Husband's irritating habits whilst WFH!

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Just looking for a MN opinion on this to see if I'm being picky. Semi light-hearted and I know there are far worse things to get irritated about but you know how everything gets magnified times a million when you're in lockdown together for the 67 millionth day!

Husband makes a coffee around 4/5 times a day. Takes coffee out of cupboard, makes coffee, puts it back in cupboard (and this is the key bit) leaving said cupboard door wide open right opposite my line of vision from where I'm working. Buggers off back to his work space where he can't see wide open cupboard door. Would you:-

a) sigh heavily, stomp over and slam said cupboard door shut loud enough so that he can hear you're annoyed
b) get up and calmly close cupboard then ask him nicely the next time he's in the kitchen not to forget to close it
c) just close the damn thing yourself and not say anything
d) LTB

Have tried approaches a and b and he gets pissed off with me for being 'passive aggressive' !!

My daughter summoned me downstairs today with a very serious voice. I thought there was a proper problem. She wanted to show me the 7 things I had left open from making my breakfast. She was not impressed! I genuinely don’t do it to annoy people and once bumped my head on a cupboard door that I had left open. That’s not helpful I know but thought it was worth sharing!

We’re very lucky in the fact that we’re able to work from different rooms, and just have lunch and two tea breaks together, but my husband has offered a couple of times to set my computer up in the same room he’s working in, but I’m quite resistant! 😂 it would be nice as I’m working in the living room, so feel like I’m never away from work, but I think he’s regret it very quickly lol, I’m just very chatty 😂😂😂

Hide the coffee. Don’t let him have it back till he promises faithfully to close the door. If he forgets, hide the coffee and start the cycle again. Or spam him via text telling him to shut the door continually....

Just kill him

How do other people feel about their partners gaming?

My DH & I have been married for 15 years and have 3 children and one on the way!
My husband is very helpful and hands on with the kids for the hour or so that he spends with them in the evenings before bedtime but the moment he's done he's outside smoking and has recently started playing on his xbox until the early hours of the morning. Every. Single. Night.
I have tried to raise my issues sensibly; he can't function on 4 hours a night sleep, he's irritable in the morning/ with the kids, I feel excluded and unimportant, there's no opportunity for romance (not that he's romantic anymore but we do have sex..) we don't spend any time together, I feel like he's putting his friends and gaming before me.. etc etc. I wouldn't mind a couple of nights a week but he can't stay off it. Then when he does spend time with me I feel like it's just because he knows he probably should rather than actually wants too. Which just makes me more upset and we usually argue again and he goes off onto the Xbox!!

We're having this argument daily now and it's just getting more and more horrible.

Any advice would be helpful!

I would just leave it open...but then my coffee/tea cupboard is on the work top and wouldn’t cause an accident. I’m a slattern and so is my husband. We have an awesome bespoke kitchen with great storage but drawers and cupboard doors are frequently left open and nothing in the right place. No one cares. Makes for a lovely calm atmosphere 😊

Would be best to start your own thread @Sundai

Cricket bat round the back of the head works a treat

Grounds for divorce surely

Yell at him from where you are sitting to close the ruddy door!

Or move the coffee to somewhere else just to be really annoying

Omg my husband

Leaves every door he opens wide open.
Pants on bathroom floor
Plates and mess all over the kicthen
Crumps all over the sides in kicthen
Wet towels on the bed
I could go on 4 hours loool

I hope he is making you coffee too.

Oh and can never just leave the tv remote some were normal like the just on the coffee table... so every time i want to watch telly i have 2 spend 10 mins lookin 4 it.

Maybe (lightheartedly) you have some things that annoy your DH that he is seeing you do whilst WFH?

If I were you I'd (lightheartedly) be happy that they are only first world problems and hopefully it will soon be over with one or both of you back at work!

To get you past this slight annoyance maybe one of you can take the role of boss and one of the assistant, thus you can have a work shag at home, thus what open door! xxx

Thats right glennamy

My husband will tell u that i

Never put petrol in the car.
Never put garden things back in shed
Spend to much money
Dont walk dog when it rains
Block bath and shower with my hair and never remove it

Hahahah i am worse tham him

Tie the fkg door closed every time he leaves it open, then he'll understand the meaning of passive aggression. I used to be married to someone who wouldn't put the knives back in the block in their proper place, he was a selfish prick too.

Step 1: Get ahold of some decent sized stress balls or ’hacky’ sacks.

Step 2: Sellotape “CLOSE THE DAMN CUPBOARD DOOR” on each one.

Step 3: Lob one at him every time until the message sinks in.

Optional Step 4: Design a Wile E Coyote sign to hold up with a score of 10 (to mark your own exceptional throws) if he dares look annoyed at you.

Glue the cupboard shut so he can't get his coffee 😂

Heavy-duty water pistol to the head as he’s leaving the room?

Leave the coffee out next to the aero press.

I would do one of these two things : screw it shut and leave him to deal with it or superglue it.

This is my kind of passive aggressive style 😂😂😂😂

A friend and colleague of mine cured his class of opening a cupboard door which he wanted left alone by utilising an annoying mug given to him by a pupil one Christmas. Yes, he was a Corrie fan, but when this one was lifted, and light reached the base, the theme tune rang out in the tinniest version ever. He laid this on its side, so that opening the cupboard would trigger the tune. Don't know if something similar would work with someone of adult height - the children were too short to work out what was happening, and just assumed that Sir had hidden powers.

I’d either remove the cupboard door or every single time he goes back into his office and shuts the door, I would get up and open his door and walk away until he got the message

@Lynz301

We’re very lucky in the fact that we’re able to work from different rooms, and just have lunch and two tea breaks together, but my husband has offered a couple of times to set my computer up in the same room he’s working in, but I’m quite resistant! 😂 it would be nice as I’m working in the living room, so feel like I’m never away from work, but I think he’s regret it very quickly lol, I’m just very chatty 😂😂😂

Mine managed a week of my relentless chatting (I work with gregarious colleagues in an open plan office) before he took himself off to the spare room and set up there. We sometimes meet for lunch.

Your lucky he puts the coffee back at all!!!! Mine doesn't... or the milk, or anything else for that matter