Husband's irritating habits whilst WFH!

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Just looking for a MN opinion on this to see if I'm being picky. Semi light-hearted and I know there are far worse things to get irritated about but you know how everything gets magnified times a million when you're in lockdown together for the 67 millionth day!

Husband makes a coffee around 4/5 times a day. Takes coffee out of cupboard, makes coffee, puts it back in cupboard (and this is the key bit) leaving said cupboard door wide open right opposite my line of vision from where I'm working. Buggers off back to his work space where he can't see wide open cupboard door. Would you:-

a) sigh heavily, stomp over and slam said cupboard door shut loud enough so that he can hear you're annoyed
b) get up and calmly close cupboard then ask him nicely the next time he's in the kitchen not to forget to close it
c) just close the damn thing yourself and not say anything
d) LTB

Have tried approaches a and b and he gets pissed off with me for being 'passive aggressive' !!

it depends - does he leave the empty mug on his desk when he's finished?

yes - ltb
no - be grateful and just yell to shut the door. every time

I wouldn’t die on this hill as my husband is so good about ignoring my annoying habits. So ask yourself what if anything he does for you that might annoy tf out of him. 😃

Unfortunately the culprit in our house is MIL (she's moved in for lockdown), so I can't say anything. I'm keeping calm by resolving to leave her cupboard doors open whenever we go round in future.

Can you get yourself a catapult gun? When he leaves the door open you can aim at the door to close it yourself. You will get better with practise.

Wont help him learn to close doors of course but at least the door gets closed and your blood pressure stays at a reasonable level.

If aiming at the door isnt doing it for you maybe you can use his head as the target. Outcome is the same .

Opens drawer to get out bread knife. Cuts a slice of bread. Then closes drawer, now full of crumbs. Why???

Ask him to get the door removed "as it keeps on swinging open on its own".

I'd slam it every time. That would really piss me off!

I’d remove the door.

B. Or D if that doesn’t work.

Oh the other thing is he wears noise-cancelling headphones so he can't hear me yelling at him to close it!

Get a pea-shooter. Practice shooting peas. Aim one at the back of his head as he walks away from the open cupboard.

Every time he leaves it open, move the coffee.

'Oh I moved it so that you'd have to ask me, and I'm using that as a reminder for me to remind you to shut the cupboard door. Hang on though, I can't remember where I put the coffee? Oh no. Oh just have a look around for it, it's in one of the other cupboards probably... Me look for it? Er, no, I'll do it later. What's the problem? You leave closing the doors until later and you know that annoys me, what's the difference?'

Mine has a cup of tea waiting for me each morning (we are both working from the kitchen table) but he leaves the teabag in for too long. If I complain, he’ll stop making it, so I suffer in silence

Tell him to close it,

First few times... Did forget to close The cupboard again, it doesn’t close itself.

Few times after this... Dh Cupboard

After this Fuxking cupboard!!!

I say this, both dh and I drink herbal teas that come in their individual sachets which are perfectly recyclable yet he always leaves them on the side rather than putting them in the bin, drives me mad.

Collect up the empty sachets, then one night stick them under the covers on his side of the bed.

DH leaves Fucking coffee capsules in the sink WHY

He just said to me 'I'll do my best to remember but I'll probably still forget sometimes.'

Ask him if he’d say that to his boss!

Another vote for glue it shut! He'll try but he'll probably forget?? Its not rocket science

Change the position of the hinges to the top of the door, then when he leaves it open, you'll not bang your head on it.

Or get a swanky opener like these

www.builderbill-diy-help.com/lift-hinges.html

Honestly? I'd take the cupboard door off its hinges. Leave the whole cupboard exposed for a week.

Close the door yourself and get on with it. While you're closing his door, he's possible picked something up after you previous. I used to get wound up mopping up the tea from the surface that got spilled when DH was stirring the cups but in the background 5 mins before he was folding my bath towels up properly for me that I'd slung over the radiator. It doesn't have to be tit for tat but consider that there will be things that irritate him too.

Can the jar of coffee not just stay out?

Haha, oh dear- I might just be your husband
My DP is always slamming the cupboard door shut...
In my defence its usually when were putting the shopping away/sharing kitchen space cooking.. but still - it must really rile him and im always thinking he's the one BU

My husband does this too lol I just moan at him

Send him irritating memes to his work email every minute until he gets up and does it

Shout it loud enough to make him jump and slip his coffee over the edge of the cup. Mine leaves the teatowel scrunched up a ball on the worktop..all..the...fucking...time! It lies there all damp and getmy and I then hang it up. I’ve told him a million times, sometimes he remembers. One day mil did it, dried her hands, scrunched up the towel and just tossed it onto the worktop. At least I know where it comes from.