Nothing less sexy...

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AIBU in thinking there is nothing less appealing than a fully grown man playing computer/console games?

There are so many threads on Mumsnet moaning about these manchildren and I just can't get the image of a slightly tubby, sweaty, hairy man sitting in the dark, surrounded by crisp packets, hunched over a screen swearing at whoever is on the other end....yuck, right?

YABU.

When you're playing a game you're not trying to be sexy... You're playing to relax and have fun! My partner is a gamer (I play too), he doesn't neglect us, he works hard! It's a stereotype that is definitely not true for all gamers!

Horses for courses.

I’d rather shit in my hands and clap than be with a MAMIL.

DH doesn’t even game. But it’s weird that you think that must be how gamers are because nobody comes on and starts a thread about how his/her DH games a bit but it’s fine and doesn’t encroach on family life.

I've never seen the attraction of gaming as an adult. To me it would be like cracking out all my Actionman toys from the loft and having a play with my mates on the lounge floor, I'm sure they'd all think that's a bit weird. I've grown up and moved on! Sure each to their own, I have some friends who spend hours playing, it's never interested me much after my teenage years.

I don't agree that there is a stereo type but I would be turned off a date if they said they enjoyed gaming.
I can't rationalise why. Maybe I feel that they are somehow juvenile or maybe because I have never enjoyed gaming that I know we wouldn't share that interest. I'd feel the same way about someone who feels the need to drink often or smoke or doesn't eat healthily or watches trashy TV.
My DH was into sci fi (not in a big way) when we first met and I found that slightly off putting. Weird I know but we all operate on some level subconsciously and these are social clues on whether we would fundamentally get on.

I agree if they are like the stereotype you describe.I think you're very brave to be posting on aibu about it though

I find playing computer games and watching endless TV and talking about either topic turn offs.

It’s a total turn off for me. Dh is 35 and turns into a whiny teenager. It’s quite pathetic.

YABVU

Nothing less sexy than a woman who spends all her life on mumsnet yuck

(I'm a gamer, also hold down an important job and doing a second degree)

YANBU.

I game, dh doesn't. And I've managed to bring up another generation of gamers. So proud! for me.

Depends on what generation you are from? I imagine it will be a normal part of many young adult's life now.
I play myself badly now and again. I didn't grow up playing a console at near 40.

There was a thread on here a while back where a woman's husband told her he was sick of seeing her knitting because it wasn't sexy. People quite rightly were on the woman's side and called the husband a nasty piece of work. I'm not sure why someone playing video games is being viewed differently.

Nothing wrong. We all have hobbies. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean the other person shouldn't go it.

My dp is a gamer and I encourage his interest because I love him. He certainly does not fit your horrible stereotype. He’s tall, dark and very handsome, not overweight, always smells nice. Yeh he likes to munch crisps while he plays so what and he only plays once our dd is asleep.
He doesn’t go out drinking or playing sport, a very hands on dad and if he wants his bit of escapism so what. I’m fed up of people bashing gamers, all the nice men I know are gamers. It’s a relatively cheap hobby with Xbox games pass he can play what he wants really!

DH and I game together, gaming and board games are our favourite pass time.

He doesn't drink or spend loads on wasteful things, he's a brilliant father and husband. If he wants to play every now and then in the evening until 1am I don't mind

He just can't complain when I've starfished across the bed when he comes up!

Not sure why it's so different to writing on mumsnet.

It depends if you are on MN as a hobby or to kill time whilst commuting or killing time at work between 2 calls...

burnoutbabe
so what are you doing on MN then?

He doesn’t go out playing sport

That's what I find very unattractive, but each to their own.

I find my DH sexy, even when hes playing his Xbox.
He plays with our children, goes to work, does lots round the house, does the food shopping.
I'm in love with him and very happy. Him having a few hours to himself a week to play his game while i read a book next to him is fine.
I'd rather listen to him talk about him game than football. I have no interest in either, but find his games less dull.

@bee222 Well now you know. Get onto the Ann Summers website now and get it rectified

YABU and rather stereotypical. Try and use your imagination more if it doesn’t hurt to much. ;)

Luckily I really do have the best of everything wrapped up in the ideal man for me. He’s cerebral with a powerful intellect, great at sex but also loves being cosy and snuggling, works very hard and makes good money but doesn’t actually want much so he saves well. But he’s not miserly in any way and is very generous so I get to spend on beautiful things that I love. He likes gaming, sure, but he’s also very attentive to me. He’s a great cook and enjoys cooking even more than I do. He’s also more fastidious than me (I can get frustrated with the relentlessness of the minutiae of domestic drudgery) so does his fair share of cleaning and keeping things tidy. He was an independent professional man for years before we met so he does his own ironing...I could go on but you get the idea...so it would be grossly unfair to cast him as a grubby, lazy, unintelligent man child just because he happens to do some gaming!

Well, nothing wrong with having fun gaming, my partner goes (used to) to his brothers and they play occasionally, me and sil do other things we enjoy. If he had his own console and spend a little each day doing something he enjoyed I wouldn't mind. I don't find it 'attractive' but me sitting at my sewing machine probably isn't!
If he spending alotnof time playing games does give me 'manchild' vibes though and I absolutely wouldn't tolerate them spending excessive amounts of time on there like some men do.
Also, those little battle toy games give me the shudders more.
Also, to a p.p, my partner is a fisherma and I absolutely do find it attractive. He passionate about it, enjoys the outdoors, it's a form of exercise, he enjoys nature. A mature hobby so I find that manly and not boyish.

Is this your partner you’re talking absolutely op? Not every gamer is like that.

My dh enjoys gaming from time to time, as do my brothers. All fully grown responsible, hardworking adult males who just like having a laugh.
All the kids in my family love it when we all get together and they all have some gaming tournaments with their uncles (and aunts occasionally)