To be “peopled out”

[Sexnotgender]

Having a down day and I think I’ve realised it’s because there’s someone here ALL THE BLOODY TIME.

I love my family but dear lord what I wouldn’t give for a few hours solitude.

Ah @MrsKoala sorry that sounds stressful. Hope you have some better days soon.

We just caught up on Breeders. The teens wondered in and for the first time I actually said no, private viewing. They skulked off. Felt a bit bad but we just wanted to watch some funny , sweary TV without any teen cringing!

I’m so lucky - My garden has been my saviour during lockdown. Even if I’m being bugged by a teen or DH, it feels Like I just have more ‘space’ To breathe. Also growing veg so something out of the direct house stuff to focus on. You can see stuff growing which feels like progress even if it’s in a very small area of my life.

Also volunteering locally; they’ve had to restrict everyone to just one session a week, as some were so desperate to escape, they’d do several shifts a week!

I’m very lucky here. Just my partner and I and he’s out at work all day in the week. So I’m on my own all day. But I wish he was here more for company.

Put a tent up in the garden and make an extra 'room' for your kids to be in?

I sit in the car or in the garage sometimes. Sometimes I hide behind the couch.

I have always refused to allow TV in bedrooms - but both boys ( back from uni) & DH are on a movie binge every evening binge and I can’t get to watch anything and can’t sit in living room as I hate horror / violence & sci-fi.

My new TV for my bedroom arrives tomorrow! .

Protests been made over my rule breaking but I’m in charge & I can break my own rules!

Yes my family are driving me mad. 2 teenagers, my husband and baby due in 6 weeks. Even the cats are driving me mad and we have one who just wants cuddles all the time.
My husband loved being at home and doesn't understand why I'm desperate for alone time, my youngest 12 just talks at me all the time and usually it's fine but at the moment I find myself wishing she'd be quiet and my eldest is just grumpy and bored.
Even when I sneak off to the bedroom one of the children appears 10 minutes later. Dad said to check on you and make sure you're okay or my husband will appear to ask what i!I'm doing and I feel like screaming just fuck off and leave me alone!

Oh and it drives me mad when the children walk past my husband to ask or tell me something. Yesterday my eldest asked if she could have a snack I told her to retrace her steps and ask the first adult she saw.
I mean honestly my husband is capable of making a decision!

I find myself sitting in my bedroom 'sorting out clothes'. Being in a flat doesn't help. No matter where you are, you're always right next to each other.
Also being a lp doesn't help. There's literally no one else for ds to speak to/ask for a snack/talk shite about minecraft to 🙄

Omg, are you folks telling me that DSs chat is going to change from Lego characters to Minecraft . What have I done, ordering an Xbox 🙉

@Blackbear19 you're doomed.

Sorry

Totally doomed, Blackbear, sorry. I find it helps to have a useful stock of phrases to hand like "yes? Really? Gosh, that does sound complicated! What do you do at that point then?" that can run in the background without me having to actually think about them.

@MrsKoala, I'm sorry you're in a genuinely difficult situation. I'm aware mine is a comedy-whinge.

I got 90 mins alone in the bath last night without even the dog, and it was bliss!

My DH used to spend one night a week away from home on business. I loved that day and night - time to do just what I wanted to. I miss that terribly.

DP normally works away, he’s been home since March now. I forgot how much room he takes up, how much he eats, how messy he is and how much he farts. He watches nature documentaries or train programmes or truck programmes all day. He can’t go back to his own job yet but starts another temp one next Monday and I can’t bloody wait.

DD5 is currently upstairs shouting in her sleep. She’s another one that walks past her dad to come to me. She’s on the PlayStation all the time just now, I’ve given up on screen rules as there’s shag all else for her to do. She’s not due to start school until August.

I get up at 6am for exercise and peace, those 2 don’t appear until about 10. It’s bliss! I also have a long bath to read my book every second morning and they are not allowed to come in.

I need a dog to walk. But himself is allergic. I might become allergic to him soon.

I’m still working away from home which is a God send but I couldn’t sleep last night and got up at 6am cracked on with loads of housework. Now trying to stay positive as am with DD all day
“Mummmyyyyyyyyyeeeeeee”
“What?”
Silence

I can imagine its hard if you are a single parent. Me and my husband take it in turns to take our son out. Then we walk each alone in the evenings swapping when he is in bed.

"Mummmyyyyyyyyyeeeeeee”
“What?”
Silence

Oh I'm another who gets that, mum, yes, mum, yes, mum, WHAT IS IT.

You've just made me think that it's just about wanting attention but not knowing what for

Or mummy look at me jumps kicks her leg insert other unremarkable skill here

My vocabulary these days consists of saying ‘aye hen’ on repeat

Forgot stars made it go bold 🙄

About the X box or playstation.Im not too bad,my 3 have a much older brother so they annoy him with all that crap.
But the bickering is killing me.I can't even flu g them out to play.

The bickering is a nightmare. I am hoping that DS will be a bit happier when the xbox arrives and he's able to chat / play with his pals.

I wouldn't normally buy big ticket items out with Birthday/ Christmas but this isn't exactly normal times. When I mentioned it to my mum the the other day her initial reaction was, wait until Christmas, but then the penny dropped there is a NEED now to have a communication channel.

I’m so glad you understand. I was 1/2 expecting a pile on of - you’re so lucky you’ve got people what about all those on their own.

I voted YANBU because I feel the same (I miss my DH going out every Thursday evening), but my sister lives alone and she would vote YABU

I hear you. Can’t even pee in peace. Would like to sit in my underwear in my living room and tan...... kids have kyboshed that.