Nothing less sexy...

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AIBU in thinking there is nothing less appealing than a fully grown man playing computer/console games?

There are so many threads on Mumsnet moaning about these manchildren and I just can't get the image of a slightly tubby, sweaty, hairy man sitting in the dark, surrounded by crisp packets, hunched over a screen swearing at whoever is on the other end....yuck, right?

Is there ever a thread on here that mentions computer gaming where the OP doesn't feel neglected due to it?

Presumably because no one mentions it unless they have a problem.

A friend's DH is into cycling. He's out doing 50, 60, 100km every other day. He does very little around the house and with the kids.
My DH has lots of hobbies (including a bit of gaming), but does plenty and always has time for me and the kids.
It's more about the person than the hobby.

My friends husband is a professional athlete and chills out playing an hour or so of FIFA. He couldn't be any less like the OPs slobby stereotype.

I'm afraid I agree with you OP....if it's an outdated view, so be it, but I too cannot believe the number of grown adults (any gender) with families and responsible jobs who sit over computer games.

Such games are the normal for small children and teenagers seem to get hooked on them, but adults? No, you should have grown out of such things by now. I have never, ever played a computer game in my life and never shall. I also have an issue with the games I see youngsters playing which involve endless violence, killing people or monsters or whatever. I also think games desensitise the player to reality, and promote intense competitiveness in an unhealthy way.
I have never ever seen a game which, for instance, involves nothing more than a pleasant walk down a virtual country lane to look at the scenery (and without accompanying noise/music and so on).

Yes, I'm clearly old-fashioned, out of touch and out of step with the modern generation. Fine....

@deydododatdodontdeydo I think that sums it up quite nicely "it's more the person than the hobby"

Perhaps men could stereotype the same way? Is there anything less sexy than a woman in lounge wear, bra less, uncombed hair and unshaven, surrounded by coffee and walnut cake spending hours and hours on mumsnet?

“I have never ever seen a game which, for instance, involves nothing more than a pleasant walk down a virtual country lane to look at the scenery“ - I’ve also never seen a film or read a book which involves nothing more than a pleasant walk down a virtual country lane, because that sounds boring as hell unless you’re actually doing it.

This again.

Nothing less clever than an OP deliberately designed to antagonise with no consideration of nuance...

@Lndnmummy lol lol lol

@WanderingMilly, an incredibly narrow perception of gaming.

An examples for you with walking down a country lane : Everybody's gone to rapture.

Games have grown with the audience and I see no difference between them and books. They can be as challenging and cerebral as you want them to be. It is so bloody insulting when people say they are all for small children.

It’s funny as I think of gamers as really rake thin skinny men with no style clothes or hair wise opposite to you op

@Lndnmummy I wish I had some walnut cake

Perhaps men could stereotype the same way? Is there anything less sexy than a woman in lounge wear, bra less, uncombed hair and unshaven, surrounded by coffee and walnut cake spending hours and hours on mumsnet? I knew I was doing something wrong, must add coffee and walnut cake to the shopping list. Thanks for the tip

@BluebellForest836 Haha I can see that stereotype too! Like McLovin from Superbad

I agree that those I know do fit that stereotype and I wouldn’t like it if DH did that. It seems to lend itself to being extremely sedentary, eating junk food, drinking energy drinks and avoiding housework

It’s probably as sexy as a wife who spends all night on mumsnet 🤣

YANBU, it just seems so teenage! For full disclosure my dh has a PlayStation and liked it when he was younger although he doesn’t play on it now, our sons have it upstairs.

Both me and my DH are PS4 gamers. We only play it when our daughter has gone to bed and we are not working. We play together in the same room and I would rather do this than watch some shite on TV or go out getting drunk.
I don't see the issue with it tbh as long as it's not interfering with family time, however my daughter has switch and sometimes on the weekend we all play that together. We are a family of gamers.

I’m female, 60, retired now but was an accountant and I love gaming. I also have lots of other interests and do my share of the housework - what I don’t do is watch mind numbing, television.
I don’t see why gaming is so despised but other hobbies are deemed acceptable?

Rude! My partner and I both game, quite lot, together and separately. That description doesn't fit him at all.

But we don't have to find each others hobbies sexy!

I would like to add that me and my DH are not fat sweaty junk eating slobs either. We eat healthy and keep fit. We wind down with a glass of gin playing games. 😊

The problem with the OP was that it conflated two completely different things.

Yes, I’d agree there’s nothing less sexy than the type of man described in the second paragraph. I wouldn’t put up with that in a partner.

However that has nothing at all to do with grown men who are gamers. Many grown men who are gamers are perfectly able to regulate themselves and time spent on their hobby and they balance their gaming perfectly well against other aspects of themselves, family, relationship and household.

Once or twice a week my DH plays Minecraft. He's spent years on his world there and uses it as a kind of therapy, if he's having a bad mental health day. It helps him in the same way that spending a day reading in bed helps me. Neither are sexy, not everything we do has to be sexy... I do find it quite sweet though!

I wonder how some on here would feel about a man saying ‘yuck’ about a ‘slightly tubby’ woman??

@WanderingMilly I think you should wander back to the 1950s.