To call the police to my son's girlfriend's house?

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Currently sat in tears and absolutely raging.

My son turned 16 last Sunday.He has a girlfriend;they been together since last June.They haven't seen each other since March 15th.

As the lockdown rules about time outside has been relaxed slightly today I agreed he could ride his bike to a park halfway between ours and his girlfriends house to meet her the condition he observes social distancing.My stance was being able to see her from 2 meters away was being than seeing her via phone screen.

About an hour ago I noticed his bike was still here so I called him to which the little shit has admitted he's at his girlfriends house and her mum picked him up around the corner from our house.

I am angry beyond belief right now.We've been shielding as my 13 year daughter has health issues including a heart condition.

There are 6 people in his girlfriends house,2 are still out working and his girlfriends stepdad has still been having his kids over every other weekend.The risk in their household is quite high.

I'm fuming my son has broken lockdown and put his sisters health at risk undoing all our hard work since March and that his girlfriend and her mum have also aided him in breaking lockdown rules.I currently think his girlfriends mother is a cunt for coming to pick my son up knowing he shouldn't be in a car with her and her daughter let alone in her house 😡😡😡😡.

Helpfulrabbit Its not a police matter. They can’t and won’t do anything. That’s is not difficult to understand.

If it is on the police to tell a person that their actions may be dangerous then then would have to go to houses and tell people not to skydive. Take drugs. Drive dangerously. Drink to excess. Ride on the back of llamas. Do snake swallowing.

So what’s happened op?
Has he come home ?

Kick him out, let him stay there

@Nicknacky all of those things are what people do to themselves, what this silly boy has done is essentially put his sister’s life endanger all because he wanted sex. Those are two completely different things. I can’t believe that you can’t even see that. Are you doing something similar is that what it is?

Helpfulrabbit It still doesn’t make this a police matter. Get a grip.

Yep, I’m out shagging all the time. You caught me.

Or I might actually know what I’m talking about when it comes to police powers.

If lockdown/distancing rules are being broken why can't the police issue fines?

Madame Becuae breaking guidance doesn’t mean laws have been broken therefore there is no power to impose fines.

@Nicknacky ah yes the old tried and true method on the internet known as “I know what I’m talking about cos I work in the industry”.

Even if you do it still doesn’t take away from the fact that I’ve already acknowledged they probably wouldn’t do something but In my opinion they really SHOULD. I’m glad you and your law enforcement colleagues disagree then. How safe I feel under your protection.

Because they don't have the powers. They've even publicly spoken out about it.

The guidelines make no sense at all.

And why the assumption he's going for sex? Even teens can have a relationship that goes beyond fucking. Sometimes it's nice to get a hug from the one you love. And if police knocked on my door to tell me I couldn't have a hug and neither could my children, they would be told to go fuck themselves and take me court.

All we have is guidelines. It's up to you if you want to stay locked up like prisoners indefinitely. But no-one has the right to tell the rest of us what we can and cannot do. We are all capable of making our own risk assessments.

**And no I can’t be arsed to link. Google it yourself for gods sake.

I always love it when asked for a citation. Do people do this in real life conversations?

OP, I completely understand why you’re livid. If GF mum knew about DD’s heart condition, I’d probably be saying all that to her face. IF. But at 16 I was a conniving bugger. Are you sure she was “in on it”, ie knew she was picking him up around the corner so you wouldn’t see, or perhaps she’s been hoodwinked a bit too?

No police though. And I do think it was unrealistic to expect him to keep 2 metres apart when meeting his girlfriend in the first place.

Helpfulrabbit I don’t care if you feel safe. Would you feel safer if I came to your door and gave you lifestyle advice? You would probably (rightly) tell me to mind my own business.

You cannot expect the police to get involved in nonsense like this. It’s not what they are there for. They can send social media messages advising people etc, but that’s as far as it goes.

So maybe retract your statement about him impossible infecting her being a “legal” matter. Because even you appear to realise you were wrong.

Oh, and contact your local constabulary and tell them what you think they should be doing. They would love to hear it.

I would not call the police but I would be raging with my son and the girlfriend’s idiot parents. The mother needs to be told that she is totally irresponsible and that she is endangering your daughter’s health. There should be serious consequences for your son too.

StatisticalSense where did you get that her DS is suicidal? I'm not causing an argument but I can't see an update from OP saying that so wondering where you got that from/what I missed?

The rules are confusing

You could potentially have a husband or partner who has been going to work every day ?

Some children of key workers have been to school every day.

Over 70s are supposed to stay at home, but I've seen older people in shops or walking

The message was stay at home

Now it's go back to work, if possible
Schools due to open soon

The police are not going to go have a word with him. This is a parenting issue, not a police one.
I think OP meant to have a ord with the other mother not her son!

The only way it will be a police matter is if a person has deliberately infected another person.
Its not a police matter. They can’t and won’t do anything.
Becuae breaking guidance doesn’t mean laws have been broken therefore there is no power to impose fines.

Just asking, so the 13.5 thousand fines given out by police in England for breaking Lockdown guidelines were all just a joke then? Maybe you should review your actual powers under covid guidelines if you really are a police officer?

The National Police Chiefs' Council says 13,445 fines were issued by forces in England for breaches of social distancing rules brought in to fight the coronavirus outbreak.

I doubt the police will be interested but I get the Ops knee jerk reaction to the idiotic and devious other mother.

Willow I am a police officer. There is no offence committed here. That doesn’t mean other fines that were issued were incorrectly issued.

The legislation doesn’t apply to domestic properties. Look it up if you don’t believe me.

16 yo is a selfish idiot and his GF's mother is culpable. Inexcusable behaviour in both of them.

He should either stay at GF's house until there is a cure/vaccine or come home and spend a fortnight living in the garden shed, washing and peeing in a bucket. OK, he can have two separate buckets as a concession to hygiene.

What a mess!

There’s no reason to call the police.

I have a 16 year old and if he did this, I’d hold him alone accountable for this. I wouldn’t let him home to be honest, if it meant my other child was at an increased risk. I’d be completely pissed off with him if he showed this level of selfishness and he’d have to deal with the consequences of his actions.

I’d be annoyed with the girlfriends family but it’s your son that has a responsibility to you and his sister, not them.

If your daughter is meant to be shielding you have been pretty lax in letting him out at all.

Yabu and way too ott
Ridiculous tbf

If your daughter is meant to be shielding you have been pretty lax in letting him out at all.
Everyone in the household does not have to stay in when one person is shielding.

Camp bed & a bucket in the garage, all meals for the next 14 days through the cat flap. Then ground him completely until lockdown ends.

Where's the OP gone?

@Nat6999 you sound like a serial killer