Is anyone else not bothered by sex?

[Whatsupdog]

I’m embarrassed. And I feel weird. I’m a 29 year old women and I could quite happily take or leave sex. I like how it makes me feel connected to my partner (we’ve been together for years) and I like the cuddling after, but...meh. Does anyone else feel this way? I don’t think I’m asexual...but I don’t really masturbate or have sexual fantasies. I feel like a weirdo can anyone else relate?

Married 24 yrs, together 28, 2 teens. Still love DH madly and sex is great. He is still very attractive to me and I’ve never wanted anyone else. We can go weeks without or have it several times a week. My drive is very strong when ovulating. Dreading 50 next year as I don’t want to not feel like this.There’s no pestering on either part. It’s not about LTR, it’s about individuals.

This is why I’ve never gone on hormonal contraception. My libido is strongly linked to my cycle. Approaching my period I couldn’t feel less like having sex, but during my period I get hornier, then leading up to ovulation I’m really up for it. For about a week after I can take it or leave it, but enjoy it when we do.
My orgasms are stronger and I have more of them at my most fertile time of the month.
I’m 43, I have a copper coil, I’ve been with my husband for 23 years. Still fancy him and we have great chemistry, passion and desire for each other but we aren’t as adventurous in bed as I would like. But it’s still great and really important to me.
Dreading menopause!!!
For those of you who feel unhappy having no sex drive, I would really recommend coming off your hormonal contraception.
Or be happy without a sex drive, if you are. I hope I’ll still be happy if mine evaporates in a few years.

*My Mum has a better sex life than me"

Sorry Zoflorabore but that has really tickled me.

*How can you not have had an orgasm ever?

Shit sex?*

@failedasaparent. Yeah, I'm wondering that too! Unfortunately, I think there are some ppl who are pretty rubbish in the sack and/or selfish so they don't really satisfy their partners.

I know you can make it happen yourself, but it must be a bit crap to be with someone who doesn't ever make you orgasm.

For the people who haven't had an orgasm have you got a vibrator? You will get one in a few minutes with one.

Or a hand?

I’ve never orgasmed without manual stimulation of the clitoris either by me or my DH. Some lucky ladies get one through penetration alone but that’s not common.

Ha ha @Rainbow12e I know the feeling. I’m not particularly loud or anything but silent sex is very restrictive.

I have 2 teens btw.

Ah yes ......... the art of silent sex..........I remember it well!

I have lots of orgasms. I don't find the sensation to be earth shattering and life affirming. To me it's the equivalent of the relief or release you might get from scratching an itch or going to the loo after you'd had to hold on for ages. Also there's a build up to that which for me is a sensation that can take ages especially if I masturbate and is deeply unpleasant to me.

That doesn't sound anything like an orgasm.