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To not know the name of the guy I'm dating?

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Troubledinparadise1 · 20/05/2020 07:09

This will probably all sound a bit strange!

I've been dating a man for a couple of months but I don't actually know his name and now we're too far in for me to ask him! We met at a mutual friend's party and my friend introduced me to him. She told me his name but it isn't an an English name or one that I've heard before so I only caught the general sound of it, rather than the actual name itself.

We've been going on dates for a couple of months now and it's too late for me to ask him his name. I can't ask my friend his name because she'll also think it's very odd that we've been dating for 2 months and I don't know.

I've been avoiding calling him by his name when together and I'm not sure how I can find this out!

Anyone else been in a situation like this?

OP posts:
user1473878824 · 21/05/2020 23:09

My first proper boyfriend was called Tom. I met him in a bar and couldn’t hear him even after I asked two more times and then it felt rude to do it again. He was in my phone as “Dave or Mike or Something” for the first three months (of the two years) we went out. Ask your friend how to spell it...

Carouselfish · 21/05/2020 23:15

Tell him how terrible your driving license picture is, show him, then ask to see his?

user1473878824 · 21/05/2020 23:17

@Jeezoh

During one of your next chats, ask him what’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to him and when he’s told you his, tell him “I was dating a guy for few months and didn’t know his name....” then fess you. If he’s a keeper, he’ll find it funny

I agree with this, if he doesn’t find it funny he’s not a keeper. I told Dave or Mike or Something a year in about the name thing and he found it hilarious.

user1473878824 · 21/05/2020 23:18

(Though clearly not a keeper 😬)

Igotta · 21/05/2020 23:21

There's actually only one solution.

You'll have to marry him and then you'll find out at the ceremony.

DamnYankee · 21/05/2020 23:24

Does he know yours?

DamnYankee · 21/05/2020 23:30

@Troubledinparadise1

Someone suggested you might want to send him a card, so ask for name and address...? Good idea! Even a book you think he might like, poem, even baked goods if he's a fan!

Just to be on the safe side, don't put your address on the post. (That last bit is me talking to my daughter...I'm sure you are quite sensible!)

Good luck with mrwhatshisname!

JaneJeffer · 21/05/2020 23:30

You’ll have to go bowling to find it, it is the only way Grin brilliant!

justkeepmovingon · 22/05/2020 01:05

I can believe it!! Back in my student days I slept with a guy, woke up in the morning and couldn't remember his name, I'd known it all evening it just went out of my head.

So I had to go and look through his wallet and all of his cards were "mr.d.surname"

Panic over when my house mate got up and said can't believe you slept with "Darren" I was so grateful for that moment.

Chienloup · 22/05/2020 01:21

You'll have to tell him that you fell downstairs and came off totally unscathed,apart from a concussion which has made you forget everyone's name!

Gamechange · 22/05/2020 01:52

Invite him to chat via zoom. Send link via email and he will type his name in on zoom too. Doubled your chances.

Schmoody · 22/05/2020 02:16

You need to sort it soon OP else you'll end up like me. 25 years with DH and I still have to call his dad 'you' or make a coughing sound instead of his name.

managedmis · 22/05/2020 02:32

These suggestions are crap

Just let him 'accidentally' meet a mate, mate asks 'what's your name again??', 'Oh, BORIS'

BINGO

famousforwrongreason · 22/05/2020 02:53

20/05/2020 07:10
*AnyFucker

I doubt it*

Grin
Ipadipod · 22/05/2020 02:58

@plunkplunkfizz have you been watching the Jodie Arias trial ?

canigooutyet · 22/05/2020 03:11

Just tell him you're a bit forgetful with names.

I'm really bad at remembering all sorts at times. I just own it now. If others don't like it, well don't really know what can be done about it.

Mostly it's not an issue for other people and have had many laughs talking about memory lapses.

I cannot think of anyone I've met over the years who haven't had them, but then might just be a memory lapse Grin

1forAll74 · 22/05/2020 03:16

Why can't you ask him his name. you can always fluff it, and say that you forget peoples name. Its all a bit odd though,if you have known him a while, and got close to him.. Just call him anything ha ha,, and he will put you right then.

DownADirtRoad · 22/05/2020 04:02

You’ll have to go bowling to find it, it is the only way

🤣🤣🤣 Genius.

Chinchinatti · 22/05/2020 04:15

Oh this has happened to me. Couldn't remember one dude's name the following morning, so he promptly turfed me out.
Had another dude (also met when drunk). Hadn't a clue of his name either so he was in my phone as Hertfordshire for e.g.
I'm useless with names.
100% believe this to be true.

Best bet is to say - just wondering, how do actually spell your name?

Puds11 · 22/05/2020 04:21

Gosh the wedding will be awkward!

sofato5miles · 22/05/2020 04:49

The name isn't english? Ask him.how you pronounce it properly?

PrimeroseHillAnnie · 22/05/2020 05:24
Hmm
The80sweregreat · 22/05/2020 05:44

Has anyone discovered his name yet?

lovepickledlimes · 22/05/2020 09:25

Could you say you want to write him a card or send him a small gift and want to know how to spell his full name and address

OhioOhioOhio · 22/05/2020 09:32

Yeah. There's no one you can ask?