Female neighbour texting my DH every day

[RobertSmithdoesmyhair]

I'm furloughed, so at home every day. DH working FT. Female neighbour texts my DH every day while he is at work- can I borrow something, do you have..., I'm in the supermarket, do you want anything etc...She never texts or asks me! AIBU to feel uncomfortable with this?

Is your Dh encouraging it op? If he’s consistently not keeping the conversation going I can’t why she would text every single day - has this been throughout lockdown?!
Dh needs to shut this down it is bizarre behaviour - every day?! Weird

You haven't answered the posters who have asked if your DH replies and what he says?

Also I assume he is WFH if you can hear his phone, so she knows he is at home with you?

Block her

Op, but you’ve still not said what your DH is saying/doing?

It's nothing to do with gender.

To be fair if it's nothing to do with that then you didn't need to say "female" in your thread title, but you did.

Anyway...

You haven't confirmed how often he responds to her and in what tone.

Just set up a whatsapp group, say he's working full time so it's easiest to message in there if she needs something.

Or, message saying feel free to message just me because more often than not OH will be too busy to reply as he's got so much work on over the next weeks.

Simple and friendly ways of getting it sorted.

Yext back and ask her to pick up hemaroid and verucca cream and some coldsore ointment as the herpes is back?

Definitely weird
He should reply to her next time along the lines of "Stop with all the texting already!!!!! Anyone would think you fancy me or something lol. Seriously, I really am too busy working to have time for it. Can you just sort this kind of stuff with RobertSmith? Thanks."

Can I shoehorn in a ‘cool wives’ reference here?

Okay, I'm not reading all 8 pages. If they are friends, then I see nothing wrong with the teting. If they are not friends, then maybe that is a different matter. If this was a male texting hom daily, would it bother you?
I have male friends, okay I don't text them daily, but it wouldn't mean anything then just being friendly.

What kind of texts is she sending him? Post a few of them here do we can get the gist. And his replies....

Have you seen their exchanged messages? She seems desperate to maintain 1:1 contact with him while excluding you, and their conversations are obviously reinforcing her to continue.

When she asks to borrow something, is he then delivering it or is she stopping by?

I would tackle this directly and clearly. Tell your H that you are uncomfortable with this level of contact. He should care enough to nip this, and rerouting her to you would be simple. If he dismisses your feelings, there is a problem.

My neighbour used to turn up at my house minutes before my boyfriend would come. After a while i told her I’d burn her alive, with a smile of course.

OP, lots of people have asked you how your husband responds to these texts and you haven't answered. Is this because you don't know or is there some other reason?

If he was not responding to her she would eventually stop texting.
As I said before, something like this is very easy to nip in the bud if DH wants to. She'd have to have serious issues to keep texting every single day if she wasn't getting a response and if this was the case DH could simply block her number.
But I think he might like the attention so he lets it continue.

Oh and another question you haven't answered is one I asked a while back: have you actually seen the texts yourself or has DH just told you what they are about?

Op if you don’t know what he puts back or what the msg say then he is the issue here not the neighbour

You defo need to start a WhatsApp group with you all in and say... as you’ve been texting DH every day I thought this would be better as he’s at work and I’m home so can respond quicker or whatever, let her husband know she’s been doing it, if it’s nothing suspicious that won’t matter anyway

Op, why are you being so coy about how your husband actually reacts to this "unwelcome" attention ?

I have never seen the texts. He tells me about them, so I don't know what his replies are like. As many of you have said, he is obviously not dismissing them, as she is carrying on. He says he thinks she is being kind and thoughtful. I think I need to tell him how I feel.

Hmmmm do you’ve only noticed this since lockdown, you work out of the house normally? Does he work from home much?

I think you do op. This behaviour is unacceptable- I don’t have daily text with best friends never mind married neighbour.

He should block her. Really weird behaviour.

I work outside home. He never works from home. Commutes a long way and never comes home in the day. I know that as my parents come round to walk our dog.

Ask to see the texts. Sounds like he’s quite comfortable with it. I wonder how comfortable he’d be if Mr Neighbour was texting you every day...

Wow. So you have no idea what these texts are, what his replies are, or indeed whether she is texting him at all. Why havent you seen the texts?

You have to start texting the husband. Ask him to pop out to get you a new bra because your breasts are suddenly very sensitive. (Or similar.)

Failing that, just put her windows in.