Husband's irritating habits whilst WFH!

[chocolatesaltyballs22]

Just looking for a MN opinion on this to see if I'm being picky. Semi light-hearted and I know there are far worse things to get irritated about but you know how everything gets magnified times a million when you're in lockdown together for the 67 millionth day!

Husband makes a coffee around 4/5 times a day. Takes coffee out of cupboard, makes coffee, puts it back in cupboard (and this is the key bit) leaving said cupboard door wide open right opposite my line of vision from where I'm working. Buggers off back to his work space where he can't see wide open cupboard door. Would you:-

a) sigh heavily, stomp over and slam said cupboard door shut loud enough so that he can hear you're annoyed
b) get up and calmly close cupboard then ask him nicely the next time he's in the kitchen not to forget to close it
c) just close the damn thing yourself and not say anything
d) LTB

Have tried approaches a and b and he gets pissed off with me for being 'passive aggressive' !!

I would sellotape it shut, and then watch him struggle trying to open it.

Oh I'd LTB for this. Though the poster suggesting taking the door off and hiding it made me burst out laughing.

You should try doing it with an adult child ‘eek I’ve just an online sh@t job’. Patience is not one if my virtues. It’s hard.

Open all of the cupboard doors and drawers every time he does it.

Firstly it won't catch your eye as much because the cupboard ms will all be different and secondly if he is anything like my husband he will ask why you have opened everything. I said it was because I thought he liked them open. He didn't do it after a couple of times times of doing that.

I'm one who would tell him to shut the cupboard. Did that just today, in fact.

@SugarNyx that really made me laugh. 'Just kill him'

Best comment tonight

Noise cancelling headphones to make a coffee? You need a handy stash of tennis balls to pelt at him.

Does he not make you a cuppa too??

I’d just yell through ‘close the door’ every time.

I almost started a thread on annoying DHs today as my DH has taken to wearing flip flops around the house... with trousers... there I am, working away and he comes flip, flop, flip, flopping onto the kitchen. I never knew I had such an aversion to flip flops 😂

Swap work space.
Ds is the opener here. It's like living in a Sixth Sense theme park. I'm trying hard not to do my fucking nut.

DH only completes 98% of a job. For example, he will wash, line dry and fluff towels and leaves them on the bed. They live on the drawer underneath the bed. I love him a lot but it will the last strawberry one day. Like Kaiser Sose, I'll disappear. Not really but that feels like a treat at the moment.

I broach such conversations like UN negotiations. I check if something is irritating him and mention what is bothering me. If he is very irritating, I have ammunition. Judge away, lockdown is hard

this thread has made me laugh , I can see all @chocolatesaltyballs22 local shops been sold out of water pistols , bouncy balls, tennis balls darts<

What op needs to do is get a coupel of cup hooks screw one to the back wall of the cupboard and on to the inside of the offending door , attach a bungee rope to them both BUT not to tight , he needs to be able to open the door part way before it pings out of his grip causing that stinging sensation we have all had with errant doors and draws when they slip out of your grip.

Get a jack in the box set to sprig open every time he opens the door holding a shut the fecking door sign hopefully it will scare the bejeuses out of him and a near death experience will give him the wake up call he needs

Or buy a large capacity coffee machine so he doent have to get coffee out every time he want a brew

Or buy him a big flask so he doesn't even need to go into the kitchen to make a brew.

Eek please excuse the bad spelling and grammar its getting late my brain has go to bed without me .

GONE ffs !

You lot are extremely inventive! And no, he DOESN'T make me a brew when he makes one! But I don't mainline caffeine like he does.

I'd be tempted to open all the other doors and drawers but that one.

Would be entertaining and you could see if he really does prefer them that way!

Why would he forget to do it? Does he have any special needs? If not he is a lazy bugger and this would really wind me up. I would ltb.

For those who have light-leaver-oners, try getting hue bulbs and motion sensors for the worst lights (or cheaper equivalent as hue costs a fair bit). We have set the entire house up now so that lights come on and turn off as we enter rooms and after we've left so seamlessly that we don't even notice them anymore. Took a fair bit of fiddling around to get it right over time, but its a system of beauty now with no lights left on...ever!

Fit a spring (like they have on garden gates) to ensure the door closes. Preferably use a very hefty spring so he needs both hands to open the door and it slams with a loud bang as a gentle reminder that it should be closed. You can probably remove it after a week or as soon as he becomes frightened of it. (Think of Arkwright's till)

E get self closing doors fitted, F trap his head in the door.

Remove the cupboard door. I’m very serious. Simply unscrew the hinges, remove the door and when he says “why”, just be nice and say you didn’t want such a silly thing causing tension between the two of you, it’s just a silly door after all and clearly he finds it a struggle to close it and clearly you’re finding that action annoying, and you love him more than a cupboard door. So it’s gone now.
Or a divorce. shrug

How can you live if such small things annoy you?

I’d leave it as is, and close if I am going past there anyway

@TheHumans because I was not put on this earth to clean/tidy up after people maybe?!

Then don’t , leave as is

I moaned to a friend about the doors, who then admitted to doing it herself. She thinks she's more focused on the task she's opening the cupboard for. Her DP's a twat though, so I don't feel sorry for him.

He's obviously working very hard, cant you just close it for him, or better still make his coffee for him?

I assume you're being sarky @VeganVeal...just to be clear, I'm not a SAHM!