Husband's irritating habits whilst WFH!

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Just looking for a MN opinion on this to see if I'm being picky. Semi light-hearted and I know there are far worse things to get irritated about but you know how everything gets magnified times a million when you're in lockdown together for the 67 millionth day!

Husband makes a coffee around 4/5 times a day. Takes coffee out of cupboard, makes coffee, puts it back in cupboard (and this is the key bit) leaving said cupboard door wide open right opposite my line of vision from where I'm working. Buggers off back to his work space where he can't see wide open cupboard door. Would you:-

a) sigh heavily, stomp over and slam said cupboard door shut loud enough so that he can hear you're annoyed
b) get up and calmly close cupboard then ask him nicely the next time he's in the kitchen not to forget to close it
c) just close the damn thing yourself and not say anything
d) LTB

Have tried approaches a and b and he gets pissed off with me for being 'passive aggressive' !!

Why not leave the cupboard door open all day? You'll get used to the altered landscape. He clearly likes it better that way.

Or, leave the coffee out.

Take the door off.
Switch the hinges so it opens the other way.

switch the contents of the cupboard to get some new habits in place - might break him of it (eg put plates in there instead temporarily)

And get your own noise-cancelling headphones.

Mine leaves dishes next to the dishwasher rather than just putting them in the bloody dishwasher. Either I never noticed before or it is a new habit. Annoys the hell out of me.

Wait but why can't you both just agree to keep the coffee on the side during the day? If it's this much of a PITA why not just have it there and no need for cupboard opening...? Yes he should be able to just bloody close it but he isn't and that would provide an immediate solution.

Our coffee jar is kept on the side next to the tea caddy and sugar caddy, all adjacent to the kettle, no cupboard doors to open or close

I would tell him the next time he left it open i would slam it in to his head

Unscrew the door and remove it....

E) tell him to close it every time

Or F) take the cupboard door off just to be strange. 🤷

Make a placard which says DOOR! and wave it at him every time.

I prefer the idea of taking the door off or leaving the coffee out. You could put up a little shelf especially for it. That'll proper annoy him.

E - yell SHUT THE FUCKING CUPBOARD!

Just like I yell WHO LEFT PISS IN THE TOILET!????

I have threatened to remove the en suite door when it is left slightly ajar because it causes another door to continually knock in the breeze which keeps waking me up. I do ask, and it is OK for a while and then it starts again. One day I will remove it.

In your case, I would just unscrew the cupboard door until it fell off when he opened it, or take it off and stack it somewhere. Unless you feel able to walk over and tap him on the shoulder every time.

Or remove the coffee and hide it.

i'd either remove the cupboard door, or just put the coffee on the countertop if he's drinking that many cups a day!

I have thought of a much simpler solution - just glue the coffee jar to the worktop.

Make a giant sign asking him nicely then change it to shut the fucking cupboard if he leaves it open again.

Bloody hell op after all that, I vote for a new patio

glue the coffee jar to the worktop

^ genius!

If he can't hear you shouting 'door' every time, invest in a nerf gun.

Slam the cupboard door shut, ensuring that his head is in it first.

Problem solved!

I have often been tempted to take the doors off the bathroom cupboard for exactly this reason. Feels like every time I go in there, there are everyone's santowels, pile creams, bum wipes, lip bleach, foot sprays, and general hideous and embarassing crammed piles of everything displayed for all to see. Yeah I realise "all" is just the four of us at the moment, but ffs. Paticularly annoying as DH is the one who is all 'oh I don't like shelves I much prefer cupboard doors" downstairs even when it's relatively innocuous - even attractive - stuff like glasses and vases etc that he seems very keen to hide!

unscrew the cabinet door and when asked say you didn't know how to use the door so I made it easier all round ! and DUCK!

nail it shut

I agree with taking the door off!

Since lockdown I've discovered that mine is THE LOUDEST chewer in the world. Have never noticed in 9 years. We have a double desk and quite often sit at our desk together with our lunch now.. except I have to get up and walk away every time he starts chewing, so that I don't murder him

FFS he can leave the coffee out , if he hasn't the brains to think of that then maybe he's not ready for boiling a kettle.