to want to sleep with my friends husband

[maximopark]

omg, married 10 years, 3 kids, but am falling in love with another man. i see him at school of all places, his son and mine are in the same class. i am friends with his wife but i think she suspects i fancy her husband. does this mean;

1. im a selfish tart
2. my marriage is not as happy as i thought it was
3. im going through some sort of midlife crisis. please help, i cant stop thinking about him

squiffy dont! scottishmummy already wants me burned at the steak!

lol. it makes the school run so much more interesting when theres a hot guy around

exactly! theres only so much excitement you can have discussing "reading levels" and packed lunches!

nah - you're not that interesting

scottishmummy; i hope one day something like this happens to you. you know, while your in the library looking at books on bloody pottery or something. wow; i find another man attractive, proves im still alive!

thanks kerry, im sure it will pass (and if i had the chance, would probably run a mile!) feel really silly, but glad to know other mums have been in same posistion.

maximopark - good to see thinking/fantasising about another woman's husband has not impaired your humour/social observations/intutive hunch about me and the library and the pottery class ...where is my apron?

Only read OP...

Nothing wrong with fantasising about someone else.

Everything wrong with sleeping with a friend's husband and in the process betraying your dh and dc's. If there is an issue in your own marriage that needs addressing this will NOT help and if there isn't there will be after that! Never mind about what it might do to your friend. And thats if he even shares your feelings. No excuses. Sorry if thats not what you want to hear!

scottishmummy; honestly if you saw him you would understand. i know in scotland all men probably look like taggart, but down here its different.

i dunno, thought taggart had "something", anyway back to the point. as everyone else is telling you, just enjoy, but forget about anything further. its not a myth, affairs always do end in tears. just think about him when with dh.

LOL maximopark so maybe you are on to something so do you mean Craggy mark mcmanus era or james macpherson - what do you think o these lookers then
www.taggart-fanclub.co.uk/gallery.htm

out of interest where is down here since i live in london

btw - i think daniel craig has a face like a bag of frogs - total munter

so keep em coming - whilst i look for my library card and pottery apron...o and take my pulse to see if im still alive

now i am having a laugh

oh bloody hell sm, what if you go to my school! i live in clapham ( a very fashionable and upmarket part of sw london ) & leave daniel craig alone, just because hes not sean connery! and i should of guessed you'd be in the taggart fanclub! pmsl

I haven't felt remotely tempted by any df I've met in the past 7 years.

oh lol - i rented in clapham my local was the sun pub, worked at St Georges, know clapham very well

sm, yeah we live off lavender hill, lived around here all my life. great area.
sss2, had'nt happened to me for 10 years.

Depends on whether you act on it If its a fantasy then no. If you are thinking of ways to make it happen, yes all of the op 1,2,3. Think of the consequences it will have on everyone. All that upset and it may not last a month

I had an affair in my first marriage, don't regret splitting up, but I do regret how I hurt dh1. That was bad enough and there were no children involved. Needless to say I didn't stay in the relationship that got me divorced.

A bit of window shopping or an unspoken frisson between two ppl is quite common - but he sounds a jerk if he does so in front of his wife, so unsubtly that she's noticed. Clearly a loving, caring, thoughtful hb

tori32, heated, your right; ive had alot of really good advice here and im coming around to the fact that he probably is a total wanker.to be doing this while hes waiting for his kids to come out of school (& in frount of his wife) cant believe ive been such an idiot.

agree with tori32 and heated; a total jerk, next time he looks at you tell him to fuck off!

maxim sooo glad you're seeing sense!!

Maximo,
Just don't fall in love with the idea of being in love. Its only lust (smile). sometimes people have affairs because they have fallen out of love with "him indoors",but having an affair only makes things worse. Even if your husband doesnt find out, he'll know there's something wrong from the way you behave.

Just remember the grass is always greener on the other side until you get there.

You shouldn't always do what your heart tells you, your heart shouldn't always rule your head. (smile)

hi maxi, might of come into this a bit late, and everything thats going to be said to you has been said, but just like to add my bit; no i dont thing your marriage is crap just because you are sexually attracted to another man. dont thing your a selfish tart either, your just human and letting feelings get a bit out of hand. of course if you act on these feelings then you are in trouble! just enjoy the fleeting moment. but; are you sure 007 hasnt noticed a weakness in you and is just taking the piss ?

getting back to OP Maximopark- look but dont touch.time to move on.take stock off yourown husband, your beautiful children,what you have.

affairs are sordid/hurtful/cause pain /turmoil - and yes i know you probably think i am being all poker-arsed-moral-preachey, well i have no personal experience of this but have witnessed the impact upon others