nasty trashy behaviour.

Poor you, yanbu. I shrug it off because I just couldn't give the tiniest shite about someone's shitty opinion. Their words are a reflection on them, not a reflection on you.

To answer a few questions I actually heard the comment, it was very obviously about me even dd turned round and looked at them and then at me, plus we were the only people anywhere near them in that part of the park.

They were indeed adult women. Probably 20s or 30s. I would have felt differently if it was teenagers.

OP how awful. Some people are just nasty so try not to let that comment get to you. It says more about them and what's going on in their crazy minds than anything else. Negative comments about others usually reflects inner anger about themselves.

Grown adults making bitchy comments not only in earshot of you but your child too? Absolute dickheads.

I'm sure whatever they said about your appearance was just being mean and probably not true. Remember that regardless of this you're not the type of awful person to make comments on a stranger's appearance to their face in public. You're a way better person.

It's totally normal this would upset you. So don't feel silly. Try to focus on all the good things about yourself.

Dickheads

it doesn't help for op to repeat what was said, she was upset enough to post on here, she doesn't need to tell randoms too

I remember when a customer once told me she hoped I die a horrible death and it upset me for a couple of days. She was suffering from a terminal illness and trying to defraud the company I work for out of money. I completely agree with @Quirrelsotherface. “Other people's behaviour has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.” They wanted to make themselves feel better by putting you down. Strong, confident, kind people don’t do this. Really, fuck them. Do something to distract yourself and try not to think about them. X