To ask if you think 25 is too old to live at home

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Pays rent and helps with households chores. Is this socially acceptable or is it the age where people start to
Judge someone for living at home?

I think given how expensive property is, it's surely fairly normal these days. However I don't think it helps people if their parents are still very much babying them, washing and cooking etc. My brother is still at home at 26 and he's less mature than lots of teenagers. It's embarrassing. He's never done a food shop in his life, spends all his time gaming. Never put the washing machine on.

My Mum is obsessed with babying him and not trusting him to do anything. His attitude stinks on certain things too. Judging people for living in slightly rougher areas to get on the property ladder (still a very nice area compared to most) or "wasting" their money on rent and can't see how much of a privileged twat he is sometimes.

I lived with my in laws temporarily whilst we saved for our deposit and we very much paid our way. Did most of the food shopping, cleaning and chucked their washing in with ours, ironed their shirts if we had it set up already etc. We were very grateful to get the opportunity of cheap rent and lived as adults together.

Yes, too old to be at home

Depends, if you're having for a mortgage then fair enough. If you're paying rent and not saving, might as well get your own place.

I come from a hectic household though I didn't want to hang on any longer and my boyfriend had lived alone since he was 20 so moving in together made sense

I personally think it’s too old. It’s healthy & normal in my view to seek out independence at this age and be responsible for your own life and that includes your own home. I cringe at my friend whose 30 year old son still lives with her. He’s like a big baby & he’s never going to move out.

Not if they live somewhere that is very expensive to buy or rent for single people and they don't earn much. If they were perfectly happy living with parents at 25 I'd think that was very odd.

Normal. Most of my friends moved out between 29-32, buying their own places having been able to save. I have a friend still living at home at 38 !

I bought my own house with my boyfriend at 24 (now 27), I wouldn't have been able to do this without a lot of help from our parents as our area is very expensive. A lot of my friends own homes in our area or rent in London (very close by), although a couple still live at home (those who have been at uni for the majority of their twenties; medicine degrees etc)... they will be better off eventually!

I moved back home at 25 after I broke up with my then boyfriend who I had been renting a house with. I was finishing my nurse training at the time so couldn't really afford to rent a place on my own and didn't want to find another random house share. When I qualified I worked out a 2 year plan to get a deposit saved for my own house.

In my experience the only people who are judgemental about living at home in your 20s/30s are either people who are older and bought their first house when the housing market was a lot more accessible, or younger people who had a large chuck of their deposit given to them. Saving tens of thousands of pounds takes a bit of time for "normal" people!

I don't like it but It's quite normal. Im 30 and a few of my school friends are back at home after moving away. Unfortunately, house prices right now make it really hard to save for a deposit while renting privately.

Normal where I live . It’s less normal to move out when still in your teens to a rented property.
My family and friends mostly lives at home until they left to get married .

I don’t think house building can ever keep up with new houses every 20 /25 years either . People are living longer so there’s not a fast enough turn around on properties

Dd is 25 and still lives with me but she has a deposit saved and is looking to move into her own place once the virus is more under control.

My 28 year old is at home, along with her 19 year old brother and her 13 year old sister, and is expecting her first child in August. She is planning on buying a house in a couple of years, maybe earlier depending on the housing market. None of us are in any rush for to leave, we love being together, lockdown has confirmed that, if it needed confirming.

I find it too old, because it means you can’t really have a social life at home. I would never host dinner for a group of friends or have an overnight guest who wasn’t a long term partner in my parents home.

Maybe some people don’t mind, but I wouldn’t be ok with adults I don’t personally know being in my home. My home is my sanctuary and I’m careful about who I let in. Sitting down for my morning coffee and having my daughter’s date join me would not be ok with me. It’s not about propriety, it’s about not having to be in stranger mode in my own house.

i find it too old, because it means you can’t really have a social life at home never really was the case for my friends, they hosted at their parents without issue. Only the odd one had a partner stay granted.

I don't think it is unusual nowadays due to property so expensive so for that reason, it's certainly not something about which to be judgemental. You do need a decent amount of room though, so the young adult person has their own space and privacy for entertaining, etc.

yes 25 is too old imho, you need experience of being fully responsible as an adult for several years before you have kids. If you need one more year to save for a deposit, maybe, but so many seem to spend all of their 20s effectively mucking about in a perpetual adolescence.

I went to university and then moved into a rented place after that, but i wouldn't judge someone for who they lived with as long as they were happy. I'd be envious of someone who had a good enough relationship with their parents to live with them happily. Not something i ever experienced!

Depends where you live: in my area you can afford a flat on your own on an average full time salary so I wouldn't expect most 25 year olds to be living at home. If they were living at home because they've just got a new job, or they're still saving for a house that would be different. But at home with no plans to move out? Fair enough but would be off-putting relationship-wise.

If you live in London I wouldn't expect people to move out for a lot longer, same with other expensive areas.

My brother left home at 33 when he got married.

Sorry, some words came out wrong there. I should have said, property .BEING so expensive and 'therefore for that reason' instead of 'so...'.

I would have been embarrassed to live at home at 25 too, because none of my friends did either. It was the done thing to move in with friends and rent together.

Saying that though, I didn’t have a choice. My parents separated and sold up and didn’t factor me in to their new lives. I didn’t have my childhood home to go back to and I did begrudge that.

Moving forward, my children will always have a home with me. I would encourage staying with me if they were saving for a house etc then that make sense. If they weren’t working or anything then I’d soon tell them!

I lived with DP and his Aunt, Uncle and Cousin between the ages 24 - 26. We paid rent and lived fairly independent lives but we would never have been able to save up for the flat we now own had we rented privately. I think if it works for everyone its fine and fairly common these days.

No one else's business. And I suspect house prices and area play a big part, it's fairly normal round here.