Husband's irritating habits whilst WFH!

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Just looking for a MN opinion on this to see if I'm being picky. Semi light-hearted and I know there are far worse things to get irritated about but you know how everything gets magnified times a million when you're in lockdown together for the 67 millionth day!

Husband makes a coffee around 4/5 times a day. Takes coffee out of cupboard, makes coffee, puts it back in cupboard (and this is the key bit) leaving said cupboard door wide open right opposite my line of vision from where I'm working. Buggers off back to his work space where he can't see wide open cupboard door. Would you:-

a) sigh heavily, stomp over and slam said cupboard door shut loud enough so that he can hear you're annoyed
b) get up and calmly close cupboard then ask him nicely the next time he's in the kitchen not to forget to close it
c) just close the damn thing yourself and not say anything
d) LTB

Have tried approaches a and b and he gets pissed off with me for being 'passive aggressive' !!

and hide the kettle

Cupboard doors.

Leaving perishable foods out, uncovered, for indeterminate lengths of time.

Never washing up properly, so things are simultaneously dirty and coated in washing up liquid.

Opting, instead of putting crockery in the appropriate piles in the cupboard (you know, like small bowls nest inside one another, plates go in a pile, cups and glasses on the shelf above), deliberately stacking tiny bowls under medium size bowls tipped onto an edge, under big plates, putting glasses on top on their sides and generally booby trapping the entire fucking cupboard.

Bathroom light on. In the day. WHY?

Switching the TV on whilst I am working, putting on some random shit that he knows I hate and then just wandering off to watching some other inane shit on his laptop, leaving me searching for the fucking remote to turn it off again. Which invariably has run out of charge, so I have to actually get up off my arse and switch the TV and box off.

Going into work for 3 hours to print off signs saying TOILET and WAY OUT. Needs an entire morning spent in bed to gather up the energy and he will be 'too exhausted' to cook or clean up yesterday's mess when he gets back from his lengthy ten minute commute.

He said that once this is all over, he'd like to see if they'd let him WFH permanently. Like fuck is he. I've been looking forward to my time at home alone whilst he's at work all year since he got the job (I'm TTO). There is no way I'm having him stay indoors on a permanent basis.

buy a smart lightbulb for the room he is in, and every time he forgets, turn the light off at his desk.

alternatively set it up with a door open sensor so if the cupboard door is left open for more than 5 mins, it turns his lights off

OH GOD! I NEARLY FORGOT!

TEABAGS ON THE FUCKING COUNTERTOP!!!!!!!

I can't understand why dp has to leave the teabag pot in the middle of the worktop rather than putting it back in line with the coffee and sugar 1s when he's done. Infuriates me

I banged my head on an open cupboard door and ended up in A&E with a gash to the head. We are very careful in this house now.

My husband is a serial cupboard-door-leaver-opener. He does this with drawers, too. I've pointed this out many, MANY times over the years. Sometimes he remembers to close them, but as often as not, he leaves them open. I don't know why, but he just doesn't seem to see it. If I'm in a certain mood, it drives me crazy, but more often than not I'll just close it when I happen to pass that way.

For your particular situation, I'd either ask him to close it every time (which in itself is annoying to have to do!) or possibly, if there's room for the coffee somewhere that's open, just relocate the coffee so that he won't have to close a door to put it away.

Shout at him as he leaving the kitchen “CLOSE THE FUCKING DOOR!!!”

Fake blood pack, bang the cupboard door, blood-curdling scream in agony, burst the pack on your face and run in wailing like a banshee that you've taken your eye out on the door. Then when he's in full panic mode, stop dramatically and whisper menacingly "Close. The. Cunting. Cupboard."

Does he make you a coffee at the same time? If so a post it note on your face saying “thank you now close the fucking cupboard door”or go on sex strike?

Buy a pack of small bouncy balls, throw one at him every time he does it? Preferably all of them at once

@FOJN you beat me too it. Take the door off, the hinges clip off. If your kick boards come off easily slide it under your cabinets. He will never think to look there.

When he asks say it was that or murder because your passive aggressive was getting less passive buy the day.

Then set him up a separate kettle and beverage making facilities in his home office.

Open all the doors except that one every time he isn't there.

When he has a go at you, parrot back to him whatever his last excuse was to you.

Eventually he will get the point.

Oops. Didn't refresh and see all the new replies since I originally opened this thread and then proceeded to do other things for a couple of hours.

But yeah, I'd find another place for the coffee, if at all possible, at least until he's no longer wfh. Of course, it's not so easy to keep the lights switch off after him.

...My husband leaves lights on, too!! I guess those two annoying traits (leaving doors/drawers open and leaving lights on) might go hand in hand. With my husband, he usually claims he was going to go back in the room with a hundred lights left on, but his idea of "going right back" apparently extends into the range of several hours.

My DH is 6ft 5 and I am 5ft 7. He put the cupboards on the wall at a height where I can't see the door when it is open, It is out of my line of vision. It is however the right height to hit me on the very top of my head.

I can't tell you how many times I have nearly knocked myself out on the bloody doors.

My Dh leaves empty toilet rolls in the bathroom. After many many reminders I’ve just had to reconcile myself as the cardboard fairy before I kill him! He is in 99.9% other ways an excellent husband and father but just really struggles with one very basic task!

Hide in the cupboard.

When he opens it go Boo.

He will be so traumatised he won't dare even open the door ever again.

Oh and my DH likes silence when taking a call or on a conference call, even flapping his arms about to sshh us.

Drives me mad, it is our home and we will be quiet when we know he is on a call but sometimes we don't realise soon enough. Looks like we know what comes first.

If he noise cancels your requests to close the door then text him, every single time, copy paste

I do this! Although I'm unsure why i'm not lazy...

Old habits die hard

Oh, I love Lockdown life's one!

Follow him into the kitchen every time and quietly close his door, then open ALL the rest, up and down, and all the drawers, too!

It's petty, but you won't go to prison for it and you might well for GBH or worse. 😂

DH washes his hands then trails all the way over to the where the towels are leaving a river of water all the way across the kitchen floor. (Bad design - no towel rail near sink) I have asked him 345,000,678,433,345 times to just give his hand a wee shoogle in the sink to get the excess water off first then dry them. He never does. I ask him nicely. Well I did until last week when I slipped on the water for the third time in one day and lost my shit in quite the most spectacular fashion. I even put a towel on the worktop by the sink for him, but no. Drip drip drip.

I actually don't think there's a court in the land would convict me.

OMG yes the silence whilst on calls thing! But if I'm on a call he takes it that he's perfectly fine to come into the kitchen, clatter about a bit and run the tap on full pelt for a few minutes!!

Can you fit some sort of very tight elastic bungee type thing.

Not only will the door remain shut, but you will have the added pleasure of watching him trying to snatch the coffee jar before his fingers get squished.

Mine does exactly the same, every time he gets tea or coffee out of the cupboard. I hate cupboard doors left open, but worse than that, he puts the used teabag in the bin and leaves the lid up!! Used teaspoon goes on clean tea towel near sink - he never puts it in the dishwasher. He also throws the dregs of his previous drink into the sink and doesn't wash it away so I get a nice brown stain on my newly cleaned plug hole!

Yes to the bathroom lights as well - in fact he never turns off a light which he has put on. Why do they do this?