To ask what the shittest sex you ever had is?

[Magicra84]

Saw someone who absolutely insisted he wanted a proper relationship and not just FWB but the few times I saw him which led to sex he left within ten mins of sex ending. Sex was shit too. Three thrusts and he was done. Rubbish! As he was very good looking I hoped it would get better. I didn't give it chance to after he left immediately after twice.

Never once worried about me having an orgasm (do they ever?)

Right? Sad isn't it. I think so many men just see us as a recepticle and not a human being.

@YouJustDoYou

Never once worried about me having an orgasm (do they ever?)

Right? Sad isn't it. I think so many men just see us as a recepticle and not a human being.

I’ve read so many posts now where it’s clear that men do not/have not considered whether their partners have finished/orgasmed. It’s heartbreaking really. How do we change this? I’d like my next relationship to be a fulfilling and satisfying one for us both- not just him!

I've had fantastic lovers with tiny penises. I've had shit lovers with really quite large ones. But the shit lovers with tiny penises are the ones that stick in the mind.

They are the ones that seem to think possession of a penis should be all they need to make us multi-orgasmic. One glimpse of their (titchy) 'bad boy' and we should be screaming the house down.

I blame porn (and it's usually porn for all those younger ones who can't get hard, too).

Apart from a lot of amusing stories, the main takeaway for me is the importance of sexual compatibility in a relationship. If you've got that it can mean a lot. If you don't then one or both partners have a problem.

And of course, not being selfish in bed, thinking about other person as well as yourself.

The internet is very freeing this way. Tell men what you like/don't like/expect in advance. See if it matches up with their expectations. Explicit discussion of sex is very useful
I admit. Men lie. But, you know, at least you set your stall out early

Some guys perspectives, scroll past the stupid "yo mama" ones.

www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ffliuw/men_of_reddit_what_was_the_worst_sex_youve_ever/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Sex with my husband was awkward for a long time. We both lost our virginity to each other so had no idea what we were doing and every time I look back on it I cringe.

@Iwalkinmyclothing

With someone who did not believe that I liked what I liked and was sure that if he stuck to what he had been told women liked (gentle, romantic stuff) I would find out that actually, no, I didn't know my own desires and preferences and what I really wanted was to be bored stiff by a load of stomach turningly boring vanilla bullshit made love to softly.

Oh yes I've had that too. A guy who refused point blank to do any of the things I actually liked (I'm not talking extreme stuff here) and would only do the most boringly vanilla things every single time. Any attempt on my part to direct him was quickly shut down. His reasoning was that he was a 'gentleman'. Not enough of a gentleman to avoid cheating on me though...

I have also noticed on several occasions guys who just can't stay hard and I'm not sure the cause since these have been guys in the 20s and one in his 40s.

Probably worst experience for me was the guy who could only come on my face porn style. Any prospect of him coming inside me caused him to go so soft he would lose his erection. When I eventually asked him why this was he said it was because he wanted to make sure I didn't get pregnant...despite me being on the pill and using condoms.

All this porny stuff is very disturbing. It wasn't like that when I was young, but on the other hand, it wasn't really done at all to be assertive in any way about sex.
I am so sorry for the women who have never had good sex, or are married to someone who doesn't do it for them. My long term P - the father of my children - wasn't good at all (for me) at sex and I can't think why I thought that was acceptable. I think I thought that it was trivial or selfish to care about that. If I were advising young people who are thinking of marriage and starting a family, I would say the opposite - it is actually very responsible to pick someone who really wants you sexually, is brilliant at it, and makes you come like a train, because things are going to get tough and it will help to hold you together. too much sexual messaging to young people is too negative and doomy. So the porn influence is magnified and that is a fucking disaster.

Need to have my partner do it 1st!
Thought men were supposed to want it always, not him.

All of the sex I had with men. And I have some TERRIBLE war stories!

Ever since realising that I'm actually a lesbian, my sex life has been incredible.

• I know most men are misogynistic, I know men can be vile about women's bodies, I know women are at risk of death, I know being laughed at doesn't compare. I am actually a feminist and not a feminist lite either.

However having a tiny penis is not something a man can help - unlike jackhammering, slobbering, porn behaviour, being lazy and selfish etc. It is fine for everyone to laugh about penis size, not just women. It's seen as the be-all and end-all for men. *

Completely agree with your first paragraph.

Thirty years ago, when I was in high school, in the swimming baths there were often lineups where size was compared. I saw some young teenagers receive horrendous belittling, teasing and bullying on a weekly basis, male teacher thought it was funny. Many of these now men have a mental health issue when it comes to sex and gravitate toward a sexual lifestyle of porn, prostitutes and casual sex, they cannot formulate an ongoing sexual relationship in their minds so resort to circumstances they are in control of. Some of these men are extremely good looking, extremely intelligent (one is professor in his area of medicine in the second-top hospital in the country and responsible for turning the department on its head). So this is one area of unhealthy micro-penises linked to a deeper cause.

Then there are the men who don't give two shits that see women as there property. We don't need to mention them.

However, there's a large element of men with a micro-penis, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction that either don't realise the sheer amount of tools available nowadays, or are too embarrassed to enlist them. Penile sleeves have been around for almost 20 years to boost a micro-penis, there are anti-depressants that help prem ejac, and Viagra for ED. It's this group I cannot understand. Why would you not want to enlist the help available, all of it without a face-to-face consultation, to be the best sexual partner, physically, that you can.

The mental side of banal men isn't worth mentioning. Equality, integrity and respect in a sexual relationship is paramount.

Oh, porn isn't always responsible for five-hour sex. Delayed and Retrograde (reverses into the bladder and maintains erection) ejaculation are receiving a decent amount of attention recently in the medical community. Most men with either realise what's happening though.

I’d say all of the men I’ve been with except one have been awful in bed. None seemed to know how a woman’s body works or even really cared! I once read a woman describe her partner as having “had sex on her” and that’s how I feel about most of the men I’ve slept with.

For goodness sake what are FWBs? Enlighten me as I have obviously missed something..

Oh I have remembered some grim experiences. Not necessarily bad sex but one night I was with a guy I casually hooked up with and I looked up and his house mate was there naked having a wank. My FWB thought it was funny and wanted to carry on.

Another time, I was with a guy (again a casual hook up not a ONS)and his mate was staying over too. We'd had sex and were dosing off then I could feel him touching me again so I thought it was round 2 but then realised I could see both his hands, it was his mate. I was really pissed off and they had a huge row. I have just realised how awful that actually was, I was only about 19 at the time and I actually just thought 'bloody men'. Now looking bad it was really awful of him.

"Are you one of those women that can't cum?"

No, no I am not.

Have a feeling he'd met a lot of them.

And he criticised my driving when I took him back to his, despite not having a licence himself.

I am so angry I let him anywhere near me.

@MostTacticalNameChange I think you and I had the same bloke.

I’ve caused a fair bit of it

I’m lucky that my partners I have had sex with could never be described as being bad in bed. I however have caused some awkward situations, like having a panic attack during sex, thanks brain. I think the only reason I have managed to escape bad sex is because I only have sex with someone I have been seeing for a few months.

I once had sex with someone who 5 mins after it finished went and got the hoover and asked me to get out of bed so he could hoover it and proceeded to hoover the bed with me standing there starkers

The guy with the Catholic hangups who thought sex was dirty so it took him months to be able to sleep with me... hangups still got in way, it was difficult, then loudly bellows ''What does it take to make you come?!!!!" So my housemates were quite entertained by that. Cringe.
The guy who was very tall with a very long thin pencil dick...had a mole on the tip in the middle, didn't help matters with the comparison as looked like the graphite at the end of a pencil...and had no idea how to use it...

My ex-h...the first few times I thought he came quickly because he was nervous but nope. 10 years of mediocre, three pump sex. He thought he was fantastic at cunnilingus but that was shit too! New bloke got 10years of sexual frustration (and he is fantastic in the sack so halle-fucking-lujah!)

I’ve never had great sex. So top of my scale starts at mediocre or just ‘nice’

Worst was a guy I wasn’t interested in but my friend kind of persuaded me to get more experience (just out of my first very long term relationship) Size has never been important but he had a micro penis so slim it didn’t touch the sides so he padded out with fingers thinking I wouldn’t notice. Would’ve been tolerable had he trimmed his fingernails first. He then told everyone how repulsive I was for having pubes. He was in his 30s so not a youngster.

My current partner have been together a very long time now but he’s never really tried oral, he did give me two licks once about 12 years ago... I liked oral and am sad at not getting it ever again.