to want to sleep with my friends husband

[maximopark]

omg, married 10 years, 3 kids, but am falling in love with another man. i see him at school of all places, his son and mine are in the same class. i am friends with his wife but i think she suspects i fancy her husband. does this mean;

1. im a selfish tart
2. my marriage is not as happy as i thought it was
3. im going through some sort of midlife crisis. please help, i cant stop thinking about him

Well actually I'm of the poker-arsed-moral-preachey school myself but I think Maximo if you do go ahead, you will not be coming to MN to chat about it! Am I right?!

LOL SSSandy2 - i got told to chill out about this topic for stating aforementioned views

I really wouldn't worry. I don't think there's anything wrong with your marriage - jsut because you fancy another man doesn't mean you don't fancy and love your DH. I have had a few of these over the years - never strayed beyond the realms of fantasy. In fact since I stopped having 'crushes' our sex life took a dive a bit . Good fun and harmless because (and this is the important bit) I never actually acted them out.

YWBU if you did anything about your feelings.

hi scottishmummy; no i dont think your any of those things, i agree with everything you say, and before this happened to me i would probably be saying the same thing. i didnt go looking for this, but its really nice. will never act on it, too much to lose.
ormirian; you no what i mean. x
2hot2cook; yeah, he could just be taking the piss, god knows im no halle berry, but im not a minger either

had a mad crush on my sons swimming teacher a few yers ago. total lust. everytime he looked at me i started shaking! sex life with dh improved. lasted 2 years. never acted on it of course, but still remember him.

I think everything ash been said here really, as long as it is a harmless fantasy I dont see the problem, but imagine how yu would feel if you new DH was thinking about someone else when you were bumping uglies.
Also have kind of been on the other end of this, a woman at DD's school was admiring on my 'brother' until I said 'my brother??my brothers live in scotland, you mean my partner?' ...........

lorayn; "bumping uglies" omg im on the floor wetting myself laughing!

ps; scottishmummy; just wanted to say thank you for all your advice ( cyber slap around the face gratefully rec'd) and for really making me laugh. hope to chat with you again on another section. (something boring like "arts & crafts" now that im reformed!)

lol No problemo maximo - because you're worth it now shuve off so i can get on with my spinsterly pursuits inc pottery - so push off you sarf london lush you are distractingme from me pottery

did she shag him?

LOL aye cut tae the chase dunno whether any winching occurred,any nae nippin then?

Friends with his wife?
What's your problem? Friends share and share alike, surely?

After all that's why she's shagging your DH, isn't it?

(I live quite near you - I hear what goes on, you know!)

LOL u sarf londin burds are mental i know i lived in blackheath

domesticgrumpess - salient well made points and up/doon the road question - well depends where u live eg to scottish folk im doon the road so when goin back it is up the road

nae point mumpin noo get on wae the porridge - ye made yer bed so better lie in it (before Maximo does LOL)

Did she shag the husband then?

What a coo if so.

maximopark; just read your thread; want to give you my advice, basic as it is.
i think you should spend one night with him, shag his brains out, get all this lust & frustration out of your system, then walk away and forget him! who will ever know. he wont say anything, and you wont, so happy ending! have fun

jane marple? dont you live in st.mary mead, knit, and solve murders while queing up for your pension. you liitle minx, what would the vicar say ? or are you shagging him

ps; all scottishmummys. true, not all scottish men are ugly, but the good looking ones are all gay (think colin & justin) agree dr.who very tasty. but thats it. oh, apart from thr dark haird one in new era taggart (no, not the woman )
blu; not us. no one else would want to shag my husband even with the lights off.

oh fgs, maxi, just shag him like miss marple said. just dont move near me when your finished with him, i dont live far from clapham

MaximoP,

Have you ever heard the expression, "Don't shit on your own doorstep"?, well, that applies big time to this scenario.

I can see the appeal of a man who looks like Daniel Craig with a better body (in fact, I feel slightly faint just typing it), but when it ends, you will still have to see him all the time.

I know you've got the hots big time for the flirty git, but he's not the only attractive man in the world. If you need to have an affair, have it with someone else and think about him while you're at it!

Patsy x

thanks patsy, i know its too close to home. im not looking for an "affair" if all i wanted was a bit on the side i could get that anywhere (like we all could). i wont do anything to wreck my kids happy life. i know hes a loser to be flirting like this in the school playground, but im a bigger loser for falling for it. his wife knows, and i think other mums are noticing, so might put ds in the after school club so i dont see him (or her).

Can't be arsed to read the op, title says it all really.

Stupid cow.