To ask if you think 25 is too old to live at home

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Pays rent and helps with households chores. Is this socially acceptable or is it the age where people start to
Judge someone for living at home?

I wouldn’t really bat an eye, I’d assume they were saving up to move out and it was temporary.

However if there was no saving in progress, and no plans to move out (even long term) Id probably find that a bit odd.

i really don’t think it’s the norm for folks to to be still living at home At 25 or over now everyone I know moved home after uni- again maybe it’s a London thing?
Maybe also the fact we live in London the lack of your home was never an issue to hang out, mainly people went out to meet and socialise. When we did go round for dinner, maybe their mum or parents sat with us for a drink before going out themselves or retiring to another room. Never an issue.
I had my own home since 20 and I don’t think we behaved any differently in my home to their parents.

I moved in with my then boyfriend ( now dh) after university. I didn’t want to move back to the family home because there wasn’t enough space.
However, if everyone gets on and there is sufficient space, I don’t see the problem with being at home until your mid to late twenties.
Getting on the property ladder is becoming increasingly difficult, so if parents are fine with their adult child remaining at home and saving for a deposit, then that’s fine.
Dh and I have bought a house with a large granny annexe so that when our teenagers are older ( after university) they can return home if they want

If they are capable of moving out,have a job etc and there's not really a reason for them to stay,then yeah I'd say so. As soon as I worked full time and could move I did x

I was out by 18 but its a different time now. Unless they either have a long term partner to move in with, or family that have helped financially I think most people that age will be living in the family home.
My DC will always have a home with me.

It's quite common.

I was 26 when I moved out - not by choice. I didn't want to rent and was lucky enough to have modest savings to be able to buy. I saved for a few years to top up these savings and then we had a couple of first time houses fall through (fault of the previous owners both time) before we could buy! So that did slow down the process.

Truthfully though, people that don't even want to THINK about moving out at that age baffle me.

I think it's fairly standard these days due to houses being so hard to buy. My two both live away but still have their own rooms here and will bounce back and forth I expect before they can afford a house deposit.

I don't think it's too old nowadays. Circumstances dictate a lot.

I know a few people who still live with their parents and I'm late 20s, equally I know that the second time I went back to my parents was the last time at 21 as my space reduced back to a bedroom and I couldn't deal with it.

My older two have both come back after uni. I'm perfectly happy for them to live here while they get on their feet. We get on well and they contribute to the running of the house. My own family home was still "home" to me well into my 20's and living elsewhere 😂
I'm giving them what I had, a stable base that they are always welcome to come back to if needed. I can't given them £££ for a deposit so this is the next best thing.

I lived at home at 25 as I couldn't afford to move out in the area where I had a job. It wasn't great even though I got on well with parents, I was desperate for my own space. I agree with the people who say you can't have the same social life. Inviting your friends up to your room is fine at 15 but really awkward and odd at 25.

My ds 26 is at home. Lost his job due to COVID, left London and came back home. What else was he supposed to do?

He couldn’t afford to stay there

I bought my first house at 21 with now DH. I’m now 26. Two of my closest friends live at home still though after pursuing a career change and finances, I think everyone’s circumstances are different and everyone’s view of normal is different

Depends on how you behave and are treated.

There has to be a cognitive shift to being another adult in the house not just an overgrown kid. It’s a great way to save money if you can make it work.

It wouldn’t have for me - I went to uni and never came back home.

I actually moved back in with my parents around that age because I'd split up with my ex and couldn't afford the rent and bills on my own.

Unless you're a high earner or live in a house share, living as a single person is really expensive. You still pay 75% of the council tax, for example, whereas in a couple you only pay 50% each. All your bills are comparatively more expensive as you have nobody to split them with.

It's often cheaper to buy for a family as you can take advantage of multi-buys whereas if you're only feeding yourself, you may not have time to eat it before it goes out of date.

I don't think it's a problem at all to live home at that age, just so long as they contribute and pay rent and bills.

I think there's a misconception that anyone living at home in their twenties is babied or immature. Like PP said your social life is curtailed drastically - you can't just have a friend over for dinner or wine and a film, for example, and you do have to be considerate of your parents when you're coming and going. I did it for a year and it was a huge relief to move out again!

I wouldn't judge anyone at any age as long as they're pulling their weight and not expecting parents to cook for them and do their laundry as if they were a child.

I had colleagues think it was odd that I lived with a parent in my twenties but I was saving for a house deposit. If you get on well with them and aren't stuck in a 'child' mode of relating then it can be nicer than living alone.

Im 28 and dont live at home, but my parents house is still home, i grew up there from a baby until i moved out, my parents have always said, i could always move back in if i wanted to, everytime i visit, the first thing i do is go into the kitchen and check whats in the fridge

I left home in 1997 aged 19, and bought a part buy-part rent flat with my partner in 2002. I fully expect my DD, with exemption to higher education, to be living with me until well into her 20s. Times change.

I left at 25. It was well overdue for me but I had stayed because my mum had been unwell for many years and had felt she needed me to be there. By the time I left I realised she had been rather selfish and had taken advantage of my good nature in a lot of ways. I felt trapped and couldn't wait to get away tbh and wished I had been strong enough to go sooner. I was too old to be living there and I think it only contributed to an already damaged and complicated relationship . This was 29 years ago.

It would have been too old for me. And in general, I think the trend of prolonging adolescence isn't doing anyone any favours. If a 25-year-old lives with his/her parents for the sake of a cushy life (meals cooked, laundry done, wifi and Netflix paid for, etc.), even if he/she pays a token rent and does a few household chores then I'd think it would be time to move out and gain some independence. But if it's more of a houseshare situation, with all members contributing equally to the daily maintenance of the household and paying a proportional amount of the rent/mortgage (relative to salary), then it could work. Even in the latter case, however, it can be easy to fall into old patterns of parent/child dynamics, and I think it's important to establish a different relationship between parents and adult children.

For me I was out at 20 and ready to go, my children are late teens and it feels weird that could be moved out (not uni ) a.d completely settled in a few years they seem well so young this is their home and they can stay as long as they like although I think 30 might be pushing it a bit lol

I think it can be ok if they're contributing as any adult would.

The problem with staying at home with your parents is that you kind of get stuck as a teenager.

Im 25, I would find it weird if someone my age still lived at home. You can't really go round for drinks or a meal because it's not their house. I moved out at 18 for uni, never went back, never had a penny off my parents. Bought a house at 22 and live with my husband. We're currently trying for a baby. I cant imagine still living with my parents.
But then I didn't get along with my stepdad at all and did not like living there, I dont think I'd still be here if I hadn't moved out. So I understand it would be different for someone that does get along wit their parents and feel comfortable at their house.

If the arrangement works well then, in my opinion, children should only move to buy. The amount that is wasted in rent each month can, when totted up, amount to a good deposit.

It would have been too old for me. And in general, I think the trend of prolonging adolescence isn't doing anyone any favours.

This. I left at 18, and though I came home for university holidays, my younger siblings had moved into my old room, and I was on the sofa and very much a temporary guest. I think it was a good thing. It was partly because we were poor -- there was no parental safety net, either financial or in terms of houseroom, so I had to stretch scholarships and PT jobs and study and deal with my own accommodation. It made me a good manager of my own finances and someone who took responsibility for her own life from early on.

I agree, prolonging adolescence isn't a good trend. It wasn't good for me to be living with my parents for so long, it was like I stopped growing up and society still treated me like a teenager.

It all totally depends on the person and the living arrangements. My sister in her forties lives with my parents but it works out well and they have plenty of space so no one under each other's feet.