To be “peopled out”

[Sexnotgender]

Having a down day and I think I’ve realised it’s because there’s someone here ALL THE BLOODY TIME.

I love my family but dear lord what I wouldn’t give for a few hours solitude.

[MotheringShites]

Same OP. I am going for a blood test tomorrow and I am actually excited about it.

[tinkerbellla]

I get it. I'm incredibly lucky to be locked down with my two favourite people but I miss alone time. I've been reading in the bath but they still find me!

[Sexnotgender]

Who is in your household?How old are the children?

Me, DH, DD who is 16 and DS who is 15 months.

[TheSheepofWallSt]

Oh and snacking. I want to eat a mini roll without someone saying WHATS THAT? And nicking half of it.

[Pollony]

YANBU I was feeling like this and still am a bit but last weekend I shut myself in my bedroom for 2 hours and told everyone they weren't to disturb me unless the house was on fire and it really helped. I plan to do the same every other weekend until lockdown is over

[TheoneandObi]

My escape is the bath. In fact I'm off for a sploosh right now x

[DirtyTicket]

Oh god, yes. Husband suggested we all go for a walk earlier. I declined, told him to take the kids. I sat in my arse watching Pride and Prejudice, eating Snickers bars and getting my head together. I'm lucky in that my kids are older so don't constantly need me but the dog seems to be permanently with me.

[tinkerbellla]

Oh and the cats follow me about all day meowing for dreamies because they are on a diet!

[HildaSnibbs]

Yes me too! Me (41 weeks pregnant) , DH, and 2 DDs. DH is very good at taking the kids out for long walks so I do get down time thank god, the thing that's getting to me is that every meal time is a whole family meal, I'd kill to have a lunch time where it's just me and I can eat something random out of the fridge standing up in the kitchen without a plate and without having to feed / clear up from anyone else...

[MrsEsss]

Yep, I get you OP. My DH tries to understand but he's the complete opposite of me so he doesn't really. I'm so peopled out and, what's more, I feel guilty when I try to get some alone time. I've got three dc and dh here. The house has never felt so small. As a pp said, a trip to the supermarket feels like a spa break!

[MarshaBradyo]

It can get like that. You need to go into a room alone for an hour or so. I had this a couple of weeks back and had to hide upstairs. Now the 2.5 year old is quite good at finding daddy

[Twigletfairy]

I totally get you.

I have a 6 month old breastfed baby and a 3 year old. My 3 year old has perfected the 'mama, mummy, mama, mum, mummy' then 'what you doing?' rinse and repeat. If I go to eat something I have to hide in the kitchen. But now shes big enough to open doors, so she suddenly appears 'mummy, what you got, I'm hungry'.

I finish feeding the baby, my husband will take her, and straight away the dog is in my lap. Dog buggers off to be replaced by the toddler. Then its times to feed the baby again. Then my husband is moaning he hasn't had a hug in days. I can't remember the last time I had a properly hot bath as it always needs to be a little cooler so the children can join me.

I have a shower, knock knock, 'mummy, what you doing' arrrrrrgh.

[DamnYankee]

I have to go to bed early while the kids have a little movie time with DH and get up earlier than anyone else so I can drink my coffee and plan my day in peace.
I think it's easier when you have older kids...but I do get it, nonetheless...

[ohlookthisisjustdaftnow]

I go out for a walk late in the evening when they've all gone to bed. Well, I say walk, I go down the street about 100 yards into a field, stand there in the silence for 5 minutes and then go home again.

[Frage]

God, I sympathise, OP.

Stuck in the house with teenagers. The house is the size of a small tent.

[Fucktacula]

I feel exactly the same. I can't even go for a wee without an audience. If I have a bath, someone will be in the bathroom to steal my bubbles. During my shower this morning, my son came in crying after "daddy said no".

Just fuck off!

[KnitFastDieWarm]

I hear you OP. I love dh and ds beyond measure but my god I’m also sick of the sight of their (lovely) faces!

Any way you can can try and carve out some regular peace and quiet to look forward to every day? I get a genuine thrill from curling up in bed in peace after ds goes to bed , while dh is off playing music/watching tv/calling relatives etc. It’s just an hour or so but it’s what’s keeping me sane at the moment.

[SymbollocksInteractionism]

YANBU I felt like this last night.
I sat in my gazebo in the garden and put my music on and drank some wine.
My wee boy came out at one point and complained that he didn't like my music. I told him to get back in the house and give me peace!! 😁

[ofwarren]

Another one hiding in the bedroom right now 😂

[Sobeyondthehills]

We have made our bedroom, the room of solitude.

If you are in there with the door closed, no one else is to come in. This includes cats and dog.

Everyone uses it now for a few hours, including the cats and the dog (they have learnt to close the door)

[Livelovebehappy]

YANBU. I love my DH but he’s like a lost puppy when not working and follows me round. He’s not comfortable with alone time, where I need that bit of me time. I feel bad then as I get a bit irritable with him.

[missingeu]

Definately agree with you. It's the constant noise.
On my days off (thankfully leave the house to go to work).. I get up extra early to get some me time, with the dog.

Its the constant cleaning, cooking etc and what you're doing. Am thinking off building a 'she' shed.

[Witchend]

Totally understand. I'm working during the week and dh is wfh. So yesterday I thought I'd sneak up to the bedroom and read in peace with no one around. Dh came and talked, because he doesn't see anyone other than me and dc. I know he meant it nicely, but I really wanted some time alone!

[tinkywinkyshandbag]

I agree. I've also taken to going to my bedroom like a teenager and reading or going on my phone, just to get some time alone.

[Oysterbabe]

I feel the same.
2 more weeks until the kids are at nursery and I'll be able to work alone and in silence.