To call the police to my son's girlfriend's house?

[popsydoodle4444]

Currently sat in tears and absolutely raging.

My son turned 16 last Sunday.He has a girlfriend;they been together since last June.They haven't seen each other since March 15th.

As the lockdown rules about time outside has been relaxed slightly today I agreed he could ride his bike to a park halfway between ours and his girlfriends house to meet her the condition he observes social distancing.My stance was being able to see her from 2 meters away was being than seeing her via phone screen.

About an hour ago I noticed his bike was still here so I called him to which the little shit has admitted he's at his girlfriends house and her mum picked him up around the corner from our house.

I am angry beyond belief right now.We've been shielding as my 13 year daughter has health issues including a heart condition.

There are 6 people in his girlfriends house,2 are still out working and his girlfriends stepdad has still been having his kids over every other weekend.The risk in their household is quite high.

I'm fuming my son has broken lockdown and put his sisters health at risk undoing all our hard work since March and that his girlfriend and her mum have also aided him in breaking lockdown rules.I currently think his girlfriends mother is a cunt for coming to pick my son up knowing he shouldn't be in a car with her and her daughter let alone in her house 😡😡😡😡.

Hey let’s all try to relax! The corona paranoia is really the biggest threat to our collective mental health. I am on the extremely vulnerable list. Have had no symptoms and I have a completely defunct immune system lol. Yes many others have not been so fortunate but please don’t use corona/Covid stress to turn our backs on humanity and compassion xx

He's a teenage boy, it's way too abstract for him to fully understand the risks

My son is the same age as OPs son. He fully understands the situation and risks to certain people. He doesn’t like that it means his life is different to what it was a few months ago but he definitely understands it. He’s 16 not 6.

As soon as he gets home - isolate him in a room for 2 weeks, serve meals at the door on paper plates and he can only come out when using the bathroom - at which time he must alert you so that you can sanitise correctly. And don’t trust him again!

I agree with the above and similar comments. He isolates in his room for two weeks. Also hopefully they were not 'sleeping' together. We need strong stable relationships for future generations. Early sexual experience gives very poor outcomes in terms of well being and future stability. Hope you and your daughter very well and that you reconcile with your son and offer him forgiveness and love. But sometimes real love has to be tough love too

There are two issues with your “1 in 400” bit (which frankly if you spout it on here as fact you should at least be able to inform someone where your “fact” came from w/o being insulted that someone didn’t take your word as a complete stranger). The first issue is given that many people are asymptomatic, as well as those who misdiagnose themselves and never get tested because they think they have a minor cold or flu, therefore there is no way to have all the proper data to say how many get it. Even if that were a possibility, the infection rates change depending on what area you live in. The second issue is that the virus is airborne and lives on surfaces from anywhere from a few hours to several days and all that boy needs to do is be in contact with it and he is then either getting sick or becoming a carrier to bring it back home to his family and high-risk sister. Your “1 in 400” wouldn’t apply in that scenario, even if it was accurate.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-52662066

This is an article that comes up immediately on Google when you search for 1 in 400 has Covid19.

It must be hard for young people who at the end of the day are most likely only at risk from very mild symptoms. Could you isolate your daughter so that as lock down lifts, the family can return to more normal living

First of all, I think you are very naive if you ever thought they would stick to the instruction of being 2 metres apart even if they met under the conditions you agreed to. They are very young and in love, I remember what that was like, at the very least the urge to hug and kiss would be difficult to suppress. In that circumstance having a meeting over the phone is better than meeting in person. I have admired some of our local young people who seem to have no problem social distancing, and moving over for you with a smile much more than some adults here who are having difficulties sticking to the rules. It is worse for teens, all their face to face social interactions that are important to them, have been disrupted and denied them.

As your 13 year old daughter has ongoing vulnerable conditions, have you thought of contacting her Doctor, or other healthcare professional for advice?

As your 13 year old daughter has ongoing vulnerable conditions, have you thought of contacting her Doctor, or other healthcare professional for advice?

I meant for advice regarding your son's interaction with his girlfriend's family and the possible affect for your daughter. I do agree that girlfriend's mum is in the wrong here.

Feel very sorry for young people who are being expected to give up so much even though they are only at risk from a very mild infection in most cases. It must be hard. Have you considered making arrangements to isolate your daughter so that the rest of the family can move to a more normal life as lockdown ends? I know your son was in the wrong but in a very short timem he will probably be back at college and the virus will not have gone anywhere so maybe start thinking longer term about how your lives will move forward.

@Monstie That's what should be happening when shielding. My household isn't in full lockdown even though two of us are shielding. It's down to us to stay away from others and when we do come into contact, we both take various precautions.

I'm still allowed out for certain medical appointments.
I've had GP and community nurses attend my home.

My children are allowed out. They are even allowed to go and do some shopping etc. When they come and talk to one of us, they social distance. They wash hands and clean up after themselves, as do we.

It's acknowledged that parents who have to shield their child, still have to go to work.

I really feel for those who are being forced wrongly to stay at home. I've been outside myself for a couple of walks and my medical team are more than aware of this. I didn't get a lecture, I didn't get told I was selfish, I didn't get told I should be dis-owned, nothing. Everyone has been extremely supportive. because they understand. You cannot remain inside forever. And when I mentioned that I had sex with someone who doesn't live here, all gp said was oh, did the condom break.

If you can reach her I would say something to the girlfriend's mum - she may not know there is someone vulnerable in his house, or that you had set limits on his activities. Surely if she knew about his sister's heart condition she would have acted differently.

I would say when the son comes home he needs to strip off and shower at once, and then stay away from his sister for a week. Try to think of this as a problem to be solved, and not an act of potential negligent homicide towards his sister. Teenagers are self-absorbed and impulsive and he probably did not enjoy a minute of his time at his girlfriend's house worrying about what he had done.

Wonder how @popsydoodle4444 will write the newspaper piece. That's usually what happens, isn't it?

Lazy ass reporter comes along, doesn't bother to engage afterwards, and then oh look at that, some trashy paper has been trawling again 🤣

Granddaughter sneaked out to boyfriends house and is now not allowed back home as sister is shielding. And she's 22 so really old enough to have known better.

Sprockermum well hopefully your granddaughter is happier now.

That one in 400 datum comes with warnings all over it about being from only a small pilot sample (for a bigger more robust study) with v. wide confidence intervals. Funny how nobody referencing it included that little factoid.

NearlyGranny Stop being such a drama queen.

Funny how nobody referencing it included that little factoid.

Because most people with half a brain cell will realise that it’s a stat based on a sample!

canigooutyet
You think the OP is a journalist just planting a story ?
Oh no
I feel stupid for bothering to reply.
But you would think if genuine popsydoodle4444 would tell us what she decided.
Or perhaps her dd, who is immunocompromised is unwell.