To be “peopled out”

[Sexnotgender]

Having a down day and I think I’ve realised it’s because there’s someone here ALL THE BLOODY TIME.

I love my family but dear lord what I wouldn’t give for a few hours solitude.

I feel incredibly lucky to be going to work every day and I STILL miss my 3 hours every Saturday to myself while DD is at dance class so no, YANBU at all.

Oh God yes l am so fed up of always having to be social....only 3 of us in the house but jeez l miss my own time

The one (exceptionally selfish and incredibly lucky) thing I really miss is my ‘day off’. I work part time and having that one day in the house by myself was sheer bliss. My husband has an ‘office’ where he goes to hide and he now knows that if I am not downstairs i am hiding in the bedroom and does his best to let me have a bit of time on my own too. I know we are exceptionally lucky. My poor sister lives alone and really misses the times when she can be ‘social’. Yesterday my youngest said he felt ‘captive’ and ‘claustrophobic’ so we drove somewhere different for our daily exercise. He said the fresh air really lifted his spirits!

Yeah I am a hardcore introvert, spend a portion of every weekday normally lone working and am feeling Utterly peopled out right now. Basically if they can see me they can’t possibly function without me, and it’s infuriating, draining and really counterproductive to me getting any work done (I’ve been doing welfare calls to students and literally had to lock myself in the toilet) Desperate to get back to work!

@lorisparkle totally get the day off thing. My mum worked 4 days a week all her working life and when my dad retired she was really pissed off he was interrupting her quiet day, can’t imagine having it crashed by the kids as well lol

I'm the same two kids 3 and 6 and DH even the dogs follow me round the house.
A few nights ago I got in my car in my pjs and slippers and just drove round for an hour, luckily I didn't get randomly stopped by the police that would have been embarrassing 😀

@Chocolateandamaretto I get really annoyed if anyone dares to be ill on my day off or if the children have an INSET day on my day off. It is very precious and one of the things I am so looking forward to when things get back to normal!

As much as it must be hard having your family around all the time think of those who’s husband/ partner are working away from home. My husband is away for 3 months (With almost no contact - as and when he gets phone signal I will get WhatsApp txt but with time difference unable to chat) and I’m looking after my disabled son alone. Both sets of parents in isolation, so I’m having to shop etc for them. I would love to have some adult chat around the house. Or have someone just to help with everyday jobs.

Yes. I adore my family and was always desperate to spend more time with them. But..... Not 24/7. My brain feels unable to think unless I'm truly alone. When I drive to the shops I feel a sense of relief.

And mine are teens and hardly any bother.

What it's like for those with toddlers I can't imagine. Never mind the NHS, the mums with under 5s at home are the real heroes.

Yes! Have dc 11, 7 and 8 months. DH at home. Bed share with baby and created a rod for my back breastfeeding her for naps. Going insane

I’m sorry you’re in such a difficult situation Shona. I don’t think any of us are equating our situation with people who are Alone and struggling with disabled children at home and their usual support fallen away. That sounds very difficult and I hope you’re doing ok I was just here to let off steam!

I took up running (well, couch to 5k, so more like fast walking at the moment ) to get some quiet time. Bloody DH has decided he wants to come too

Our loo is next to my son’s bedroom. Every time I go, he shouts me: Mummy!

Every fucking time.

It was fine 8 weeks ago. Now it’s like having a motion-triggered piss alarm - that also wants a drink or its door shutting or the curtain closing as it’s too bright.

Fuck. Off. I’m changing my name.

Yes. I’m done with my people, now.

a motion-triggered piss alarm

Bwhahaha! Sorry. I hear you. I can't get out of bed without attracting a swarm of children and cats. I am spending a lot of time these mornings lying in a dark room staring at the ceiling, trying hard not to need a pee.

Yep. Me too.

Oh god I HEAR you. Before this merry hell, DH was on strike (academic staff) so I haven't really been alone in the house since, probably, about mid-feb. It's driving me utterly crazy. I'm fairly introverted and love my own space and company. I'm at home most days anyway, and aside from my own work, household chores etc, that was my chance to slip on a sneaky dvd of my choosing and enjoy it without kids/DH being THERE in the room. Not that I did that very often, but ...

Now every fucking thing we do together is communal. All meals. Walks. I.Cannot.Stand.Much.More. The worst thing is that DH clearly doesn't get it and looks like a kicked puppy when I try to voice some of this frustration. I would just like a day in the house with nobody there.

Please can we be allowed to have this moan without people living on their own making the Sad Face? It doesn't mean we're cunts, honestly. Different circs. Doesn't help to know that there are folk out there who hate being on their own.

Ugh I feel you

Oh God I hear you. 4 of us in here. DP working in the bedroom all day, I'm stuck downstairs with a crazy 7 yr old and my 17 yr old is up and downstairs like a caged lion. It's awful. The only time I get is 10pm ish but then DP comes up and 'wants a tickle'. I'm ready to stab him by then. I'm dreaming of a night in a hotel on my own.
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After all this is over I’m half seriously considering a Tibetan monastic retreat to just get some peace and quiet. I can imagine getting there and finding it’s full of Mumsnetters

The attention seeking thing is particularly bad with ds2(5). He’s constantly capering about, pulling faces, making up songs. It’s like living with Ricky fucking Gervais!

MrsKoala shhh! I'd keep that idea quiet. But i could happily join you. My head is burst between work, noisy kids, bickering and setting up new tech!

I’m in lockdown with my partner’s children 😏

Totally agree sexnotgender. Me time is golden. 15 months is an adorable & exhausting age. Hide!

I too am peopled out. My children mope around if they're not on their consoles so I allow it just to get some peace. Eldest is doing my head in playing fortnite because I just cannot bear the noise. Constant shouting at the poor tv. Yes, I get that you almost got that headshot but the bastard beat you to it, but could you die (in your game) a bit quieter for the love of god. Youngest having constant emotional breakdowns and telling me he hates me daily. Fuck off away from me then if you hate me please! I've discovered i can get a bit of peace if I give them their consoles and I head to the garden. I just sit there in silence drinking my coffee.

I don't even want the dog near me. Just please all fuck off for the day.

I feel the same. Theres always someone in my house and its driving me nuts. Its noisy all 3 tellies blaring. 17 yr old singing tunelessly in japanese, music playing,the fuckibg dog barking, dd10 talking top of her voice to friends and arguing and dd13 follows me EVERYWHERE.

Her room is downstairs next to the kitchen and it doesn't seems to matter what time of the day it is, whether I sneak down for a peaceful cuppa at half eleven pm or half 8 am shes fucking there and stands there. Wherever I ho. She even follows me to the toilet grrr
And dont get me started on the constant knock knock knock on my bedroom door all fucking evening when me and dp are trying to settle down after 8 pm

Just FUCK OFF